Preface
Once read this sentence: "Life is tired, and half comes from survival, and the half comes from comparison."
People live in this world, and they are inevitably comparative. From comparing grades when you were in school, to comparing work when you entered society, to comparing your partner and children after getting married. We often envy other people's lives and find things we don't have in others. Little do they know that they are also the object of envy of others. A person's value does not need to be compared.
people are 40 years old and have entered middle age. If you have too much comparison mentality, it will not only be harmful to yourself, but also more likely to have adverse effects on your family. As the saying "Forty to three, wife and children are separated" mentions three points that people must not compare when they reach forty. If they compare too much, they may end up with family destruction. So what exactly do these three points refer to?
is no better than the origin
It is said in a rural Chinese saying that "the son does not dislike the mother's ugly, and the dog does not dislike the family's poverty."
In life, both the origin and the gender cannot be chosen and changed. All we can do is accept calmly and learn to change our destiny through our own efforts.
Speaking of Zeng Guofan , one of the initiators of , the Westernization Movement , I believe everyone is familiar with it! He has no background and no background, and is a real cold clan. Born in an ordinary farming family, his ancestors worked as a farmer to make a living, he has learned since childhood that the key to changing his destiny lies in his own struggle. Although he is stupid by nature, he still keeps his cool in the exam room. He took the exam for seven times in the scholarship and finally succeeded in making a Jinshi at the age of 28. Zeng Guofan went from a scholar who failed many tests to an important official in the late Qing Dynasty, relying entirely on his firm belief and spirit of constantly exploring his potential.
We all know that the world is a material world that is constantly changing and eternally developed. Everything is constantly changing. The so-called "feng shui turns around". As long as we find the right direction that suits us and work hard, we who are poor can also change our destiny.
people to forty years have experienced too many different worlds and human feelings. We should also know that we should never compare ourselves with our background. If you keep lamenting too much about your unfair fate and complaining about your background, it will not only aggravate your own pain and lose confidence, but it will also have a significant impact on your family.
is no better than children
In the movie "Hello, Li Huanying ", there is a line like this: "My daughter, I just want her to be healthy and happy."
I believe each of us has heard the "children of other people's families" mentioned by our parents. In the eyes of parents, other people's children will always shine. Little do they know that such educational philosophy is destroying the self-confidence of one child after another.
As parents, they will have the ardent expectations of "I hope my son will become a dragon, and my daughter will become a phoenix" . But you have to be clear that every child is unique and has his own unique highlights, and everyone's life trajectory will be different. If one-sided denial of one's own children with "achievements", "work", and "marriage", etc., it will not only hurt the child's self-esteem, but also easily make the child inferior and rebellious, and affect the child's life.
people are 40 years old and have already started a family and a career. When it comes to education for children, we must always pay attention to methods and never compare children with others too much.
is no more than wealth
Nobel once said: "Money is enough to solve personal life; if there is too much, it will become a disaster for curbing human talents."
In this era of material desires, people's pursuit of material things is everywhere. When the desire for material enjoyment is flooded, there will be endless comparisons. Comparisons of various material things such as money, houses, and cars are constantly emerging around us. Little do people know that blindly comparing money can not only cause psychological distortion and create extreme ideas, but also easily embark on the path of illegal and criminal activities, and eventually end up with a tragic ending of the family being destroyed.
people are 40 years old. The first half of our life's hard work makes us more mature, steady, low-key and convergent.For rich people, not showing off their wealth is a sign of inner wealth, low-key and subtle, and accumulating blessings. For poor people, not comparing wealth is a manifestation of maintaining rationality and facing reality calmly.
Since ancient times, money has never been the only criterion for measuring a person's success, and we who are middle-aged should not compare with others. Compared with the harmony and happiness of the family, money is enough as an outside thing.
written at the end
Our life is like a flash of time, and we don’t have time to fight for the day. Forty is a very important stage for everyone. At this important point in life, we must not compare too much. For an uncertain future, we must learn to be calm and calm, focus more on meaningful things, constantly improve ourselves, and think about future and future development paths. Only in this way can our second half of our lives become more brilliant!
