I am 45 years old and already a wife. I have a child who is already in college. My husband works on the railway and is a train driver. I live a carefree life. Although it is not as good as a dual-working family, I usually do odd jobs, go to the restaurant kitchen to clean, or do housekeeping part-time work, remove children's tuition fees and save less money.
My husband often works as a shift, and he doesn’t like to go out when he gets home, and likes to drink. No matter what food I cook, he didn't pick it. He would have a "small roast" for two and a half taels of food. After drinking, he would watch TV or look at the birds he raised. The couple was having fun. I am quite satisfied with life like
. After all, they are ordinary people. They live their lives no matter how hard they live. All hope is placed on their children. Sometimes the couple also discusses making more money for their children and helping them pay the down payment in the future. But the story doesn't keep going as I hoped...
One morning two months ago, my husband came back from night shift and suddenly asked me, "Did you live at home last night?" I felt strange and said very angrily, "Did you live at home." I thought he was a joke, and I was also a joke, but he suddenly slapped me and all kinds of unpleasant words came to my face. I was in an instant, and I was confused. When I realized it, he had already gone to the kitchen and drank half a bottle of white wine to sleep.
After I calmed down, I thought about it and said that I had done nothing wrong. Maybe he was often too careful when working night shifts, but then, he had to look through my phone almost two days later and said that I had an affair. I asked him to say who it was, but he didn't say it, so quarrel became commonplace. I didn't dare to tell my child about this. Although there was nothing wrong, the child would also worry too much. After all, I don't know what he thought.
In recent days, I found that he didn't drink much, but I often saw his hands trembling violently, he always sweated, and even had difficulty picking up peanuts. After all, a couple for decades have been like this, so they suggested that he go to the hospital for a check-up. If nothing unexpected happens, they scolded each other again. For the sake of the child, I endured it, so I hid his wine, but it was useless. The next day I came back with a large bucket of white wine, and my life was still the same.
By chance, I heard from a colleague in the restaurant kitchen that his situation was alcohol poisoning! I asked me to consult the doctor, so I went to see the doctor.
After listening to this lady’s story, as a psychiatrist, I feel in my heart, which is another typical example of drinking and drinking. So I told her: Your husband should be a "mental disorder caused by using alcohol". In layman's terms, it is called chronic alcohol poisoning . The drinking history generally ranges from several years to decades. The initial amount is small, and it is mostly social drinking, that is, drinking on occasions. Later, I gradually drink at home and drink every meal. When it is serious, I have to drink a sip when I wake up in the middle of the night. Such people often do not eat staple food, are unwilling to eat vegetables, and even drink two liang of peanut beans in a plate, which is very similar to "Kong Yiji". They gradually lose weight, their hands tremble when they don't drink, and they sweat a lot. They often make mistakes because of drinking, and their personality changes, are irritable, indifferent and suspicious. Most people suspect that their wives have an affair, but they are suspicious and rarely follow them, and they can't tell who they are. Our professional word is "jealousy and delusion", which means doubting your spouse's infidelity. Most of them are addicted to alcohol, and drinking has become the center of all life. Those in need of their families even borrow money to buy alcohol without responsibility. Because alcohol requires liver metabolism, generally high aminotransferase, which will eventually lead to alcoholic cirrhosis, malnutrition, etc.
How to treat this disease? Of course, you have to quit drinking. If you can't convince, you must quit drinking forcibly. Just like you quit drugs, you can be sent to the hospital's alcohol abstinence department. Never quit drinking at home. There will be a great risk and you must reduce the amount slowly. The hospital will use benzodiazepines to replace the treatment, and at the same time, it will give a large amount of B vitamins to prevent wernicke encephalopathy , and give small doses of antipsychotic drugs with mental symptoms, and other symptomatic support treatments, as well as mental health education.Generally, the treatment effect is good, but the chance of drinking again is very high, which requires the joint efforts of the whole society. Some places in Western countries have established mutual aid associations for alcohol abstinence, which means a group of people who quit alcohol teach their successful experience of alcohol abstinence, supervise each other, and meet regularly, and the effect is still acceptable. There are still very few in our country, which requires social workers to do it. In addition, there are some alcohol-absorbing medicines, such as alcohol-absorbing sulfur, which are not recommended to be used at home, otherwise it will be risky and endanger life.
Finally, I advised her to let her husband come, and I had a good chat with him and advised him to quit drinking. Since you already know why he became like this, you should also get along with him in a way and take a roundabout way, hoping to help her.
