There is a saying on the Internet: When you have only one child, you are a parent; when you have two children, you are a referee.
In an only child family, you are just such a child. He is naturally your treasure and the pearl in your hand. Whether it is love or the resources at home, as long as you can give it, you will give it to him with all your strength.
Because he is your only child, he has received all your love and resources. When you get old, he will naturally take on your responsibility for pension and support his parents. He has no choice but to refuse.
However, in a family of many children, the relationship between children and the relationship between children and parents is very delicate. If you are not careful, conflicts will arise between your brothers and feet, and even hatred each other. What's more, you will resent your parents and refuse your parents' responsibilities for their elderly care.
In real life, you will find that many elderly people with multiple children have bad life in their later years. Although they have many children, no one cares about it. This may have nothing to do with their incompetence.
As a writer once said: The root cause of disputes among families with multiple children is not the love between brothers and sisters, but the injustice of parents.
You are uneven in your bowl of water and are biased towards a certain child, which often leads to two consequences. First, the more favored people are often more confident and less afraid of being grateful. Under your preference, he may not only not take other brothers and sisters seriously, but also not take his parents seriously. Not to mention expecting him to support his old age, it is a good thing not to be dependent on his parents or worry about him. Second, your declination and coldness have penetrated the hearts of other children again and again, making them disappointed with you again and again, accumulated into despair, and family affection has disappeared. In the end, this child who would have respected you was also lost by you.
When you are favored and disliked by others, you don’t want to respect you, and you are treated unfairly and are unwilling to pay attention to you, your old age will certainly not be easy. At this time, it will be too late for you to regret it. The consequences have been made, and you must bear the consequences for your biased behavior.
"I'm going to die. I'm hospitalized. No one cares about my three sons. Did I let me die in the hospital?" Aunt Third called my mother and cried about her experience, so my mother had to go to the hospital to see her.
01.
Four days ago, Aunt San rode an electric bike to buy vegetables. She passed by the traffic light at the entrance of the vegetable market. Seeing that the green light was still a few seconds left, she was unwilling to wait, so she accelerated and rushed over. As a result, she was hit by a car and entered the hospital.
Aunt San was injured in both legs and had to be hospitalized for treatment. Moreover, he could not take care of himself and someone had to take care of him.
The third aunt didn't think about it, so she immediately called her eldest daughter-in-law and ordered her to come to the hospital to serve her. At the beginning, the eldest daughter-in-law explained to her third aunt with a polite statement that her daughter was in confinement and needed to serve her and take care of her grandson. She had no time, so she asked her third aunt to hire a nurse and they would pay a portion of the money.
Auntie 0Auntie was very angry after hearing this and yelled at the eldest daughter-in-law: "Your daughter is married, she is from someone else's family, and you still need to take care of her? Is her man dead? Serve mother-in-law is the duty of being a daughter-in-law. Do you understand? I know that you are the most unscrupulous and ignorant. You can't give birth to a son, you have no money, and now you don't even have mother-in-law. What kind of evil did I do in my previous life? If you gave birth to a daughter-in-law like you? At the beginning, when you gave birth to a money-lossing guy, I should stick to it, let my son divorce you, and drive you two money-lossing guys out."
Before the third aunt finished scolding, the eldest daughter-in-law hung up the phone, and if you call again, it wouldn't be able to get through. However, the third aunt did not give up. Seeing that her daughter-in-law ignored her, she immediately called her eldest son: "Son, let your wife go to the hospital to serve me. Why do you care about her? Your wife is disobedient, do you know? Go find her immediately. If she doesn't do it, teach her a lesson."
Unexpectedly, the eldest son, who has always been obedient and will respond to his parents' requests, replied, "You have two sons, they are dead", which made the third aunt angry.
There is a saying on the Internet: When you have only one child, you are a parent; when you have two children, you are a referee.
In an only child family, you are just such a child. He is naturally your treasure and the pearl in your hand. Whether it is love or the resources at home, as long as you can give it, you will give it to him with all your strength.
Because he is your only child, he has received all your love and resources. When you get old, he will naturally take on your responsibility for pension and support his parents. He has no choice but to refuse.
However, in a family of many children, the relationship between children and the relationship between children and parents is very delicate. If you are not careful, conflicts will arise between your brothers and feet, and even hatred each other. What's more, you will resent your parents and refuse your parents' responsibilities for their elderly care.
In real life, you will find that many elderly people with multiple children have bad life in their later years. Although they have many children, no one cares about it. This may have nothing to do with their incompetence.
As a writer once said: The root cause of disputes among families with multiple children is not the love between brothers and sisters, but the injustice of parents.
You are uneven in your bowl of water and are biased towards a certain child, which often leads to two consequences. First, the more favored people are often more confident and less afraid of being grateful. Under your preference, he may not only not take other brothers and sisters seriously, but also not take his parents seriously. Not to mention expecting him to support his old age, it is a good thing not to be dependent on his parents or worry about him. Second, your declination and coldness have penetrated the hearts of other children again and again, making them disappointed with you again and again, accumulated into despair, and family affection has disappeared. In the end, this child who would have respected you was also lost by you.
When you are favored and disliked by others, you don’t want to respect you, and you are treated unfairly and are unwilling to pay attention to you, your old age will certainly not be easy. At this time, it will be too late for you to regret it. The consequences have been made, and you must bear the consequences for your biased behavior.
"I'm going to die. I'm hospitalized. No one cares about my three sons. Did I let me die in the hospital?" Aunt Third called my mother and cried about her experience, so my mother had to go to the hospital to see her.
01.
Four days ago, Aunt San rode an electric bike to buy vegetables. She passed by the traffic light at the entrance of the vegetable market. Seeing that the green light was still a few seconds left, she was unwilling to wait, so she accelerated and rushed over. As a result, she was hit by a car and entered the hospital.
Aunt San was injured in both legs and had to be hospitalized for treatment. Moreover, he could not take care of himself and someone had to take care of him.
The third aunt didn't think about it, so she immediately called her eldest daughter-in-law and ordered her to come to the hospital to serve her. At the beginning, the eldest daughter-in-law explained to her third aunt with a polite statement that her daughter was in confinement and needed to serve her and take care of her grandson. She had no time, so she asked her third aunt to hire a nurse and they would pay a portion of the money.
Auntie 0Auntie was very angry after hearing this and yelled at the eldest daughter-in-law: "Your daughter is married, she is from someone else's family, and you still need to take care of her? Is her man dead? Serve mother-in-law is the duty of being a daughter-in-law. Do you understand? I know that you are the most unscrupulous and ignorant. You can't give birth to a son, you have no money, and now you don't even have mother-in-law. What kind of evil did I do in my previous life? If you gave birth to a daughter-in-law like you? At the beginning, when you gave birth to a money-lossing guy, I should stick to it, let my son divorce you, and drive you two money-lossing guys out."
Before the third aunt finished scolding, the eldest daughter-in-law hung up the phone, and if you call again, it wouldn't be able to get through. However, the third aunt did not give up. Seeing that her daughter-in-law ignored her, she immediately called her eldest son: "Son, let your wife go to the hospital to serve me. Why do you care about her? Your wife is disobedient, do you know? Go find her immediately. If she doesn't do it, teach her a lesson."
Unexpectedly, the eldest son, who has always been obedient and will respond to his parents' requests, replied, "You have two sons, they are dead", which made the third aunt angry.
02.
Before my mother arrived at the hospital, the third aunt also accused her three sons in the group of relatives. In desperation, the eldest cousin still rushed to the hospital.
When he saw his eldest son, the third aunt started crying, sometimes scolding his eldest son for being heartless, sometimes scolding his eldest son for being incompetent, saying that he could not control his eldest daughter-in-law. My cousin planned to hire a nurse for my third aunt, and the three families paid the fees together, but my third aunt refused to do so and insisted on my cousin's wife to serve her.
"Either hire a nurse, your medical expenses and nursing expenses are equally distributed, or you have the ability to call the other two daughters-in-law to serve you. Anyway, my wife and I have taken care of you for seven years and have fulfilled our obligations. We will not be as generous as before, letting our two younger brothers enjoy the benefits."
Seeing that the eldest son who rarely loses his temper and speaks harsh words no longer obeys the elder son, the third aunt was stunned and didn't know what to say. The eldest cousin became more and more angry the more he spoke, accusing the third aunt of biased behavior.
"Mom, you're too much. From childhood to adulthood, whenever there is anything good at home, it's all the two younger brothers. I have nothing. Back then, I was obviously the best grades and had the most hope of getting into college to change my destiny. The teacher advised you to let me continue studying, but you insisted that I drop out of school and go home to work to support my two younger brothers to go to school."
In the end, my second cousin got into college and married a city girl, which completely changed my destiny. Although my third cousin didn't get into college, my third aunt made up a lot of money and supported him to go south. In the end, he became like a human being. Only my eldest cousin was farming in his hometown.
03.
Among the three sons, only the eldest cousin has no son and only one daughter. Therefore, the third aunt dislikes the eldest cousin’s wife the most. In fact, the reason why she didn't like her cousin's wife was the worst because she was because the other two daughters-in-law couldn't afford to offend her.
The second cousin's wife is from the city. Her parents have a decent job and are of great help to her second cousin's career. Although the second cousin is not a son-in-law, her son is the father-in-law's surname. Although the third aunt is not a person-in-law, she dare not say anything, for fear of ruining her son's family and future.
The third cousin's wife has a bad temper. Not to mention the third aunt, as long as the third cousin dares not listen to her and dares to have any wrong thoughts, she can make trouble and everyone knows. When the third aunt was taking care of the little son, she also wanted to show off her mother-in-law and call her daughter-in-law. As a result, the third cousin almost smashed the house, which scared the third aunt so much that she no longer dared to show her daughter-in-law's face.
The eldest cousin's wife was honest and honest all her life. She allowed her mother-in-law, who did not serve her during the confinement period and did not take care of her children and had the opportunity to scold her for being unsophisticated. Until the beginning of this year, the third aunt was unrestrained and humiliated her eldest daughter-in-law and instigated her eldest son to beat her.
Before the eldest cousin could raise his hand, the daughter patted the table and asked her father to choose between the mother and daughter and the third aunt, saying that if the eldest cousin dared to bully her mother again and let her mother suffer any grievances, she would pick her mother away, leave her cousin alone in her hometown, and would never care about him again.
"If I offend my daughter, will I go to the streets in the future? Mom, in the future, you will expect your two younger brothers to respect you, and I can't control you."
And the other two cousins, let alone Aunt San, did not even answer the phone or reply to the message. Aunt San had to lament his miserable life in the hospital.
04.
Playwright Wanqing once said: "No matter whether you have a blood relationship or not, there is only one kind of relative in this world, that is, the person who cares about you and loves you, and vice versa."
If no matter how filial or hard you are, you cannot get the kindness and affection of your parents, you must understand that in the hearts of your parents, you are really not as good as other brothers and sisters. This is not your fault, it is the fault of your partial parents.
However, biased people often do not realize their mistakes. They only feel that they are parents, giving their children life, and they can do whatever they want. If their children feel a little dissatisfied with them, they are unfilial. They will stand on the moral high ground and blame their children and force their children to listen to them in everything.
At this time, if you respond to your parents' requests, you will only cheat yourself.As a married person, parents violate your interests while also infringing on the interests of your partner. If you can't figure it out, then your partner who originally loved you will leave you.
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As a married person, parents violate your interests while also infringing on the interests of your partner. If you can't figure it out, then your partner who originally loved you will leave you.
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