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Starting from scratch, it really requires courage, selfless dedication from your heart, but what you get is endless sadness. It is said that mother and son are connected, but I can't feel a trace of warmth...
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I am destined to depend on my husband for my life in this life.
doesn't want to admit it, but reality is in front of you.
Each piece, one by one, all slap in the face.
I am only 55 years old, but I look like a 60-year-old aunt.
I dare not look in the mirror and dare not tell others what happened in my home.
The once beautiful and dancing me has long been strangled with my son's chewing.
I can't imagine how I survived the 5 years after retirement.
I am content to say that my son is grateful to us.
It’s a pity that I raised an ungrateful wolf. I don’t know how to feel sorry for my parents. I just want to empty our family’s foundation.
Because of my son's incompetence, my daughter-in-law is picky about us and doesn't take it seriously at all.
so that now, my son and my daughter-in-law and I have reached a point where we are incompatible.
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Have a son and don’t have a son.
My husband was so angry that he cursed at home, saying that his son was our enemy in his previous life.
said that this life is specifically about us collecting debts.
I wiped my tears, and I couldn't say anything.
After years of trouble, I completely gave up on my son.
When he was a child, his father beat him and scolded him, but I still protected him.
But now, I know that no matter how hard I protect him and love him, he doesn’t know how hard it is for his parents.
Think of all my son’s feelings for us.
I don’t even want to have any contact with my son’s family.
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In addition to asking for money, it can make you angry, and it can make you angry.
Others envy me for having a top student son, and envy me for being able to go to Beijing, the capital to "visit".
But I could only smile bitterly and couldn't be happy at all.
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The "glory" brought to us by my son has long been stripped away little by little with the cruelty of reality.
People often say that raising children to prevent old age, but now, the problem my husband and I are facing is that everything is zero.
I want to count on my son, but there is no door. As long as he doesn't come to chew us anymore, he will burn the incense.
However, my husband and I have made a decision.
That is to let the couple play any tricks, we will no longer give them a penny.
is not our cruelty, it is because you don’t know how my son treats us.
Fortunately, we all have pensions and some pension money.
Don't ask them for money, otherwise our lives will be even more miserable...
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I have been afraid too.
is afraid that one day I will get old and can’t move, no one cares if I don’t care.
But this fear cannot be cured at all, it can only be self-regulated and self-liberated.
My husband and I started exercising.
has begun a true retirement life.
As for my son, I don’t want to pay attention to it anymore.
don't know how it goes by as time goes by.
As the grandson grows up.
After they become fathers and mothers, will they wake up?
Nowadays, we just want to live in the present, seize the last afterglow of the sunset, and live for ourselves...
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both my husband and I were born in ordinary families.
can achieve everything today, and it is achieved through your own hard work.
When I met him.
He is still an inconspicuous mechanic.
and I was not much better, and I was working as a assembly line in a bedding factory.
At that time, the sewing machines were all pedaled, and whenever there was a fault, the mechanic had to come.
That is when my husband and I met.
After a while, we'll get better.
has nothing to choose from.
1 year after getting married, I gave birth to a son, and that was a treasure.
The whole family felt so distressed that even if I slap my ass, my dad would scold me.
let alone grandparents.
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It is in this kind of spoiling that my son grew up quietly.
Not only is he handsome, he is also a top student.
in our two big families, they are even more spoiled.
You need to buy a computer, and you need to buy a mobile phone.
uncle and aunt, aunt and uncle all lined up to pamper him.
As my son grew up, my husband and I also came to layoffs one after another.
With the help of relatives, I went to a school to do logistics.
My husband went into business and became his own boss.
It is precisely because of our experience that my son later chewed it again and again.
I thought he would become a filial and sensible child.
But everything is off track.
From the day he stepped out of the house to study.
My husband and I became his ATM.
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In addition to tuition and living expenses, the biggest expense is travel.
also did not fall behind.
4 years of college, he traveled to half of China.
even went abroad.
My husband and I are also very open-minded. There is nothing wrong with thinking about letting our children open their eyes.
As parents, I always want to give all the best to my son.
I want him to continue his postgraduate studies, but he refuses to listen.
At that time, he had already talked about a local girlfriend in Beijing, and the two were determined to get married.
After graduation, my son joined a state-owned enterprise through school recruitment.
The girl entered a foreign-funded enterprise through her family’s relationship.
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At that time, my colleagues and friends envied me and said that I would be worry-free with raising a son.
said that Beijingers have money, and I'm afraid they even have a house ready.
also teased me and asked me to prepare for my son to become a son-in-law.
I laughed and said it was impossible, my son was his own surname after all.
But the last name has not changed, but it is indeed a son raised by someone else.
I can't be so tolerant.
Because my husband and I have paid too much for them.
Even if they have a warm word, I am not so disappointed when I know to be grateful.
It’s a pity that things happened so real.
is still alive, do you think you are angry or not?
forced me, a cheerful person, to be a little depressed.
0 9
A year after my son graduated, he shouted that we would buy him a house and a car.
I also made fun of my husband and said that the price of raising a son has come.
My husband said that a house in Beijing is not something you can buy, or even if you smash old bones, you may not be able to afford it in full.
He is right. Any house in Beijing is worth millions, and I don’t know how many rings it opens.
My son wants to buy a house in Haidian District , and that can be a sky-high price.
can’t be bought without buying it.
We discussed with our son to see if we could buy a small, far-flung house first.
etc. have worked for a few years, and the conditions are good, and then change to a big house.
The son is unwilling to do so, saying that no one can save his girlfriend without a house.
After a few months of stalemate, the son asked his grandfather for help.
naturally we were scolded.
Grandpa took out the coffin book and wanted to buy a house in Beijing for his grandson.
naturally my husband and I didn’t dare to neglect, for fear of making my father angry.
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We start selling real estate.
Even stocks and funds were sold.
raised him 5 million, which is considered a down payment and decoration payment.
In the eyes of his son, his father is a boss and it is not short of money to buy a house.
But how could he know that his father's business had already plummeted.
means that I have settled some assets a few years ago.
can still come in handy now.
, but I can only buy a small house for him, not the full amount.
After all, it is impossible to monetize all of them, otherwise you will have to cut your losses.
can be seen that my son is a little disappointed.
I will make my husband public and don’t give my son too much vision, otherwise he will lose the motivation to struggle.
Let our son use provident fund loan to , which can relieve a lot of pressure.
this time he did as he did.
still made me feel relieved.
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The cow's body has gone in, and the last ox tail is not bad.
My husband is good at making a move and chose a SUV of more than 100,000 yuan for his son.
is his scooter, and his son is a little disliked.
, it is better to have it than not, and finally I accepted it happily.
My husband and I went to Beijing for a while to buy a house for him.
That girlfriend looks average and looks quite steady. She shouts with her uncle and aunt, and she also winks.
My son likes it, what else can we say?
No one dislikes us as foreigners, so what else can we be picky about?
all the ones you should buy, and the future in-laws will meet you.
0 is very skillful, saying that she only has one daughter in her family, and everything will be left to them in the future.
reassure us that we will never let us "intervene" if they can help in the future.
My husband laughed and my heart thumped.
1 2
The son finally got married after working for two years.
Grandpa was so happy that he said that his only wish was to hold his great-grandson.
The son kept agreeing, saying it was soon.
I thought it was a fool of my grandfather, but I didn’t expect that my daughter-in-law said she was about to give birth after only a few months of marriage.
I, a mom, couldn't see it.
My husband also teased me, saying that my son is really capable and can hide such a big thing.
I handed over the job in advance and was preparing to retire just to serve my daughter-in-law.
My husband has a business, so he will definitely not be able to leave.
I can't care so much, so I prepared blood pressure medicine for him, made dumplings, buns, and stewed meat.
There are too many worries, but for the sake of his son, he left his husband at home alone.
1 3
I rushed to Beijing without stopping, but my son said he was going to the confinement center.
I swallowed it back when I said it.
sips one by one, afraid that I would be tired, but when I paid the money, I pushed me in front.
To be honest, I don’t want to pay the sky-high 28,000 yuan in confinement.
can look at my son's smiley expression and my daughter-in-law's heavy body.
I gritted my teeth and swiped the card.
I thought it was easy, but I still had to serve my son.
Mom is long and short. I haven't felt that satisfaction for a long time. To be honest, I'm happy to be tired.
seems to be back to the scene when my son was a child.
He went home from school to do his homework.
Then, I asked me one after another: "Mom, have the meal been ready? I'm going to starve to death"...
That kind of happiness can never be returned.
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0After the grandson, my husband suddenly had appendicitis , and I want to rush back to take care of him.
But the daughter-in-law said that she couldn't deal with the child alone and insisted that I stay.
I secretly discussed with my son.
I want his mother-in-law to take care of him for a while, and when I go back to take care of his father, he will come back.
But the son didn't even think about it, just said that his mother-in-law had a headache and a back pain, so she would definitely not be able to take care of her.
Fortunately, my husband has many younger brothers and sisters, and he is the one who works with him and takes care of him.
My husband let me stay in Beijing with peace of mind and take good care of his baby grandson.
I have been here for three years. In these three years, I will be together with my family after going back during the Chinese New Year. .
The rest of the time was left to my son and his family.
My husband is busy making money by sticking out his butt, and he keeps together with him hungryly.
In his words, he should save some more money for his grandson when he can move.
but he didn't expect the subsequent changes, which made him feel cold.
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In those three years, my in-laws also visited me a lot.
I took care of my grandson and had to work in the kitchen. My son and daughter-in-law crossed their legs, and even my in-laws were watching TV and laughing.
Filled with wine and food, and my mouth was wiped away, all of them slipped away.
Just now, I politely wanted to help me with my work.
later became what it should be.
comes to visit once the weekend, saying that he looks at his grandson, but he has no hands.
Before leaving, the son pretended to be on the left and right, for fear that his father-in-law would be hungry.
I rolled his eyes a few times, he was just like nothing happened.
so angry that I didn't want to pay attention to him for several days.
1 6
In order to make me happy, my daughter-in-law kept saying that as long as my grandson went to kindergarten, his parents would take care of the pick-up and drop-off.
I was foolishly thinking it was true.
finally hoped that my grandson would be three and a half years old, and I thought I could send it to the kindergarten, so I felt so relaxed.
But my son discussed with me and said they wanted to have another child.
I was confused and almost fell over.
is not that I am so cute, but that I really don’t have the energy to carry it.
Since my grandson was born, I have made me tired like a dog.
I dare not think of doing this kind of day again.
See that I didn't spit, and they didn't dare to give birth.
The last second child was not generated, but he did not succeed.
daughter-in-law coaxed me again, saying that my grandson couldn't live without me, and that my grandmother was just grandmother and was closer than my grandmother.
I immediately understood what he meant.
daughter-in-law did not neglect either. She bought me an jade bracelet and said it would cost tens of thousands of yuan. Thank me for my care for them.
I am from Xinjiang . I have never seen any jade since I was a child.
As soon as the box was opened, I knew it was a parallel product.
either she was cheated or she used something worthless to coax me.
1 7
No matter what it is, I always have the idea of my heart. After all, it is given by my child, so it is not easy.
whispered a little, but I still loved them in my heart. After all, that was what I thought at that time.
My husband finally came to Beijing. The house is too small, so we still have to stay in a hotel.
Make your own house and spend it yourself.
I did not forget to ask him to bring his marriage certificate so as not to make a joke.
Just this matter, my sister and the others laughed for a while.
My husband humorously teased me, saying that he is in his fifties and is still fashionable.
A good family, and for the sake of their sons and grandchildren, they have to make a difference.
High age, he became a "love-loving bird".
After my husband left, my grandson also went to kindergarten.
seems simple, but I can buy groceries, cook, clean and wash clothes.
Fast day from morning to dark, and I can't be idle for a while.
son and daughter-in-law are very particular, and they change their clothes every day. Even the grandson's clothes have to be changed every day.
really treats me as a nanny.
The food became salty and lighter, and I always said it without caring about my feelings.
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Sometimes I feel so wronged that I wipe two tears on the balcony alone.
They always think it is natural for grandma to raise their grandson.
even my living expenses have never been given to me.
I don’t care about it. Young people have big money and spend a lot of money.
But at least there is a saying that is OK. This is true for the daughter-in-law, and the son he raised is also pretending to be deaf and dumb.
Sometimes I really want to kick his big ass hard.
hiring a child, there is no way to get bumped into it.
If the grandson feels uncomfortable, how ugly the daughter-in-law's face should be.
but I can't bear to see my son get angry with a splint.
so I swallowed all the qi I received.
1 9
What makes me angry the most is a birthday party.
In the past few years, I am not willing to get too close to my in-laws.
But that time, my daughter-in-law and her mother celebrated her 50th birthday, and my son insisted on letting me go.
I hesitated for a while and still forced to go.
When my in-laws saw me, they praised my son for being good. They pointed at the clothes on her and said that my son took her to the mall to buy it, which cost several thousand yuan.
also deliberately exposed the gold chain and gold bracelet, saying that the daughter was filial to her.
. I don’t know why, my heart hurts.
Looking at my bare neck and wrists, my heart gradually became cold.
Let’s look at the business banquet prepared by the daughter-in-law for her mother.
Just one cake cost more than four hundred.
son son, daughter-in-law and grandson also sang a happy birthday song to their in-laws.
What a warm picture.
It’s a pity that it doesn’t belong to me, I’m not even as good as a nanny.
took me with me, probably to show them the children.
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That night, I thought a lot and remembered my birthday party.
Boiled 4 eggs, two cold dishes, a bowl of small noodles , and then ate them in a hurry.
doesn't even have a cake.
compared to the table of my in-laws, mine is so shabby that I can’t get on the table.
I work so hard every day and have been taking care of my grandson for almost five years. Their attitude towards me and my in-laws is a world of difference.
is precisely because of these sad things.
I realized clearly that my weight in the hearts of both of them was simply not as good as a nanny.
This made me completely disappointed.
I used the excuse to go home to deal with some things on the house, and wanted to go home and rest for a while before coming over.
The daughter-in-law changed her face all of a sudden and rushed into the bedroom without saying anything.
grandson howled and cried.
My son said I would make trouble for them.
has been exported, so there is no possibility of retrieval.
I insisted on going home and rested for almost a month.
My husband asked me to go back first, saying that my grandson cannot be seen without anyone.
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I convinced myself that I should not be calculating with the children.
Just as I was about to go back without grudges, my daughter-in-law refused to let me go back.
"Mom, just have a good rest, don't come here, we have hired a nanny."
My son whirred on the phone.
Actually, I know his wife is angry and did this on purpose. It’s better if you don’t go to
, but after watching my grandson for almost five years, how can you bear to leave?
Sometimes I really miss him, so I want to talk to him about video calls, but I tried it many times and it was connected every time, but no one answered my phone number.
I know that all this was done by my daughter-in-law.
Because she took a grudge against me when I got home.
Fortunately, I am a big person, so if you don’t read it, just don’t read it. After all, I am just a grandma, and I am the mother.
I thought I could live a comfortable life with my husband for a few days.
But not long after, my son called.
"Mom, your grandson is about to go to elementary school and needs to have his own space. The house is too small and can't even put on a decent desk. We want to change to a big house, but the money is not enough. Ask my dad how much money there is in his family and support us a little."
Seeing that I didn't say anything, my son continued to fool him: "I bought a big house, and then you and my dad will come to Beijing to live with us."
I hummed for a long time: "I'll discuss it with your dad."
I knew that if there was no phone number, it would be no good if the phone number came.
I didn’t think so before, but since I spent five years in Beijing, I know this son so well. When I use you, my mouth feels like I’m smearing honey. When it’s useless, you’re nothing.
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My husband and I discussed it, and my husband comforted me and said that the property at home will be given to my son sooner or later.
said it would be better to give it early than to give it late, and you can get it well.
I was a little hesitant, but in the end I didn’t agree to give it all.
When my husband heard that it was for his grandson, he started raising money early.
money was transferred, but my son didn't say a word of thanks.
After changing to a large room, I never called us again.
That Spring Festival, my husband and I missed my grandson and wanted my son and others to come back for the New Year.
But my son has found a lot of reasons, but to put it bluntly, he just doesn't want to come back.
As the Spring Festival approaches, my husband proposes to give his son a sudden attack.
so we bought a lot of specialties and set off for Beijing.
But unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law's parents lived in the big house.
s son is embarrassed.
grandson rushed into my arms, and grandma shouted, almost begging me.
that night, my husband and I stayed in the hotel again.
None of us spoke, we just slept like that all night.
2 2
My son celebrated the Spring Festival, but we couldn't integrate it.
no matter how you look at it, you look like an outsider.
000 not yet completed the year, we booked a return ticket for the third year of junior high school and returned to Xinjiang.
After I came back, my husband fell ill and his blood pressure soared to 200, which really scared me.
I couldn't help but call my son, wanting him to come back and take a look.
But my son sneered for a long time before he said that they took their father-in-law to vacation in Phuket .
it turned out that people had already planned it, but we were just blamed for not being the time to go.
I almost broke the phone.
I have been in Beijing for so long, and they have not even taken me to climb the Great Wall. I have never dared to tell my husband about
, and until today, I have not let him know about it.
2 3
My husband and I have talked a lot. We are no longer young and we really have to live for a few days for ourselves.
ungrateful son, no matter how much you give, it will be futile.
Other people’s “raising children to prevent old age” is simply not reliable in my family.
Looking at my sister's nephew who went to technical school and was honest and honest, I was envious of a hundred times.
pour water for tea and water, considerate and filial, I really envied me.
has come to this point, so we can only accept our fate.
In recent years, we have caught up with the epidemic and we cannot go out for travel.
Honey husband ended the company's business and bought an RV .
We have been to Yili , Kashgar , and also to Kanas a few years ago.
has been around in the past two years.
Occasionally, I also drive off-road to Karamay to pick up jade.
The real retirement life has just begun, although I have not enjoyed the joy of my children and grandchildren around my knees.
But we are still enjoying the bath of nature.
This is the story of my family.
1,000 words are all about parents’ shortcomings.
trivial and invisible tears, and the sadness is still unreasonable...
Fortunately, we have left enough money for ourselves for retirement.
no longer have to look at whoever looks.
telling my story is not complaining or scolding.
just want my parents who have the same experience as me to have an objective foresight of their future life.
Don’t follow our old path again…
This is an emotional online story
gave everything, but there was no return.
50 years old, it should be the age when children and grandchildren are around their knees and enjoy the joy of family.
But the son and daughter-in-law are ungrateful and hurt their parents' hearts again and again.
Mother-in-law paid and worked hard, and finally felt cold.
I wonder if my daughter-in-law is smart? Still stupid.
In short, all I see is asking for it and eating it blindly.
Maybe this generation is used to reaching out and their parents are used to being doting.
will have this ending now.
I agree with the choice of this pair of parents.
children and grandchildren have their own blessings, just help them almost the same.
Let them walk on their own.
worked hard all your life and it is time to enjoy your retirement life.
also hope that more parents can truly live a good life for themselves...
Author: Xiaofeng
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