As the saying goes, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies. If a woman is giving birth to a child and is in confinement, her mother-in-law will not help take care of her.
If you don’t contribute money and efforts, you will be held resentful by your daughter-in-law in the future, and you will be held resentful for the rest of your life.
This mother-in-law, who is a psychological counselor, knows a woman's psychology very well when her daughter-in-law gave birth to a child.
Her approach can be said to be very good. You can learn it. Not only did she not come forward to help, but she also left her daughter-in-law with nothing to say.
The mother-in-law of the psychological counselor said that she also came from her daughter-in-law’s time.
I know very well that my daughter-in-law’s psychological state during this period of time, so when my daughter-in-law is about to go to confinement.
She went to see her daughter-in-law in advance and said to her son and daughter-in-law that your child is about to give birth, so are you planning to let your mother come and serve her confinement?
The daughter-in-law said that her father was in poor health and her mother might not have time to come, so she might have to find another way.
So the mother-in-law said again, if your mother doesn’t have time to come, do you have to consider it? Go to the confinement center to hire an confinement nanny .
This mother-in-law is very smart. She also needs to go to work. She is also afraid that if she comes to take care of her, if she doesn’t take good care of her, her daughter-in-law will not be satisfied.
If she looks for a confinement nanny with them, if the daughter-in-law doesn’t like it, she will have something to say to her mother-in-law.
So the mother-in-law asked her son and daughter-in-law to choose by herself, and the mother-in-law asked, if she was in the confinement center, how much would it cost to hire a confinement nanny in about a month.
The daughter-in-law agreed to have a confinement center, and it costs 12,000 yuan per month to hire a confinement nanny. The mother-in-law asked her how many months she planned to hire, and the daughter-in-law said she would invite her for two months.
At this time, the mother-in-law did not say a word and took out 50,000 yuan to her daughter-in-law and said to her daughter-in-law, "This money will be given to you to hire a confinement nanny."
The rest is given to you. The mother-in-law only needs to pay for it, the daughter-in-law and grandson can do it, and she will receive good and professional care.
Two months later, the mother-in-law considered the daughter-in-law and needed to consider the issue of raising children.
If the daughter-in-law goes to work by herself and asks the confinement nanny to take care of the children at home alone, she may go out to work by herself, and she will be uneasy.
So she gave her a suggestion for her daughter-in-law, saying that if you go to work, the child can only be taken care of by the confinement nanny completely, and you may not be relieved.
Let me just pay you a salary. You can take care of your child at home and when the child is three years old, you can go to kindergarten.
At that time, you can go out to work, so she pays her daughter-in-law every month according to the market price.
Until the daughter-in-law brings the child to kindergarten, she can not only go to work herself.
Then give part of your salary to your daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law also has money, and her living expenses are normal and stable, and she will not be anxious. Not only will she have a good parent-child relationship.
is also very good for the growth of children. After the grandson went to kindergarten, his daughter-in-law needed to go to work, so she spent money to take her daughter-in-law to buy a few professional outfits.
The consignees all said that they were the mother-in-law and the mother-in-law got along very well. The old lady told the consignee that we are actually mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
It can be seen that in this relationship, the mother-in-law’s way of dealing with things is very good, which not only avoids the embarrassment of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
also made the daughter-in-law say nothing to her. Of course, such conditions are not something that ordinary people can satisfy.
But if conditions permit, it is still worth learning from. What do you think?
The reason why ordinary people get married is in chaos because their daughter-in-law is pregnant and having children.
There are many ways to get along with each other, and the daughter-in-law just arrived in a family and had not adapted to it.
will face the various contradictions that arise between the two generations living with their parents-in-law.
As the saying goes, relationships are far away and smelly. If you want to get along well, you must maintain a certain sense of distance and sense of proportion.
If conditions allow after marriage, it is best for the son and daughter-in-law to move out and live alone, which can reduce many conflicts in life.
Sometimes when you have time, it will be more friendly and the relationship between the two parties will not be very embarrassing.
When ordinary people are in confinement, many of them are taken care of by their mothers or mother-in-law. The two generations have different ideas.
Especially when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along for a long time, they are under the same roof every day, and there is a generation gap between the two generations.
will slowly appear over time, and irreconcilable contradictions will occur.
Not only did this mother-in-law not live with her daughter-in-law, nor did she take care of her daughter-in-law in person, but she did not take care of her daughter-in-law's confinement and grandson.
can not delay your work, it can kill several birds with one stone. In the end, it sets up a perfect mother-in-law imagination in the heart of my daughter-in-law.
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