Author: Mo Xiaobei
01: Introduction
Believe in you and me, as well as the people around you, you will meet people who are talking around you. They obviously don’t say anything but don’t say it directly, and they have to say a lot of nonsense first.
When you ask him what's wrong, he will still stammer and say that it's okay. Is
really nothing?
In fact, it is not only that you don’t believe it, but even he himself doesn’t believe it. The reason why he didn't say it was mainly because he was embarrassed, but he didn't know that doing so would only make the problem worse.
If you have any problems, just say it directly. There is no need to beat around the bush. Only by saying it out earlier can others know your difficulties and try their best to help you end the problem, so that you will no longer be worried.
But if you don’t say that others don’t know and want others to guess, they just won’t have good results.
If you are short of money and ask the other party to borrow money, then tell your own demands. Whether you want to say it is your own business, and whether you want to lend it to you is someone else's business.
You don’t even say it. How can others solve it for you? Even if you want to lend it to you, I’m afraid there is no way.
Half of my life has passed and I finally understand that a person’s highest emotional intelligence is not about going around with others, but about saying things directly.
As long as you say it, the problem will be solved. If you don’t say it, it will be difficult to solve it.
02: Don’t talk, don’t go around
The reason why we like to go around till others is because we are embarrassed and feel that we have caused trouble to others.
Actually, it is not.
If the relationship between the two is very good and they can be sincere and sincere, there will be no problem.
You can find the other party when you are in trouble. If the other party provides you with help, you must keep it in mind. When the other party has difficulties, you must also help the other party.
Only in this way can each other's friendship last forever.
In life, there are nine out of ten things that are not satisfactory. Everyone will encounter one thing or another. Once you encounter something like this, the only way is to solve it.
If you can't solve it for the time being and want to solve it with help from others, then you have to say it out, and only by saying it out can the problem be effectively solved.
. Xiaoman has a very deep understanding of this.
Some time ago, Xiaoman's hotel encountered some difficulties and urgently needed some money to turn around. He thought about it and decided to borrow money from his good friend Wang Jun. He felt that only Wang Jun could help him.
Xiaoman brought his things to the place where Wang Jun lived. After he sat down, he did not mention the difficulties he encountered. When Wang Jun asked about it, he said that there was nothing he had to do, just come and sit down.
Not only did he say anything, Wang Jun did not force himself, and the two of them started drinking together. After a while, Wang Jun asked again. Xiaoman wanted to continue hiding, and Wang Jun was angry now.
He said to Xiaoman: "If you have anything, just say it. We have been in relationship for many years. Do you always go around the corner? If you don't say it, then forget it, I won't ask again."
After seeing Wang Jun angry, Xiaoman said: "There is something, but I'm embarrassed to say it. Since you said that, I'll say it. The restaurant has encountered some difficulties recently. I don't know if you can..."
Xiaoman was interrupted by Wang Jun before he finished speaking. He asked Xiaoman how much he used. When Xiaoman said the amount, Wang Jun transferred it to him without saying a word. After transferring
, Wang Jun said, "I thought it was a big deal. If you have any problems in the future, you can just tell me. Don't go around, our relationship doesn't need to be.
When Wang Jun finished speaking, Xiaoman nodded, and he also felt that it would be better to say something directly if you want to go around.
It is true that when people get along with each other, they may not seem so decent when making their own requests straightforward.
However, the world of adults is busy, so there is no need to spend so much time thinking about it.
People with good relationships will help you even if you do something a little inappropriate. People with bad relationships will not help you even if you do something appropriately.
03: Just say something, the relationship is better
In love, what men fear most is that they meet a woman they ask them to guess. If such a woman is wrong, she will be furious and it is particularly troublesome to get along with.
The woman that men guess is really hard to serve. We are not the roundworm in each other's belly, how can we guess?
My friend Xiao Zheng broke up with his girlfriend last month. Their life span was particularly short, and it was only one month.
I asked Xiao Zheng why he broke up, and Xiao Zheng said that he was really fed up. He could live several years less with such a girlfriend.
Every time I go out for dinner, my girlfriend doesn’t say what to eat, and always asks Xiao Zheng to guess. Once they go to have a spicy hot pot together, but as they eat, my girlfriend suddenly gets angry and gets up and leaves.
Xiao Zheng had to pay the bill immediately and chased him out. He asked his girlfriend why, but his girlfriend just didn't say it. Finally, his girlfriend was in a good mood at night and finally said it.
It turns out that my girlfriend thought that Xiao Zheng had put too many peppers for herself. After she said that, Xiao Zheng was really amused and crying. Just say how many peppers she wanted, just say it directly. As for this, can people guess it?
After spending a month together, Xiao Zheng couldn't stand it anymore. Although he still loved the other party, he still chose to break up.
A truly smart person knows the importance of having the right to say things directly. They know that instead of sulking, it is better to point out the problem directly.
Only in this way can we get along better and our relationship last longer.
Although boys cannot guess what girls think, sometimes if they are too "fake and reserved", they will often miss a good marriage.
So, in love, don’t get bored and let the other party rack their brains to guess.
Love, you must love it in the open.
04: Conclusion
Of course, what I said here is not to say that you are a "reckless man", say everything, and ignore anything.
People interact with people, use the power of thinking, and wisely present the views you want to express in front of the other side. If you need to continue to interact, your feelings will definitely be sublimated.
instead of talking nonsense like a "reckless man".
This is the correct "speak straight" if you have something to do.
For the rest of our life, I hope each of us can say something directly, because this will not only not cause internal injuries to ourselves, but will also let others know their demands quickly. Why not do it?
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