Even if my previous marriage was not happy, as long as I had children, I would choose to continue. It’s different now. People nowadays say they get divorced, regardless of whether they have children or not. After divorce, most people will choose not to have children and choose to leave the marriage lightly, with many women among them.
says that women are emotionally soft-hearted and are reluctant to let go of the flesh falling from themselves. However, today's life has subverted this view, and more and more divorced women choose not to have children after divorce.
So, what do these women who divorce and don’t have children think?
1. Out of selfishness, I want to live a better life
As we all know, life will definitely be difficult after divorce with my children.
In people's concept, whoever divorces or wants children is a fool. First of all, remarriage is affected; secondly, raising children is a big project, and too much investment is required; finally, many people have a selfish concept, that is, children are not growing up by their side, and they can still recover their relationship in the future.
Because of the above three points, more and more divorced people have learned their lessons and become selfish, including women.
Most women who don’t want children are for remarriage and want a better life. No man is willing to help others raise children. If you want to remarry, children are the biggest obstacle. Even if you remarry, children will be a stubborn stone in the marriage and affect the happiness of marriage.
If you want to live a good life after divorce, you must abandon your children. This is a fact and a reality. The marriage experiences of the predecessors have long confirmed this view.
Therefore, more and more people rationally choose not to children out of selfishness, including women who think clearly.
2. Change of concepts, don’t want to be cheap, men
Women in the past can want nothing after divorce, just children, but real life has taught them a cruel lesson. They work hard to raise their children alone, while divorced men remarry happily and have children, and their lives are not affected at all.
Another biggest reason is that most men will ignore the children in the original marriage because of the reason they start a family after divorce, and may not even be willing to pay the child support.
Since men can be so ruthless, why should women monopolize this hardship? If a child is given to a man, his life will definitely be affected. This is the idea of a divorced woman, and she doesn't want to be cheaper men.
The change in concepts has made more and more women realistic. Divorce is not important, but how to make a choice during divorce is the key to whether life can be comfortable in the future. Therefore, more and more divorced women choose to want a house, a car, and a deposit, but not a child.
In fact, to put it bluntly, women will become so realistic, which is also taught by men. It is the long-term selfishness of men that makes women learn to be selfish, because life will not be too hard after selfishness.
3. Divorce from past life goodbye
is the beginning of another life.
People always consciously choose to forget the past, especially bad experiences. Divorce is a life of failure, which means that you have a bad look and choose the wrong person, and you pay the price. Many people don’t want to mention such a bad experience, but they all want to say goodbye to their past life and start a new life.
In reality, there are many divorced women who leave their previous cities far away from their previous cities after divorce, but they don’t want to be a little involved with their past marriages. Even children, many women can do it as if they have never given birth to them. They remarry themselves, and then give birth to new life, and completely cut off all connections with the past.
There are many women who hate their former marriage partners because they hate their former marriage partners. Jier hates children who have relationships with their former partners. They think that if they don’t have children, they can say goodbye to their past lives.
Conclusion
Women who don’t want children after divorce, although there are selfish elements, they are more forced by life because they know that if a divorced woman does not have enough material foundation, it is very difficult to raise children alone. Therefore, even though they were very reluctant to let go, they still chose to give up ruthlessly.
Of course, there are also some women who are really selfish and choose not to have children for their better life. Some people do not want to be cheaper men, and some people say goodbye to their past lives. But no matter which one it is, their maternal love is covered with dust and criticized.
