Yesterday a friend asked me that my boyfriend has been busy recently and I often don’t reply to the messages I sent to him because of this matter.
Sometimes even if you reply to me, it only has three or two words, as if you are dealing with me, and you still think that I am too clingy.
Does he not love me anymore?
She said she hates this feeling of worrying about gains and losses, especially when her boyfriend doesn't reply to her WeChat.
suddenly remembered a sentence I saw some time ago: "If you don't have a good impression of a person, or even hate him, as long as the other party sends a message, it is a kind of disturbance, or even harassment. and replying to messages is also a waste of time. The thoughts that you don't want to reply thousands of times emerge in your mind. Even if you reply, it is perfunctory and sporadic words."
Indifference is the answer, and not taking the initiative is the evidence. , but many people prefer to find new clues to prove some impossible things.
In our relationship, we always use various methods to confirm whether the other party still loves ourselves because of insecurity. Nowadays, people chat on WeChat much more than face-to-face communication, so more and more people will become sensitive to the small details in WeChat chat. In fact, love expressed through WeChat chat can be very direct and obvious. Even if a person loves you or not, it can be seen at a glance whether he loves you through the screen or by distance.
If a man often responds to you like this, he must love you very much.
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Reply in time, so that you can rest assured that
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Reply to messages in time is an attitude. We are happy to reply in seconds, but we are also moved to reply in time.
Fellowship requires two people to maintain through continuous communication and communication. In this era when mobile phones are always in hand, it is understandable that anyone can reply to messages occasionally when they are busy.
But if the other party always waits for a long time before replying, or even just treat it as if it has not been received, and send a few messages from your Moments without replying.
That only means that he is really not worried about losing you at all.
Not to mention replying to messages in time is the minimum respect for a person. Just because the other party chooses to neglect you, it means that he doesn't care enough.
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Reply seriously, so that you can feel at ease
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In love, the most important thing is to chat. that feeling is that every meme you throw out can be handled by the other party. When chatting with , I also felt unprecedented comfort and freedom, and I was able to completely open my heart to believe in the person in front of me.
Good feelings are when you want to share the most. Someone understands your mood, and is happy and sad with you. But if the other party does not reply seriously, it will not only block the bridge of communication of sorrow and joy, but also cool down a eager heart that is looking forward to it.
For example, when you share happily and want to express your joy as much as possible, you are waiting for the other party’s reply with full expectations, but you only wait for one word: “Yes”. You will definitely feel a sudden disappointment and a cooldown of enthusiasm. Over time, you will become suspicious and tired, and this feeling will slowly move towards paranoidness in the coldness.
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Actively contact, so that you can feel at ease
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I believe you must have seen other people's love and the state of the two parties in a relationship.
If a person really cares about you, he must have the kind of longing for "not seeing you for a day is like three autumns after three autumns", the kind of sweetness that he has to talk about many sentences after saying good night, and the kind of expectation that he always wants to know what you are doing.
Those who truly love you will want to know everything about you. They are curious about your strengths and weaknesses, and they care about your interests and hobbies.
Even if you don’t ask, he will take the initiative to look for you. Even if it’s boring at the moment, he will find out the scattered feelings in the boring things and share them with you. He is not very idle, nor is he really bored, but he regards you as important and is willing to take the initiative to maintain relationships with each other.
He hopes to tell you through every initiative that it is not because I think of you when I chat, but because I miss you all the time, I can’t help but want to talk to you.
Love someone must hope to get close, because you can't help feeling like you. There is some love if you can restrain it, it proves that you don’t love that much.
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I remember there was a topic discussion on the Internet before, saying what kind of behavior of the other party will make you feel safe? There is a hot comment below : "The other party is typing..." Because, this means that all your enthusiasm has a response. Love someone is like releasing water into a cup. When a person loves you deeply, the water will be constantly filled and will not make the relationship between you "empty cup". When a person loves you deeply, the water is clear and will not be wary of you, so you can guess. In fact, many times, details determine love, and many insignificant little things constitute a manifestation of whether he loves you. When he has you in his heart, his kindness to you and the things he considers for you will be integrated into daily life. Even ordinary little things like chatting are details that he does not want to ignore. No matter whether he is working, resting, eating or exercising on the other side of the screen, because he sees it is you, he is willing to stop what he has in his hands to reply to you. For him, you are more important than anything else. Even if you don’t see it because you are busy, you will explain it to you sincerely afterwards. Because I love you, I want to be kind to you wholeheartedly. Because I love you, I don’t bother with this. People who are kind to you usually won’t miss any small details that are good to you. Love is the continuous sublimation of each other's feelings in your words and I. The person who truly loves you will carefully consider every sentence you send to you even if you are separated by a telephone line through the screen. will also take care of your emotions carefully and will not let you feel disappointed or regretful. Because when you fall in love with someone, the other person is supreme.
