people is sometimes very strange. We are good at using money to solve problems in unfamiliar relationships, but in relationships with friends and relatives, we often want to use emotions to tie them up.
My husband didn’t come to pick me up after get off work. Do you don’t love me anymore?
Why do parents-in-law prepare such poor meals every time, and they don’t feel sorry for their children at all.
Ask friends to help write a copy, why is it so difficult?
In fact, no matter what the relationship is, it is not right. Everyone has their own difficulties.
Really powerful people often don’t have too much emotion. We will find that most problems can actually be solved with money and there is no need to be emotional.
Don’t have too many expectations for your husband
I have a friend who is about the same age as me. Her husband is the general manager of a company and she starts her own business and does training projects.
She got married late and has no children yet. The two of them live relatively freely and often go to restaurants.
In life, she is a sober and rational woman, and she is not dragged on in her relationships.
So, it is quite comfortable to get along with such a woman. She has a deep understanding of her friends and her partner.
That day, she chatted at her sister's house. The students' courses were scheduled at around 5:30 because the car was in the repair shop, so there was no way to use it. In order to arrive on time, she discussed with her husband half an hour in advance whether she had time to pick her up?
At the beginning, the other party agreed, but fifteen minutes later, her husband suddenly said that his colleague had made an appointment with him and there was no time.
If you change to another woman, you will have a premature attack: Is colleagues more important than me? Is it more important to have a meal than to give it to me?
However, she didn't, took a taxi herself, and then successfully arrived at the class location before class.
After middle age, women should actually understand one thing: no matter how close the two people are, don’t have too much expectations for the other person. Often the more expectations, the greater the disappointment. The underlying logic of
is suitable for every relationship.
Don’t have too much fantasy for your loved ones
Previously, a female fan told me that she said that her relationship with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was handled badly. I especially don’t like my mother-in-law’s stingy look.
She is a teacher. She is very busy with work. Usually after school in the evening, her parents-in-law helps pick up the children, and then she will solve the problem at her parents-in-law’s house for dinner.
But all the time, the vegetables my mother-in-law bought were very poor, and she was afraid that her two children would not eat well.
She asked me: My parents-in-law have a pension, why don’t they give their children a better meal? Do you really don’t love your grandson?
I told her my story.
I have been eating with my parents-in-law for ten years. Since the first child was born, we have eaten together.
Every month, we give our parents-in-law food expenses and provide about 5,000 yuan. The family of six people has a relatively large monthly expenses, so we cannot let the elderly take on all this.
Anyway, the old people are more careful than us. Occasionally, they can tell them what they want to eat.
So, we have been together for the past ten years, basically very harmonious.
Later, I suggested to this fan: I would like to give your mother-in-law 1,000 a month, and it doesn’t need to say that you can let your child eat better. Just say, mom, you have a hard time buying vegetables and cooking every day, so you can buy some delicious food with this little money. In a few months, your relationship will surely improve.
Problem that can be solved with 1,000 yuan is not enough to consume your emotions. After all, physical and mental health is more important than money.Parents-in-law have their own difficulties and their own consumption concepts. Your accusations will only make each other more embarrassed. It is better to give money to solve their worries.
. Don’t deliberately consume the relationship between friends
. In fact, it is best not to have any interest involvement. Don't be emotional when your request is rejected.
Some time ago, a friend told me: My child’s school here arranges parents to write a paper. If you write so well, please help me.
I directly rejected: Sorry, I can't write this.
She seemed a little angry, and then replied to me: You are too stingy if you don’t help with this little thing.
I don’t say anything anymore, I have to write things every day, and I am actually a little tired of writing this. When writing a paper, you always have to search for some material, which is not only a waste of time, but also meaningless to me.
Nowadays, many websites provide writing services, which can solve problems with money. Why should I consume my so-called friend?
Anyway, I don’t want to be consumed by others, nor do I want to consume others. This is my usual style.
Many people seem to not understand this underlying logic and always consume their emotions and emotions. No matter what the relationship is, it is always right to use money to solve the problem.
Thinking about the beginning, Zhang Ailing took a 300,000 royalty fee and broke up with Hu Lancheng . I think it is simply a model for women.
She only wrote one sentence in a short letter: I don’t like you anymore. You don't like me anymore. I have considered my determination this time for a long time after a year and a half. At that time, I only thought that I would not increase your difficulties because of "small auspiciousness". Don't come to look for me, even if I write a letter, I won't read it anymore.
This is the courage and determination of a woman. If you go around in love, you will not be able to get the peace of the world.
No matter what the relationship between adults, remember: if you can solve it with money, don’t get emotional.
