Zhang Ailing said in " Half-life Fate ":
Perhaps love is not passion, nor is it nostalgia, but time, and years have become a part of life.
When we first fell in love, no matter who we were, we always had expectations for the future, and imagined how we would stay together and live together with the loved ones;
However, people's hearts are fickle. An accidental event or a long time to get along can make two people who originally fell in love with each other, and eventually part ways;
We do not need to keep the passers-by in life too much;
However, since we have entered a relationship or formed a family with each other, we should learn to grow and progress, reflect and change in this relationship;
This is both respect for feelings and responsibility for oneself;
In fact, whether a couple or a lover is disappointed with each other, the fate is about to end, and it is not a temporary intention, but the result of accumulation and choice in the heart for a long time;
Two people break up, the responsibility should be the two parties, but the size of the responsibility is different;
is reflected in daily life, and men and women who are about to end often look at these two words: silence;
Two people who are silent, at least one party lacks care for the other party
Two people fall in love and form a family, so there are naturally endless things to say;
If you still have feelings for each other, even if you are silent sometimes, you can feel the deep friendship between each other and care for each other;
Even if there is a conflict, you can still clarify the misunderstanding and be as affectionate as before with your partner;
In short, as long as you still want to be together, you will have linguistic and effective communication with the other party, because this means that you care about each other's feelings;
But if two people are too lazy to talk to each other, and don't even want to look at each other, and they are used to it The silence can only be said that the time between men and women has reached the moment when fate has disappeared;
As long as you have love in your heart and treat the other person as your close person, you will want to share your joys, angers, sorrows, and happiness with the other person often, and in this way, you can build a deeper sense of intimacy;
Those silences are left to people who don’t care about and don’t care about;
Just like in the online drama " The Secret Corner ", Zhang Dongsheng and his wife went to each other for love. After getting married, they have never had children. Because Zhang Dongsheng’s work is unstable and earns less money, his wife and parents look down on him. When they are together, silence has become the norm.
When this happens, it means that we are tired of getting along with each other, and the passion and love that used to be no longer there;
Two silent people no longer love each other, they look at each other's shortcomings
When a person loves someone in his heart, all they see in his eyes are the advantages and strengths of the other person. After a long time, the passion fades and love is gone, and only the shortcomings of each other can be seen;
When there is feelings, the shortcomings of the other person will become cute, and they can also make some corrections to each other. Once there is no relationship, even if you know that the other person has shortcomings, you will be accustomed to it and don't want to say more. Even if you sneer at it in your heart, it is particularly rejected;
The reality of human nature lies in the fact that you always have more tolerance and understanding of the people you like; while those you don’t like will be less patience and sincerity;
A sense of distance means boredom, even disgust, and they are just silent and no longer close to each other;
Whether you are trapped by love or imprisoned by marriage, men and women who lose dependence will treat each other coldly;
If they only see each other’s bad things, keep silent, and complain to outsiders, they also evaluate their partner’s faults, then it can prove that the fate has come to an end and is difficult to recover.
The two silent people are about to have their own new lives and social circles
In this world, no one is an isolated island, they all need to have emotional dependence and a place to relieve loneliness;
Can't speak to your lover, so you need other people in the social circle to listen to your thoughts;
Everyone establishes feelings with others has their own needs and original intentions;
Whether you want to get love, seek understanding, or desire support;
Whether you want to get love, seek understanding, or desire support;
In the partner's lost love and marriage, we will naturally find ways to find another relationship;
Then, based on the instinct of seeking profit and avoiding harm, people will actively expand their circle of friends and experience a new life;
try to get new people, love with new friendships and love, to dispel the troubles and losses in their hearts, and to live a new life;
Since you have talked a lot with outsiders and shared a lot, when you return home and come to your lover, you will lose a lot of desire to talk and become taciturn;
When you see the other person's face, you may feel disgusting.
is sad, but life is for yourself after all;
We don’t have to be obsessed with a wrong relationship, There is no need to consume each other and entangle with the wrong person;
When you find that the other person and yourself are only cold silence and no nostalgia, please clean up the love you have suffered, give yourself a chance to make a new choice, and go to your own happy life.
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