raising himself, without anyone in his eyes, and everyone thinks he is short.
Those who are alone are often mistaken for being self-righteous. Because in most occasions, they will be surprisingly quiet and show their differences.
I have seen an intriguing story: Eastern Jin Minister Yin Hao . I have been keen on reading since I was a child and often say some very philosophical words.
Someone asked: "Why do a person dream of coffin before becoming an official; before becoming rich, he dreamed of feces?"
Yin Hao replied: "Because 'official' is a decay, and money is dirt, it's nothing strange."
It is true that as long as you understand it carefully, the high and low places can be replaced by each other; the beautiful and ugly can complement each other.
We cannot be prejudiced for those who are alone, but observe them with a fair attitude and play to their strengths and avoid their weaknesses.
In combination with real life, people who have no friends are not noble, but the following three situations.
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Very good people, can't find a suitable group, the music is high and the price is poor.
Warring States period , Qu Yuan has a student named Song Yu .
Song Yu is outstanding in talent, but has few friends.
One day, King Xiang of Chu asked him: "Now many people are alienated from you, why?"
Song Yu said: "There is a singing person who sang "Xiaolibaren" from the beginning. The song is easy to understand, so everyone sang it together; later, sang "Yangchun Baixue ". The tune is high, and fewer people sang with him."
In society, people interact with each other and form a huge group. But this group will present a "pyramid" structure. The higher you go, the fewer people will be. is the real top expert, at the top, but there is no one around him. Therefore, in ancient times, the top masters called themselves "imen".
In real life, when we were studying, the whole class was very ordinary, everyone could chase each other, and the grades were also rising one after another. It was not until I graduated from high school that I truly realized the level of my grades.
After leaving the university gate, some people start businesses, some people go to work, and some people can’t find their direction. Over time, the students were divided into different levels. Some people can't shout about the party, and some people are too poor and have no travel expenses.
is separated from the big group, enters a small circle, and then jumps out of the small circle, and there are no friends around you. Such a person is admirable and he has to walk alone.
02
No one is trying alone and running with tears.
Yu Qiuyu said: "The road of life is to walk step by step by step by step. What can truly protect you is your own life choice."
If you have experienced the experience of asking for help, you will understand that it is better to seek yourself than asking for help. Everyone has difficulties. Not helping is the duty. If you have to ask others to do it, you will be a force to force others.
In Zhihu , a netizen "professional pig farmer" said that after he left school, he worked alone in another place, with a monthly income of more than 2,000 yuan and a monthly rent of 1,000 yuan. Apart from the money for food and drink, there is nothing left. If you go out for a few more times, you have to borrow money from your parents.
Later, he had a girlfriend, and his girlfriend's monthly income was more than 5,000.
Once, he started to borrow money from his girlfriend, but his girlfriend refused decisively.
's girlfriend said, "Why do you need to borrow money from me, not my parents, brothers and sisters?"
's rejection felt bad, but he quickly figured it out. A man who wants to borrow money has no sense of security. Can he continue to walk together in the future?
learned from his mistakes, and he began to do a side job, trying hard to save money, and his salary gradually increased, surpassing his girlfriend.
It is hard to imagine that lovers can talk about money, but they cannot borrow money. In fact, it is because of "rejection" that each other achieves success.If one party is very soft and always takes out all his money, it will make the other party develop a dependent idea, which will turn into a person who walks.
We always say that a good marriage is equal and evenly matched. Actually, the same is true for friends. If the two people have a big gap, whoever depends on whom is destined to go far.
No matter how good your friends are, you can give it to you once or for a journey, and you must not give it to you for a lifetime.
See the essence of making friends, and then be a person who runs with tears, and you will be outstanding. From now on, you will be casual about whether you have friends or not.
If you don’t ask for help, how can you be embarrassed to be “rejected by others”?
03
People who are tired of socializing are used to walking alone without restraint.
likes this sentence very much: "Who likes loneliness? I just don't want to be disappointed."
Maybe you have this feeling: you are getting more and more disgusted with dinner parties and drinking parties. When you hold up your wine glass, you feel boring. Everyone eats and drinks together, obviously they are fooling each other and say whatever they say is perfunctory.
When you feel wronged, you realize that there is no shoulder that can make you lean on, let alone cry for a while.
At the party, I wanted to say something, but when I was in love, I suddenly swallowed it into my heart. Habitually silent, more and more silent.
is just walking alone, there is no reason, even the explanation is redundant.
During the Three Kingdoms, Wei Zhong Yao's two sons Zhong Hui and Zhong Yu were very smart.
Emperor Wen of Wei specially convened Zhong Hui and Zhong Yu to meet in the palace.
At that time, Zhong Yu was sweating profusely, but Zhong Hui seemed to be nothing. Emperor Wen of Wei asked, "Why do you sweat, why don't you sweat?"
Zhong Yu said, "Zhan Zhan Zhan is anxious and sweat."
Zhong Hui said, "Zhan Zhan Zhan is trembling and dare not sweat."
It is true that brothers cannot empathize with each other, let alone friends?
Philosopher Nicethet said: "Whoever will eventually shake the world will be silent for a long time."
When a person hates socializing and insists on walking alone, even if he has never done anything great in his life, he will be happy and wonderful because he lives as himself.
04
Writer Haruki Murakami said: "If you don't have a friend, then congratulations, it proves that you are mature."
Life has been decades. If you always rely on others, you will most likely live as a shadow of others; if you always squeeze into the group, you will lose yourself and be infected by the group.
If you are a weed, then it will flourish in the wilderness; if you are a thousand-mile horse, then it will run on the grassland; if you like mediocrity, then it will live in obscurity; if you are an orchid , then it will reveal fragrance in the deep valley...
Once thought this way: There are more friends and the road is easy to walk.
Now thinks like this: I have a lot of friends.
people, being alone is enjoying loneliness, and being sociable is fear of loneliness.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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