As for the issue of choosing parents and boyfriends, many girls have encountered this before and may have had embarrassing experiences. In my personal opinion, I think this choice is wrong, for the following reasons:
1 Relatively speaking, parents can spend a short time with you. Even if they marry another boyfriend according to their parents' arrangements, they can leave in a few days. them? Then they gradually grow old and leave us completely. Your husband is the one who can really deal with your old age, so you must choose this person well.
2. Actually, we all know that our parents are for their own good, but the general’s words are not always right with him? Only you know that it is useless to be optimistic about your parents, because you have been with him all your life, not with your parents. Your parents have never been with him, but do women know? This person will accompany you for the rest of your life. Whether your parents have the final say or not, you have the final say and you must choose the right one. 3. There are usually three reasons for parents to disagree: (1) It is too far away, and I am afraid that my daughter will be treated unfairly when she gets married from afar, and it is inconvenient to go home. Actually, think about it. Where can I go if the transportation is inconvenient now? Afraid of being treated unfairly. In fact, marrying far away does not necessarily mean being unfair, and marrying nearby does not necessarily mean being popular. Some people marry from the same village. . What do you think? So you have to choose this person.
(2) The family is poor. In fact, personally, having money is not necessarily happy, and having no money is not necessarily unhappy. Take good care of your health, be smarter, a little messy, forget money, forget fame and fortune. Good luck, have a nest, a little money and friends, simple love, real pain, a little warmth, a lot of peace, happiness, etc., and see what his family has. no. If you don’t have money, it depends on your ability and desire to make money. If so, poverty will be temporary now. In this regard, parents should not only look at the eyes, but at least look farther away, so as not to kill people by sticks. You don’t look at your family, you look at people, so you have to choose this person.
(3) Bad reputation or personal problems. If reputation issues stem from bad reputations from families or parents, I don’t think the child should be blamed. Very unfair to children. Yes, who can say that the murderer's son must be a bad person? Or a killer? If your reputation is not good, it depends on whether he has changed his mind now. After all, everyone has made a wrong statement. I completely agree with my parents. You have to choose a man. In fact, your parents' anger is temporary, they will forgive you, and you may find a better person even if your boyfriend is gone. Filial piety alone will not find the exact same person. I think it is cruel and unfair for him to abandon his boyfriend to make his parents angry. I think this wife is not good and has a place in her heart. It is stupid to throw it away because it doesn't exist. I just do this to make my parents laugh. Of course you can call it filial piety, but I think it is stupid filial piety.
I remember a professor doing an experiment in a university. In this experiment, girls were asked to write down the most important people on the blackboard, such as parents, siblings, friends, colleagues and neighbors. Let me delete what I think is the least important, and in the end she was embarrassed to be left with only her children, her parents and her husband. Finally, she cried and deleted the name of her parents, and then I deleted the name of her child, so the professor asked her: "Your parents gave you life, raised you, and gave you selfless love. The child is your son, the flesh that fell from you. But the husband has nothing, why do you keep him? The girl said: sooner or later, parents will leave her, but a few years later, when the child grows up, he will have his own house, he will leave him, and he will truly accompany him until his old age. There is only his husband in his life. This means that you must choose this person. People say that marriage is the second cycle of women. The first time you have no choice, but the second time you have to have a choice. The choice is yours, and no one can help you. I can't. The opinions of the people are also for reference.
Do you agree?
