A survey on friendship was launched in the UK, with 2,000 adults. , a well-known psychology professor at Oxford University, Robin Dunbar, found that it takes about 11 times to develop from a "general friend" to a real friend, at least 3 hours and 4 minutes of interpersonal interaction each time, which takes about 34 hours in total.
, a netizen discussed this:
, Netizen 1:
, If you only say one thing, it is kindness,
, in fact, many times, when we deal with people, not only our appearance, but often go deeper, and discover the advantages and disadvantages of many people, and we are often willing to endure some harmless shortcomings.
The so-called human nature is inherently good. If we meet a kind person, we will be willing to deal with each other because you know that he will not cause much harm because he has the qualities of kindness.
Then, on the other hand, we are certainly unwilling to deal with evil people, of course evil will appear in many ways. If you feel uncomfortable with people, this usually has some evil quality in it. People seek benefits and avoid harm, and will get close to kind people.
In addition, integrity, courage, tolerance, etc. are also very important.
The three qualities of making friends are the most important to each other:
First, filial piety is the first
Filial piety is the first. If the other party cannot be filial to his own parents, then no matter how good he is to his friends, it is superficial. Therefore, if the other party is not filial, it is not worth dating.
Second, Responsibility
Only when you have responsibility can you be responsible. Such friends are definitely worth dating.
3, character
The most important thing in making friends is to look at character. Character is the most fundamental weight for being based on society. A person with good character has a kind, kind and sincere heart. You don’t have to worry about making friends with such people, and it feels very safe.
If a person does not have good character, he will even bring certain harm to his friends, so in the end he is loyal to his character.
or above are the three principles for making friends.
What kind of friends should not be friends with:
1. Those who are not filial to the elderly will not be friends with them. Regardless of whether parents have or not, they give us life, allowing us to listen to the world, observe the world, and transform the world, which is enough to make us grateful. A person always says that this is not good for his parents, and that is wrong. He is both petty and cares about taking care of his parents. He is trying hard to take care of his parents, and buying something is spending money. He is harsh on his parents. Can he be sincere to others?
2, regard money as more important than anything, don’t pay it. Such people will always be the first priority. There is a saying in rural areas: A penny will be thrown into the ground. That is to say, even a penny is seen. Making such friends is exhausted! When you go out for dinner, you invite him, and he feels at ease. Occasionally, he invites you, and his heartache is as if he is dead. I also think that I spend a few more yuan than you would ask for. You have no money in your hands for a while, so you borrow a few from him. He reminds you today and urges you to ask for it tomorrow. tired!
3, talk about right and wrong, one thing in person, one thing behind the scenes, one thing behind the scenes, no exchange. Such friends are hard to guard against. Today I kissed you like my sisters and brothers, and I turned around and said bad things about you. As the saying goes in the countryside: Call your brother in front of you and take the guy behind your back. Such friends are heartwarming.
4, don’t clean your hands and feet, like to take other people’s things, like to take advantage of others, don’t hand over them. If you make friends with such a person, you can't raise your head.
