Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01, introduction
Marriage is like a small house, and couples are the pillars supporting this house. If one of them is weaker, the other person will not be able to hold on and the house will be in danger of collapse.
" My First Half of Life " There is a line from He Han : "Two people are together, and the person who progresses quickly will always get rid of the person who is standing still."
A good marriage has a "equivalent exchange" relationship, and men and women should be evenly matched.
If, in a marriage, neither person works hard, or one of them does not work hard to manage the marriage, then no matter how hard the other person works, the marriage cannot last long.
Couples who can truly live their lives often know "equivalent exchange".
02. Value "equivalent exchange" is evenly matched
When running a marriage, couples who know how to "equivalent exchange" often maintain evenly matched and each has their own career.
A partner who can live a lifetime will not care about low-cost efforts, but will know how to maximize the value of both parties, and encourage each other together, and keep working hard to move forward.
The expectations of the future can reach a certain height together.
When couples have a sense of identity with each other's life planning in marriage, they can create more positive emotional value not only in the family, but also in work.
At the same time, obtain wealth and lay a stable economic foundation for the family.
If the couple works together, the expectations of each other will be higher, and they will urge each other to grow.
Two people are together and can appreciate each other when they have valuable exchanges. The couple, together, can make up for the things they lack from each other. Only such two people can make their lives wonderful.
When two people are independent and help each other in marriage, they will not become a burden to the other person. On the contrary, they will appreciate the power in the other direction more, complement each other and attract each other.
03. Paying "equivalent exchange" is capable of taking responsibility
There is a kind of "equivalent exchange" between husband and wife, which is an exchange for dealing. In this kind of exchange, each other can understand each other's hardships and difficulties.
In marriage, couples who are responsible will "exchange" in their efforts. Because the couple are willing to run a family together.
" Xiaoshede " Nan Li and Xia Junshan are together, no matter what the matter is, they are both responsible for it.
The child has difficulty learning, and Nan Li's homework tutoring is gradually becoming irritable. Xia Junshan takes the initiative to take over the heavy responsibility and continues to help the child improve.
Nanli washes the dishes, Xia Junshan will help you. The two of them worked while talking, and the boring and trivial housework became sweet and warm.
The elderly in the family were sick, just in time for the critical moment of Nan Li’s promotion. Xia Junshan would rather trouble himself and offend customers than stay at home and help take care of the elderly, just to support his wife’s work.
The couple, when they give, "equivalent exchange" is made, men can feel the tenderness and care of women, and women can also feel men's care and care.
If one of the couples is a "hands-off boss", then the family will lose cohesion.
The couple is "equal" in their efforts and can "exchange" with each other, which means that both of them have the ability to bear it. In this way, we can stay together and fall in love with each other in the long years.
04, love "equivalent exchange", grow for love
Gibran said: "Marriage means two strong men in love help each other in the same boat, so as to overcome the ups and downs of the journey of time together."
The couple who can truly live their lives will use love to conduct "equivalent exchange". They will be willing to grow together on the road of life, at all stages.
When in love, expressing love is an involuntary action, but after getting married, you will often become more familiar with each other and forget to express love.
Many couples, after getting married, will shift their focus to things they care more about and ignore their management emotions.
. A couple who can truly stay together for a long time can achieve "equivalent exchange" of love, can understand each other, tolerate each other, and know how to mediate the relationship between two people, and become more mature and rational together.
After getting married, don’t be stingy with saying love to your partner, but know how to create a sweet and warm atmosphere in various ways.
Learn to actively give back to your lover's love and be grateful for your lover's efforts, so that love will become vivid in marriage.
Couples are good at expressing each other with love, giving each other confidence, and living an ordinary life romantic and interesting.
05, Send a message to hiding the autumn voice
"Jane Eyre" writes: "Love is a game, and you must always be incompatible with the other party and be evenly matched in order to stay in harmony for a long time. Because too strong opponents make people tired, and too weak opponents make people tired."
Couples who truly love each other will be good at managing their own businesses and achieve "equivalent exchange" in their personal values.
is economically not a burden to each other, but can provide support when your lover needs help. Couples who are economically evenly matched can respect each other and have equal family status.
Moreover, in terms of efforts, it will also maintain "equivalent exchange".
A couple who truly love each other will not make one person tired when it comes to giving their family, but will share the burden and responsibilities of the family together.
and can also manage your relationships all the time, better express your love in your heart, and your relationship will become more and more comfortable. You can't leave each other and enjoy this kind of time with your lover.
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About the author: Hearing the autumn voice, making a living by writing. The autumn wind boils rain, a glass of sake, a story of three or two, and you are with you on the lonely road.
