I am 63 years old this year and I am married to the nanny at home. I originally thought that I had found true love and would be happy until I was old. Now I feel that couples really don’t have much true love and give too much, and they are often not cherished. Maybe this is human nature! Do you think I still need to persist in such a marriage?
My name is Lao Zhang, and I am a retired worker. Now my monthly retirement salary is about 6,000. Before retirement, my wife and I had the biggest wish to go around and enjoy life after retirement, but fate seems to be too unfair to me. Before I retired, my wife was diagnosed with cancer. After several years of treatment, she finally passed away and left me alone.
After my wife passed away, it was a big blow to me, and it took me a few years to get out of my sadness.
3 years ago I retired, but I was not happy. Instead, I felt that I was in a better mood when I was at work. After retirement, I was alone at home all day, facing such a big room every day. To be honest, I was really lonely. There was not even a person talking around me, and I had no interests or hobbies.
Not long after retirement, I fell ill and went to the hospital for examination. The doctor said that my blood pressure was high. At this time, my son and daughter said to me: "Dad, you should take turns living at my sister's house in the future! You are alone at home and there is not even a person to take care of you. My sister and I are very worried."
I said: "What's there to worry about? It's just that my blood pressure is high. I'll just be careful in my diet in the future. You don't have to worry about me. Just live your life well."
To be honest, I also want to live with my children, but I can't do this. Although the children don't dislike it, their other half will inevitably dislike it over time.
Just like this, I live this tormented life every day. One day my daughter suggested: "Dad, since you don't want to live with us, you can hire a nanny. When you are in a bad mood, you can still talk to you, wash clothes and cook for you, so that your quality of life will also improve. My brother and I don't want your money, as long as you are happy, it's enough.
I said: "I just retired, so I hire a nanny. This is not appropriate! "
My daughter said: Why is it not suitable! If you don't hire a nanny, my brother and I will worry about you every day.
Later, after my daughter persuaded me many times, I agreed, and my daughter hired a nanny for me.
The nanny my daughter hired for me is Zhang Hui, 56 years old, and has been a nanny for 10 years. After a period of time, I am very satisfied with her. She has a good personality and is very quick to do things. She cleans the house every day and cooks very deliciously.
I treat her very well. What I eat every day and what she eats, we get along like family. After getting along for a long time, we have become friends who can talk about everything.
Later I learned that nanny Zhang Hui has a son who has not been married yet, her husband passed away, and it is really not easy for me to be alone.
This is what I am like. If anyone treats me well, I will repay you twice as much. Even if she is a nanny, I treat her like a relative. What I eat every day What do I eat? Just like a family. Only when I get along together can I be happy and relaxed.
One night before going to bed, Zhang Hui pushed open the door of my room and said: Brother Zhang, what do you think of me?
I said: Very good, you have been together for more than a year, and we have been together very well. Why did you suddenly ask this?
Zhang Hui said: Brother Zhang, to be honest, I have been with you for more than a year, and I feel that you are very good to me. Since my husband passed away, so many It's been 2018, I haven't gotten married. When I met you, I think you are really good. Although I am just a nanny, I can see your character and responsibility. I want to take care of you for the rest of my life. If you don't dislike me, I can marry you. Are you willing to marry me?
heard the nanny Zhang Hui say this: I am still very happy. In fact, I like her very much, but I feel that I am old and dare not tell her!
I said: If you are willing to marry me, I am willing to marry you. We will take care of each other in the future.
Zhang Hui said: "Don't worry, I will make you happier in the future."
Later, I told my children about the decision to marry the nanny, and the children all said: "Dad, we don't object. As long as you think you can be happy with her, we support it!" The children all support it, and we will get married smoothly.
After getting married, we lived a happy life, just like a young couple, who received envy and blessings from many people.
After marriage, I treated Zhang Hui even better. I knew she had a son who was not married yet, so I also introduced his son to a good job.
One day Zhang Hui told me that she wanted to buy a car for her son, but I agreed without saying a word.
A year after getting married, Zhang Hui said to me: "Husband, my son has found a girlfriend and is going to get married."
I said: "That's really great. You should be happy. Why do I think you are a little unhappy?"
Zhang Hui said: The future daughter-in-law said that if you don't have a house, I won't get married. My son can't afford a house at all now, and I don't have much money either? I really don’t know what to do. Can you help me? I’m just such a son. He has never had fatherly love since he was a child. Now he has finally found a girlfriend. If there is no house, how can he get married?
I said: How do you want me to help you? You also know that my monthly retirement salary is about 6,000, which is just enough for our expenses. I have some savings, but that is our pension money.
Zhang Hui said: Don’t you have a son and a daughter? They have money, what are you afraid of? I've married you, why don't we sell the house and let's go out to rent a house!
I was angry when I heard Zhang Hui say this.
I said: You always think about your son. I am not bad about your son. I bought him a car and introduced him to work. Now that I am married, you asked me to sell the house and buy a house for your son. You don’t think about my feelings at all. Why can’t your son rent a house first? I’m going to buy a house when he has the ability!
Zhang Hui said: I have said so much, but I just don’t want to help. I’ve married you and I’ve really become a free nanny.
Hearing Zhang Hui say this: I also understand in my heart that after Zhang Hui married me, she treats me very well, but I feel that if I sell the house, will our relationship be better in the future?
Will she still live with me wholeheartedly? I don’t know what to do now. If I don’t buy a house for her son, we really don’t know how to maintain our relationship. If I buy a house, will she keep asking for it?
It is said that it is difficult for couples to be halfway through. Without true love, it is all for the sake of profit. Is there no true love?
You said: What should I do?
