politician Jefferson has a famous saying: "When you are angry, count to ten before you speak, and if you are very angry, count to one hundred first."
Anger is a human instinct, and not being angry is a human ability.
If there is no special reason, no one should want to be angry, but they often get angry and can't help it.
Today, I want to tell you a way to not be angry: 5 laws of late.
01
Before opening, speak one minute later.
Disease enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth. There are really many things that can offend people as soon as you open your mouth.
You want to express your happiness, but you don’t take care of the other party’s worries about losing money; you speak loudly, but you don’t consider that everyone should be quiet for a while and rest; you want to refute others, but you don’t expect that others are talking vigorously, but you haven’t finished speaking, and your opinions are not expressed clearly.
responded with a word, and refuted habitually, it was because you were angry and it was also because you were "angry" to others, adding fuel to the fire.
My cousin is divorced and gets angry when she talks about her ex-husband. The second aunt said casually: "You are only in your thirties. What's the point of losing a man? Life is nothing? There are men all over the world, so you just hang yourself from a tree."
The second aunt's words made my cousin even more angry. The whole world was filled with harsh sounds. When the second aunt saw that her cousin refused to listen to the advice, she became angry and said, "It's a waste of time to support you."
a lot of things, and I won’t say it after a little later.
02
Before anger, the expression is one minute later.
When we interact with people, we will observe our words and expressions.
People's eyes are like a mirror that can reflect the appearance of others. But your eyes cannot see your face.
You are angry. Not only will your face feel uncomfortable, but other people's eyes will also feel uncomfortable.
There is a woman who wants to jump into the river because her husband scolded her for a few words. She climbed onto the willow tree by the river and suddenly found someone by the river ecstatic - she discovered the reflection of the beautiful woman.
The woman touched her face and was so happy that she naturally didn't want to jump into the river.
Anger is useless, you can only mess up the relationship and make others angry. Take a minute to adjust your face, and smile and it’s okay.
03
The conclusion is one minute later before judgment.
Why are you angry? Because the decision you just made was denied; the direction you were going was wrong; you were embarrassed to correct your mistakes.
You want to evaluate a person, but it is not accurate enough, which makes the other party feel uncomfortable. Therefore, you will feel uncomfortable, but what you say is the water you poured out.
There are also some parents who keep saying, "You are not promising when you grow up; it depends on your ability, how can you support your parents in your old age?" They always draw conclusions for their children at will, which makes them angry and still hate when they grow up.
Song Dynasty , a scholar climbed over the wall and entered someone else's house and dated a woman he liked.
The woman's parents were furious when they found out. He pulled the scholar to the county government office and reported it.
magistrate Ma Guangzu Seeing this, he thought for a while, and then asked the scholar to write a poem: A poem that crosses the wall and hugs his virginity.
The scholar writes when he holds his pen, and his literary talent is so beautiful that the woman’s parents appreciate it very much. Seeing this, Ma Guangzu persuaded the woman's parents to adopt the scholar as his son-in-law.
Ma Guangzu turned bad things into good things and wrote a poem to record this matter : "A good man, it's okay to be a wife."
Don't "find" at will, leave room for everything, this is great wisdom.
If you want to make a conclusion, don’t say it too sure. If so, it is the truth, but it will still be overturned over time and needs to be modified.
If you say something dead, you can't turn around and often feel sulky.
04
Before glaring, the eyes were one minute later.
We have this catchphrase: I get angry when I see you.
Why do you get angry when you see others? In fact, there is something wrong with your eyes, staring at other people's shortcomings and looking for some annoying places.
One day, my mother burned the rice.I feel that the fire is coming in my eyes, not because the rice is valuable, but because I worry that the rice cooker will be ruined and will cause a series of trouble.
Seeing this, the mother stayed silently, like a child who made a mistake.
Later I found out that my mother has been in her hometown, using a firewood stove and an electric rice cooker. This is the first time. It was because I didn't have the patience to teach my mother some methods.
Director Ang Lee once said this: "I became a father and a husband, which does not mean that I will naturally be respected by others. I still have to work hard to earn their respect for me every day."
Looking at people from a different perspective, it will be much better immediately. You will find that everyone has difficulties and there are reasons for making mistakes. Once you see it clearly, you won’t be angry anymore and give others a chance to correct your mistakes.
05
Before sending WeChat, your finger is one minute late.
In the Internet era, many "angry words" are on mobile phones.
When relatives and friends chat, some people also lose their temper, or criticize and educate them hard about something.
Seeing relatives and friends get angry, it will be hard for you to say, and you may even break off contact with relatives and friends because of this.
For the sake of the little things on the Internet, it is really not worth it. After all, it is a virtual world. Although it is closely related to life, it cannot replace life.
When you want to send a message to whom, wait a moment, maybe don't send some messages. Some emoticons can be removed.
, especially group chats, if you can’t help it, the angry people are a large number and will establish a negative image for yourself.
For example, if your lover sends a message to question you, don’t reply immediately, think about what to ask? Next, you know what to do. After all, everything has its source.
As Mo Yan said: "The person who truly loves you will scold you when you forget to reply to his text message." The person who is angry with you is the person who truly loves you.
06
Many people lose their happiness and like to be angry because they are too sensitive. A word or comment made you angry for a month. This is very boring.
people will have a lifetime. If you get angry, you will have less time to be happy; if you curse, you will have less time to be quiet.
Being angry cannot solve any problem, why bother?
Take your time, relieve your breath and your life will be smooth.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
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