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Introduction
Some elderly people just chose a good job when they were young. Their income was not high when they were young, but their pension was quite good when they were old.
For example, teachers are such professions.
There are many elderly people now. As retired teachers, their monthly retirement salary is more than 8,000 yuan, which is considered very high.
Teachers would have lived a life and were very careful. If they saved money, they could save a lot of money with a retirement salary of 8,000 yuan.
Generally speaking, with a high retirement salary, it is quite popular in the marriage and love market. Everyone wants to find a good condition.
No matter who is looking for it, the first condition actually depends on the other party’s economic conditions.
Although you always say "just be good for people", it must be based on a certain economic foundation.
Otherwise, no matter how good a person is, his retirement salary is only enough for one person to spend. So what should I do when I marry him?
However, don’t think that elderly people with high retirement wages can find a partner.
They feel that their retirement salary is high, so their conditions are much higher.
Uncle Gao is like this. He feels that his retirement salary is very high, and he puts forward four conditions.
But when others heard about these four conditions, they hesitated.
What four conditions did he put forward? Is
high?
Let's take a look.
Self-reporter: 70-year-old Gao
My name is Gao Wanqi, I am 70 years old this year.
I am a retired teacher and my monthly pension is more than 8,000 yuan.
I have three children, two daughters and one son.
My wife passed away a few years ago. I didn’t want to find her again, but I felt it was inconvenient to live alone, and my children were not at ease with me.
My son divorced more than ten years ago. His life is not the kind of person who stays at home all year round. Sometimes he runs around and can't take care of me.
and I don’t want to live at my son-in-law’s house. In this case of
, I think it is the most appropriate to find a wife to live with me.
So, for the candidates for my wife, I have the following four requirements:
First, I hope this woman is very virtuous and diligent, and she must be good at living, and can't spend money indiscriminately
My wife is a woman with a very tough personality.
I have been following her for the rest of my life, listening to her everything, and she is the one who is responsible for the big and small things at home.
Our relationship is also very good, but I usually endure it and don’t bother with her, so I can’t argue with her.
My wife is also a capable woman. She doesn't let me do anything. She is in charge of the inside and out of the house.
But if I find a partner again, I want to find someone with a gentle personality.
Because I feel that at my age, I may be able to get along with a gentle person.
I hope she is the kind of very traditional woman, just thinking about how to make our small family better.
instead of just playing around outside all day, and you can’t spend money all day.
I think it’s good to live a simple life.
I myself don’t like to find beautiful and fashionable women like some people.
I know that many elderly people like to pay attention to those women who are dressed beautifully and dance very well in the park.
But I don't pay much attention to this.
I go out for a walk every day to play Tai Chi , and then I go home to read or practice calligraphy.
I don’t want my wife to play outside all day, let alone spend money all day.
2. I hope she is under 60 years old and doesn’t need her to take care of her very young, but she must be good in her health
I have the habit of running all year round, and my physical fitness is very good.
So I hope my wife has a good body too.
It is best to have the same habit of running mornings as me.
If you marry me, I don’t need you to take care of me, but if you are in very poor health, you may need me to take care of you.
But I don’t know how to take care of people.
If you get sick after marrying me, it will be troublesome.
Nowadays, many hospitals have strict management. Only one person can go in to take care of them, and other relatives cannot go in to visit them.
Then who will let you go in and take care of it?
I will take care of myself, and my physical strength will definitely not be able to bear it.
But if I don’t let me go in and take care of it, it will be very uncomfortable for me to worry at home.
is better to have a good body, so there will not be so many troubles at that time.
Of course, everyone will get sick.
But if you get sick ten or eight years later after marrying me, it is of course natural for me to take care of you. We are husband and wife, and we should take care of each other.
But if you already had chronic diseases when you married me, it would not work.
3. I hope she has a little culture and has a common language with me
My wife and I don’t have a common language. This is the biggest regret in my life.
I like literature, I usually like reading books, and I also like to write something.
But she never knew how to appreciate me and always hit me.
I hope to find someone who also likes to read and write.
I don’t want my life in my later years to be like a large group of people gathered together to sing and dance, or to be together for others and others.
I still hope that the two of you can walk slowly on the road and see the scenery together.
My personality is a bit introverted and I don’t like to chat with others very much. When I hear many people chatting together and discussing something, I feel a headache.
On the bus going out for a trip, I am always the one who sits in the corner and doesn't speak silently.
I don’t like all kinds of relationships, and I think it’s very troublesome.
There is a kind of old man who can chat with strangers happily.
There is also an old man who doesn’t want to say a word more from the neighbors opposite the door.
I am the latter.
I hope to find a partner who is similar to my behavior.
4. I hope she has a little retirement salary, and her children also have good financial conditions. I don’t need her to support
Actually, I am not greedy for her to have money.
After marrying me, I can only spend my money.
As long as you save money, I think one or two thousand yuan a month is enough.
But I am afraid that if something happens, if you don’t even have a little retirement salary, then I will be under a lot of pressure at that time.
Although my retirement salary seems high, my son is divorced and it is not easy for him to live alone.
My grandson is also in college, so I will inevitably need my support to buy a house in the future.
They will definitely ask me for it, and I'm not going to help them.
But my strength is limited, and if her children need help, I can do nothing.
I think even if we remarry, our children will be responsible for each other.
so there will be no conflicts.
In short, I think since I have found a wife, I will express my true thoughts so that everyone can understand it.
This is always much better to hide.
I don’t want to think about how good the other person looks. I want to find someone who is virtuous and gentle, so that I can fit better with me.
But I don’t want the other party to covet my money, and I’m not very rich either.
Conclusion
After reading Mr. Gao’s conditions for choosing a spouse, he felt that he was a real person. No matter what, he expressed his true thoughts.
In fact, his ideas may also be the ideas of most elderly people.
However, I was a little surprised that he wanted to be educated.
I think living a life is actually a combination of two people or not. It doesn’t matter whether they have culture or not.
Besides, what kind of culture is called cultural?
Does it depend on education?
In fact, no matter how educated a person is, who can chat with people all the time, poetry, prose, Li Bai, , etc.?
I think that if you can discuss social hot topics together and express your own ideas, it is considered very cultural.
As long as this can be achieved, those two people have something to talk about together and life will be lively, which is already very good. If the requirements for
are so high, the requirements for the other party will be very high.
It makes it difficult to find a suitable partner.
What do you think?
