"I'm too tired, physically and mentally exhausted, I want to divorce!"
Mr. Mei, a young man from Zhejiang, began to complain when he saw the media mediator, telling the difficulties of his life after marriage.
Facing Mr. Mei who was a little incoherent in excitement, the mediator suggested that he calm down for a while and then explain the situation in detail.
After persuading Mr. Mei to calm down, the mediator decided to ask Mr. Mei’s wife Xiao Jia, who was calm on the side, hoping that where did Xiao Jia know the conflict between the couple from the beginning.
Mr. Mei
"It's all my fault for being too beautiful" , Xiao Jia didn't say much, just a simple sentence.
This sentence made the mediator confused. Xiao Jia looked charming and fair-skinned and beautiful, but what does the conflict between husband and wife have to do with her beautiful appearance?
Beautiful Wife
Mr. Mei, a young man from Zhejiang, worked in Hangzhou in his early years. During his work, he met Xiao Jia, a Sichuan girl, through a friend's introduction.
Xiao Jia is young and beautiful. The two met Mr. Mei when they were fascinated by Xiao Jia's beauty when they first met. Then Mr. Mei embarked on Xiao Jia's fierce pursuit.
Xiao Jia has never shortage of suitors around him because of his outstanding conditions, so he did not refuse Mr. Mei's pursuit or did not clearly accept it. He just agreed to get along with him as an ordinary friend for a while.
During this period when the two got to know each other, Mr. Mei was very attentive to Xiao Jia. In order to please Xiao Jia, Mr. Mei even lent her money to buy her various gifts.
Xiao Jia was finally moved by Mr. Mei's sincerity. The two confirmed their relationship and soon they became husband and wife.
Xiao Jia
After Mr. Mei married his wife Xiao Jia, she became the object of envy for everyone around her. Everyone praised him for his good fortune and married such a beautiful wife.
When he first got married, Mr. Mei hugged the beauty and felt that he had become the winner in life.
Compared with Mr. Mei's pride, his wife Xiao Jia is extremely disappointed with her married life.
Xiao Jia and Mr. Mei are in love. Mr. Mei has always boasted about how rich his family is and guaranteed that she can live a life of food and clothing without worries.
It was precisely because of this that Xiao Jia agreed to marry Mr. Mei, but after getting married, Xiao Jia found that the conditions at Mr. Mei’s family were very average.
Although Xiao Jia was unwilling to accept it, the two had already obtained a marriage certificate and the marriage was not easy, so she had to choose to appoint her.
After they got married, they went to work for their own lives. After a while, Mr. Mei found that his wife had a hobby of chatting online, and she chatted until late at night every time.
At first, Mr. Mei felt that this was just a momentary novelty for his wife, and everything would be fine when the novelty passed.
However, soon Mr. Mei discovered that his wife not only did not restrain herself at all, but instead became more and more serious, often video chatting with others in front of him.
In order to calm his wife, Mr. Mei advised her many times, hoping that her wife would not be addicted to online chatting and take into account his feelings.
But every time this comes, Xiao Jia accused Mr. Mei of not trusting her. She is just a normal chat and making friends. I hope her husband doesn’t think too much.
In order to maintain "trust" in his wife, Mr. Mei could only turn a blind eye to the conversation between her and netizens.
Until by chance, Mr. Mei saw the chat content between his wife and netizens, and he was no longer calm.
wife’s chat history
One day, Mr. Mei came home from get off work and his wife was taking a shower. When he had nothing to do, he sat in front of the computer to browse the web.
Just happened to be my wife's QQ was online at the time. Looking at the flickering messages, driven by strong curiosity, Mr. Mei clicked on the chat information between his wife and netizens.
didn't know if you didn't read it. When you saw it, you were shocked. One of the netizens sent his wife a message full of ambiguous words.
More importantly, the wife’s reply does not seem to reject the ambiguousness of this netizen, and the content of the conversation between the two is very intriguing.
Mr. Mei looked through the past chat records and found that there were far more than this netizen who chatted with his wife, but also other netizens of the opposite sex.
Many people send their wives with very ambiguous words such as "Dear", "I miss you"..., which made Mr. Mei very angry.
The wife came out after taking a shower that day. Mr. Mei asked his wife with confidence who these netizens of the opposite sex were, and why the chat content was so ambiguous?
Unexpectedly, my wife just explained lightly, "All ordinary chat friends have no special relationships."
As for what seemingly ambiguous words in the chat, Xiao Jia also explained that they are basically "online terms". There is no need to make a fuss.
Xiao Jia explained the ambiguous chat with the opposite sex in an understatement. After explaining, Xiao Jia not only did not feel that he was wrong, but began to blame her husband.
She yelled that her husband had violated her privacy rights and peeked at her chat information without her permission. This behavior is very despicable.
Mr. Mei, who was already at a weak low at home, suddenly became difficult to defend himself. He explained that he did not see it intentionally but was unintentionally, but his wife still refused to give in.
In the end, Mr. Mei promised not to read his wife’s chat information privately in the future and solemnly apologized to his wife. This matter came to an end.
Mr. Mei fell in love with his wife very humbly. It was obvious that his wife had made mistakes first, but he bowed his head and admitted his mistakes, which further encouraged Xiao Jia's arrogance.
After a while, Mr. Mei discovered his wife's abnormality again. This time he could no longer bear it and completely broke out.
The dispute between husband and wife
One night, Mr. Mei was sleeping in a daze. After waking up, he found that his wife Xiao Jia was still video chatting with netizens in the living room.
Mr. Mei quietly came to the living room and found that his wife was wearing exposed clothes and was flirting with a man in the video.
He pulled off the camera, pushed his wife away, and glanced at his wife's chat message again, and the flames of anger were ignited and he roared: "It's simply no bottom line"! .
The chat record between my wife and this netizen is simply unaware of it. In the face of the ironclad evidence, his wife Xiao Jia is still quibbling.
Xiao Jia argued that the other party was his work manager, that the two were normal friends, and some ambiguous chat messages were just jokes between colleagues.
This time, Mr. Mei no longer believed his wife's words. He said angrily to his wife that he must make things clear this time, otherwise the two of them would not have to continue getting along.
Seeing that her husband is so strong, Xiao Jia's anger also came up directly. The two quarreled that night. Mr. Mei insisted that his wife give her an explanation, and his wife insisted that she was innocent.
The next day, Mr. Mei ignored the relationship between husband and wife and directly asked for help from the media mediator, who wanted to expose his wife's infidelity in public.
Seeing the mediator arrive, Xiao Jia was not afraid at all and directly asked the mediator to read the chat information between her and netizens.
Xiao Jia admits that sometimes the other party has some ambiguous words when chatting, but this is the case on the Internet. Some words are just casually said to each other and there is no need to take them seriously.
As for the manager's words when she chatted with the manager, Xiao Jia said that she was the manager after all, and she couldn't afford to offend her, just listen to it as a joke.
My husband, Mr. Mei, disagrees with Xiao Jia's statement. Mr. Mei feels that even if he is a manager, he does not respect others during chatting, there is no need to continue chatting with him.
From the chat between my wife and her manager, you can feel that the wife is willing to be "flirted" by the other party, which is what Mr. Mei minds most.
Mr. Mei also said that this is not the first time he has discovered it. He has posted it many times before, but his wife never repents and always does what she wants.
Because of this, Mr. Mei decided not to tolerate it anymore, claiming that if the negotiation is not good this time, he would be prepared to divorce. This is the scene at the beginning of the article.
However, in Xiao Jia's opinion, all of her husband's behavior is a manifestation of lack of confidence. The fundamental reason is that she is too beautiful, so her husband is not confident.
Xiao Jia said that since she got married, her husband has been very sensitive. When she talks to the opposite sex in her life, her husband will ask the two about what they are talking about.
Because her husband minds making friends in real life, and she is married outside and has basically no friends in the local area, she saves her loneliness by chatting online every day.
I thought I wouldn't make friends outside and could chat with my friends on the Internet, but my husband, Mr. Mei, was still worried.
always secretly finds various reasons to check her chat records. She doesn't know how many times her husband has peeked at her chat records, and the two have quarreled a lot about this.
After hearing what his wife Xiao Jia said, Mr. Mei sneered and asked back: "Why am I like this? Don't you know it?"
A sentence from the husband, the mediator on the side felt as if he was in a fog. Is there something else between the couple?
After the mediator's questioning, Mr. Mei, who was originally unwilling to mention the past, told about his wife's previous events.
It turns out that Mr. Mei’s wife Xiao Jia did foot bath before she met Mr. Mei, and the two met in foot bath.
Mr. Mei fell in love with Xiao Jia at first sight, so she frequently went to Xiao Jia’s store to win Xiao Jia’s favor.
But in the process of pursuing Xiao Jia, Mr. Mei found that Xiao Jia not only had close relationships with him, but also had frequent contacts with other regular customers.
However, the two had not established a relationship at that time, so Mr. Mei was not inconvenient to care about it. However, I learned from friends that there were many people pursuing Xiao Jia, some of whom were very close to Xiao Jia.
Although Mr. Mei finally laughed to the end and hugged the beauty, he was still worried about his wife's many suitors before marriage.
In order to allow your wife to live a good life with her after marriage, Mr. Mei and her wife agreed before marriage to let her completely define a relationship with her previous suitors and adapt to her life as a wife.
Wife Xiao Jia also did the same and deleted many suitors before marriage, but shortly after marriage, Mr. Mei discovered that his wife was still in contact with those who were pursuing her before marriage.
asked his wife afterwards and found out that after she deleted the other party, the other party added her contact information, so she had no choice.
The wife's words "There's no way" made Mr. Mei not say much, but the chat between his wife and her manager was too ambiguous, and he couldn't stand it anymore.
In order to prove his innocence, Xiao Jia asked the mediator to call the manager she was chatting with to ask clearly about the situation.
After Xiao Jia dialed the phone, he heard Xiao Jia's voice. The manager's tone was ambiguous, but the mediator took the phone and the other party refused to speak again because the signal was not good.
Xiao Jia angrily scolded the manager for his frivolous words on the phone, causing her husband to suspect her now, making her unable to face her family in the future. The manager
just apologized and promised not to harass her life in the future.
Based on the purpose of demolishing a temple instead of breaking a marriage, the mediator felt that Mr. Mei and his wife's marriage was not at the point where they had to divorce.
The main reason for the conflict between the two is that the couple distrust each other, which leads to the deepening of the conflict.
With the help of the mediator, Mr. Mei agreed to trust his wife more in the future. His wife Xiao Jia also agreed to focus on the mediator's family in the future and reduce unnecessary online dating.
Adults should understand that marriage and love have exclusive sex . Once a romantic relationship is established, you should naturally keep a distance from other opposite sexes, otherwise it will be difficult for the partner to feel safe.
The so-called "sense of security" is not exclusive to women. In married life, the man also needs the woman to bring him this "sense of security".
Maintaining the minimum "sense of boundaries" between the opposite sex after marriage is a respect for the partner and a self-respect for one's own self-respect, so every married person should remember it in mind.
