Encountering is a rare fate, but not all fate is a good fate.
No matter how much social experience we have, there are always times when we don’t know people clearly and mistakenly regard false thoughts as true feelings, and we don’t really see a person clearly until we are hurt.
Things in the world are impermanent, life is full of accidents, and it is also true in interpersonal communication.
Some people, under their kind and harmless appearance, hide the evil in their bones. They call you brothers on the surface, but they plot against you behind their backs. Even if you take the initiative to post an olive branch to him, they still cannot change his evil.
Just as Keigo Higashino wrote this sentence in "Maliciousness":
"I hate you for your superior life, I will give you all my hatred for myself, and use it to hate you."
Don't want to influence someone, especially those who plot against you.
says that one should not have the intention to harm others, and one should not be without the intention to guard against others.
people are walking in the world, and you must always be vigilant.
and When you are calculated by others, just take these three steps well.
01: The first step is to calm down
In most cases, those who calculate you are acquaintances, so when you learn that you are being calculated, more anger will arise in your heart, the kind of anger that trust is disappointed.
It’s just that the more likely a person is to be controlled by emotions, the more likely this person is to make more mistakes and make things develop in a worse direction.
So, when you are counted, the first step is to be calm.
is not to care about the reason why the other party plots against you, nor to remember the past relationship, but to calmly analyze the current situation. After all, things have happened, and simply immersing in the past will not help you. Blindly venting emotions will only make your mood worse.
Only when people calm down can they think carefully and make more correct decisions.
No one hopes that they will be calculated by others, and no one can predict when they will be calculated by others. But now that things have come to this point, protecting yourself as much as possible is the only way out.
02: Step 2, don’t bother
The villain who is really disgusting is not the kind of person who looks very bad, but the kind of person who looks very good and actually is bad, because you can’t guess when he is sincere and when he will scheming you hard.
or even, in some gentle traps, you know that the other person is not the one who treats you sincerely, but you are still willing to deceive yourself and think that the other person is sincere.
It’s a pity that reality is very cruel. A person who is inherently evil will not change himself easily because of you.
. When you find yourself being plotted by someone, the more you get entangled, the more crazy the other party will be. The result is obvious, either both sides will be hurt or you will be plotted again.
fights with villains, you are not even a big deal. Since that's the case, don't bother.
There is a saying that goes: "If you want to let him die, you must let him be crazy."
A person who has done all his bad things will deal with him. When you are not yet rich, the best thing for you is to accumulate strength and protect yourself.
03: Step 3: Stay away from
After seeing a person clearly, learn to stay away.
Even if you have many beautiful memories, when those beautiful memories are built on lies, the beauty will fade, and no matter how much you remember the past, it is meaningless.
People will meet many people in their lives, and not everyone will treat you well. Some people use calculations to help you grow and let you see the truth of life.
So, when you are plotted by others, arguing is useless, and turning against each other is useless. Only by learning to stay away can you avoid being hurt again.
Time is precious, life is limited, no matter you or I, there is no need to waste time and energy for some unworthy people.
When a person has started to plot against you, no matter how many reasons he has, it is an excuse, no matter how much regret he has afterwards, it is a rash talk. When the damage has occurred, when the loss has been caused, timely stop loss is the only way out, and staying away is the best timely stop loss.
In life, we cannot control many things, and we cannot avoid many harms.
The only thing we can do is adjust ourselves and change ourselves.
days later, if someone is plotted against, don’t worry about being emotional. It will be better to do the above three steps well.
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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