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For traditional Chinese cognition, many people think that they are too obedient and too independent. In fact, their future life is not particularly good. They must be in a balanced position in order to find their own life.
From a psychological perspective, obedience will listen to many people, listen to other people's opinions, and understand other people's thoughts, but being too sensible will cause them to bear a lot of unnecessary pressure.
, which may lead to many mental health problems, such as emotional depression and depression . This is partly because they habitually suppress their own thoughts, and the emergence of this emotion and cognition are all because they listened too much to their parents when they were young.
Austrian psychologist, founder of psychoanalytic school Freud believes: "As long as you suppress too much in your mind, this pressure will eventually be displayed in an ugly way."
People who are too independent have very self-dignity and have their own ideas for individuals, but being too independent will overly follow your heart, thus producing excessive self-self and paranoid behavior. If you control your own independent opinions in a balanced position, it is a good thing for most people.
Inner Power
Psychological research has found that the inner motivation of a person’s is better than any coercion and temptation, and it is effective than any coercion and temptation in . This inner motivation is called "self-driven" to the self.
People with this "self-driven" will have a stronger sense of self and will be determined to complete more difficult tasks.
So when we interact with others, we should be in a right position, not humble or arrogant, so that our behavior, interpersonal communication and emotional intelligence can be well certified.
What we call "handling people and things" means that when we deal with anything, we must pay more attention to our own cultivation issues, so that our interpersonal communication will be more wider, because in this way we will pay more attention to interactions and feelings with each other.
If you are too obedient in interpersonal communication, you will have no self-confidence, but we must know that there are no two identical snowflakes in this world, so there must be no two completely identical people. So each of us has our own personality, and we constantly see our strengths, cultivate our self-confidence, handle our interpersonal relationships well so that we can get along with each other correctly, and leave a good impression on each other.
If you are too independent, you will be suspicious about other people's behavior and psychology. This suspicious behavior is based on factual basis and is judged based on your own subjective imagination, thus causing a picky and bad psychological behavior towards others.
For this type of people, they often look at others and look at things outside with a distrustful perspective, but when they are suspicious of others, they will not listen to other people's advice. This type of people is very sensitive, and this gradual increase in sensitivity will lead to them being more determined in their ideas.
Therefore, in interpersonal communication, including when we are constantly improving and developing, cannot over-obey other people's suggestions and ideas, do not have our own opinions, nor should we be too independent. Too independent will become self-conceited, and this kind of self-conceited will become self-destructive, and this kind of self-conceited will also hurt us.
makes a meaningful analysis of our behavior and personality, which can prevent us from being overly influenced by the outside world and try to change our personality defects.
Everyone is an imperfect person. This is normal, but each of us loves ourselves, so the most important thing is to respect our hearts first at that time. However, is too arrogant and only cares about our own thoughts and needs, and emphasizes our own feelings, which will form behaviors that are too high in interpersonal communication and look down on others. Moreover, this behavior will cause this type of person to be very sensitive in psychological conditions and have strong jealousy.
and overly conceited people will also have strong self-esteem. They often use the "sour grape psychology" to maintain their own psychological state, so it is also very unfavorable for personal development and communication with others!
The third choice is
This is why Zeng Shiqiang said: Obedient or independent, the result is not necessarily good. It is the best and best mental state to put yourself in a state of balance.
Of course, this state is relatively difficult to deal with, but stepping towards this psychological state is also a manifestation of our adaptation to the environment and society, because the impact of a person's behavior on others is always limited.
As the first recipient of behavior, we ourselves belong to the behavior. Correct our own mentality, correct our behavior, and find a balance before conceit and inferiority.
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Reference materials: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).
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