text丨Tao Xiaojing
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The book says: "Most of the source of conflicts between people is overestimating their status in the other person's heart."
Many people always confidently believe that they have occupied the other person's whole heart, so they start to do whatever they want. Finally, I realized that I had no status in the other party’s heart.
This is a true portrayal of many people in their relationships. It is precisely because too many people are like this that they have triggered one emotional tragedy after another.
When it comes to feelings, everyone should not overestimate themselves, because overestimating themselves will make themselves lose their rationality and thus do many wrong things. If you do too many wrong things like
, you will become cheaper and cheaper. In the end, I had no place to stand in my relationship.
Fellowship is not a matter for one person. Everyone cannot just start from their own perspective, but learn to stand on the other person's standpoint and reflect on their words and deeds.
Only in this way can you truly know whether your behavior is correct and whether your status can be maintained.
If you never care about it, but just do your own things, it won’t take long to lose everything you have now.
If you don’t want to end up in this tragic situation, then I hope you can understand that if you do too much of these things in your relationship, you will become cheap.
Naturally, it is necessary to ask for money
Two people are together, and they will inevitably have some intersections in money. If they are all based on voluntary basis, it doesn’t matter if they spend some money, but if not, it will easily cause emotional problems.
Observation found that many people will reach out to ask for money from each other after confirming their relationship and take it for granted.
Although many people do this, it does not mean that this approach is correct. In love, if a person always seeks money for granted, he will become very cheap.
Xiaojing has a friend like this. Since she first confirmed the relationship, she was asking for money from the other party.
Although the other party met his needs every time, he had a low evaluation of him behind his back. Over time, the other party no longer takes him seriously.
Not long ago, he mentioned breaking up, and the other party asked him to repay all the money. He couldn't repay it, so he was still entangled with each other.
In love, money is very sensitive. If a relationship is covered with the smell of money, it will end in a tragedy sooner or later.
A person who always seeks money in love will not only not have a high status, but may also cause difficult troubles to himself.
If you don't want to make yourself cheap or don't want to cause trouble for yourself, then don't do such things. Learn to rely on yourself so that you won’t lose.
gives everything without reservation
Some people say that since you can’t get it, then work hard, and believe that efforts will definitely bring rewards.
In the world of love, everything is unknown. Even if you give your all, you may not get good returns.
Giving everything for love without reservation is actually a very stupid behavior, because it will not only make a person cheap, but also make him lose everything.
However, there are many people doing this, and reader Xiao Tan has done such stupid things before.
Xiao Tan loves his ex-girlfriend very much. In order to bring happiness to the other party, he wishes to give everything he has.
He works two jobs a day and often eats steamed buns and pickles in order to buy her ex-girlfriend the bag she likes.
But his efforts did not exchange for the other party's cherishment. Instead, after completely emptied him, he left him without any nostalgia.
After this relationship, Xiao Tan realized that he gave everything for love without reservation, not protecting love, but making himself cheap.
This is the world of love. You think that hard work can move the other person, but in fact it just touches yourself. It is better to do less stupid things like this.
Always talk about breakups
Many lovers like to talk about breakups when they quarrel. Although it is just a moment of anger, it has fatal harm to the relationship.
People who always break up during quarrels will give people a feeling of disrespect and not cherishing their feelings. The more you mention, the faster the relationship breaks.
Many people may think that if they use this sentence to threaten the other party, they will never dare to fight against you again.
But in fact, this sentence will not only affect feelings, but also make people cheap.
My friend A Ning has also done this. She has the temper of a young lady. As long as her boyfriend quarrels with her, she will use this sentence to threaten her.
At the beginning, my boyfriend would coax her, and slowly, the other person began to get tired of her. When she mentioned the breakup again, the other party left without looking back.
Later, no matter who she was in love with, she never took the initiative to break up again. Because she knew that doing so would be worth the loss.
No matter how good the relationship is, it cannot withstand the impact of breaking up. Even if it is just talking, it will cause fatal damage.
No matter who it is, you should not talk about breaking up casually. Only by learning to respect feelings can you get the respect you deserve.
Conclusion: There are many things that seem to be managing feelings, but in fact they are practicing themselves. Once you do too much of these things, it will not only make yourself cheap, but also break your feelings. If you don’t want to ruin your happiness with your own hands, be cautious and don’t do these stupid things.
