"Eighteen brides, eighty-year-old, pale hair and red makeup. The mandarin ducks are in pairs of nights, and a tree of pear blossoms presses against the crabapple."
This is a poem written by the great ancient poet Su Dongpo , who wrote to his friend Zhang Guang. Because the latter sentence is full of interest, it has been widely circulated in later generations, and it has the taste of teasing "Old cows eat tender grass".
No matter when, many people can’t figure it out that marriage should not only be of equal status, but also have to be of similar age. Why do there still have young girls who choose to marry an elderly person?
In 2012, something like this happened in Hunan. A 26-year-old girl Zhang Feng married a 71-year-old man named Wen Changlin. After marriage, they had a son.
So, 10 years have passed, is she doing well?
Zhang Feng was born in a peasant family in Ningxiang, Hunan Province. She is the third child and has an older brother and sister. Because the family was not in good condition, Zhang Feng dropped out of school after finishing junior high school.
After dropping out of school, in order to reduce the burden on the family, Zhang Feng followed his parents to learn farming, going out early and returning late every day, and his life was very difficult.
As the saying goes, "There will be unexpected changes in the sky, and people will be lucky and good luck at any time." A family that is already poor, God made a big joke with them again.
000, Zhang Feng's father suffered from a severe stroke due to years of hard work and eventually became paralyzed in bed.
The family lost the most important pillar and had to bear his monthly medical expenses. Zhang Feng's family soon became penniless and had to be barely buried.
This year, Zhang Feng was 13 years old.
says that "there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time." The brother and sister soon became tired of taking care of their father. The two finally left the house and went out to work.
Not long after, the brother met a girl outside. The two reached the age of marriage. The mother borrowed everything and completed the marriage for her son, but the family became heavily in debt and was heavily in debt. A life like
lasted for two years, and Zhang Feng's sister also found a man from another place, and she rarely went home after marrying her.
In 2002, when Zhang Feng's family was completely in poverty, someone in the village suggested that they go to find the barefoot doctor Wen Changlin.
This is the first time that Zhang Feng and Wen Changlin met. Zhang Feng recalled: "The first time I saw him, I felt familiar with him, and I was very kind to him."
Wen Changlin was 60 years old, warm-hearted in ancient Taoism, and was a very famous doctor in the local area. Seeing that the Zhang family was in poverty, but life was at stake, he never thought about collecting medical fees.
In 2003, on Zhang Feng’s 16th birthday, Wen Changlin specially bought her some pastries to celebrate her birthday, which made Zhang Feng very moved.
Not long after, at Zhang’s mother’s insistence, Zhang Feng went out to work. She and a few young sisters went to Guangdong to work in a local factory.
In addition to sending money to home every month, he takes care of his father's work to his mother. She couldn't bear to pay for the trip home, so she didn't go home for three years.
Until 2006, when bad news came from home, my father fell from the bed to the ground, his condition worsened sharply, and he passed away soon after.
After her father passed away, Zhang Feng rushed back to her hometown. After cooking for her father's funeral, the factory personnel began to urge her that if she didn't go to work, she would lose the job.
has no education or skill. Zhang Feng was reluctant to give up this job with a low salary, and her mother refused to let her give up. In desperation, after her father's first seventh year, she hurried back to Guangdong.
But " leaks and rains all night ", such days did not last long. Half a year later, my mother fell ill again, and Zhang Feng was anxious.
When asked about her mother's condition, doctor Wen Changlin asked someone to send her a message to give her a temporary peace of mind. Finally, after Wen Changlin's careful conditioning, Zhang Feng's mother successfully overcomes the difficulties.
In 2012, Zhang Feng ended his working life in Guangdong and returned to his hometown, Ningxiang, Hunan. More than half a month later, perhaps because of the soil and water, she suddenly fell ill and had a fever. At that time, Wen Changlin was also the one who treated Zhang Feng.
Because the treatment cycle is very long, Zhang Feng gradually developed feelings for him while getting along with him. And there was another idea in my mind, that is, Wen Changlin had taken care of her parents for six or seven years, so he had the idea of marrying him.
When Zhang Feng first told Wen Changlin about this idea, Wen Changlin was shocked. Although his wife had passed away for many years, Wen Changlin still refused. The decision of
was strongly opposed by Zhang Feng's mother at that time. Her mother kept doing work for her, believing that the difference between the two was too big, and it was impossible.
But after the idea of marrying Wen Changlin rose in Zhang Feng's mind, it could no longer be gone, but instead became more and more intense.
Zhang Feng started to do ideological work for her mother. She said: "I marry him because I want to repay his kindness, and the other is that we do have feelings during the process of getting along."
In Zhang Feng's eyes, Wen Changlin is not only the benefactor of his family, but also a good man with reliable character, gentle and considerate character.
Later, after Zhang Feng's continuous persuasion, her mother finally agreed to the marriage. But in the outside world, the discussion about Zhang Feng and Wen Changlin has never stopped.
, especially Zhang Feng's brother and sister, after hearing about this, they all rushed back to their hometowns and began to look for a boyfriend to introduce to their sister, but they were rejected by Zhang Feng.
In 2012, Zhang Feng was 26 years old and Wen Changlin was 71 years old.
On the date they first met, the two walked into the Civil Affairs Bureau hand in hand and got married.
The staff of the Civil Affairs Bureau at that time were very surprised and had asked Zhang Feng about his decision privately. Zhang Feng always insisted that Wen Changlin was his husband.
In the year after marriage, Zhang Feng gave birth to a son for Wen Changlin. Wen Changlin, who had a son in his old age, regarded his son as his own treasure and could not hold him anymore, so he put him on his lap and told him the story of himself and his wife Zhang Feng.
A decade of marriage life, Zhang Feng and Wen Changlin have always lived in harmony, and have basically never had much quarrel. Every day, they are just taking care of their children and taking care of their older husbands.
In 2015, a reporter learned about the story of Zhang Feng and Wen Changlin, and rushed to Yiping Village, Ningxiang County, Changsha City, Hunan Province, intending to interview the two.
A small low bungalow is Zhang Feng's home. An old man with gray hair and beard in the yard was sitting on a chair holding a three-year-old doll, and a woman in her thirties was feeding the child.
The first feeling of the reporter is that this is a typical warm picture of three generations living together and having a happy family.
In the reporter's interview, Zhang Feng's face always had a smile. She emphasized to the reporter many times: "He is Wen Changlin, my husband."
Zhang Feng's cousin lives near her home. He told the reporter: "My Feng and I live very close to each other. We have been in close contact over the years. The couple respect each other and are very loving."
Later, after the development of the short video platform, Zhang Feng also learned to shoot videos. People can always see the scene of three people walking together with her child on her back, holding Wen Changlin's hand. Wen Changlin sometimes picks the flowers on the roadside and gently pins them on his wife's hair.
021, Zhang Feng and Wen Changlin's family of three were invited to the stage of the program " Lu Yu has a date for ". When facing the audience across the country, Wen Changlin took out two letters from his arms, one for his wife Zhang Feng and the other for his son Jingtian.
"Dear Fengmei, good wife, thank you for your care for my second half of my life. You are hardworking, kind, virtuous, simple, don't love money, don't pursue profits, and have the best traditional virtues. I respect you and love you. You and Jingtian are the greatest happiness I have in this world. I am particularly content. I hope you can have a happy life and live freely..."
"Your son Jingtian, you must believe that the combination of father and mother is in line with moral norms and laws and regulations. Don't worry about rumors from outside.Maybe one day, dad is not by your side, but you must love your mother, respect your mother, be filial to your mother, and be the most reliable little man around you..."
says that love does not matter whether it is age, borders, faith or race. In Zhang Feng and Wen Changlin, we seem to have got the answer: "Love is precious, everything can be abandoned. "
However, the company of the old couple will definitely not last long. Zhang Feng and Wen Changlin still ushered in the moment of separation and death.
After May 2022, Wen Changlin's health began to decline. A minor illness caused him to dying, and eventually developed into a fatal disease.
In the following months, Zhang Feng stayed by his side and took care of him meticulously. Accompany him.
After her husband passed away, Zhang Feng was very sad and sad. Later in an interview with reporters, she said with tears: "I am very happy to have been able to go through these 10 years of wonderful time with him, hoping to get everyone's understanding. In the days to come, I will make good money to raise my and his children. ”
Love may not last forever, or it may not be together until old age, because as long as you have it, it can be endless and precious, and it will be unforgettable...
