For men, some things cannot be moved easily like ribs growing in their bodies, and they are often things that women cannot avoid.
(I) First rib 11 Parents
Most women often ask men a question: Your mother and I fell into the river at the same time, who will you save first?
In fact, this problem often adds a lot of trouble to men, because this choice has touched his ribs for him. As a woman, if you always compare yourself with his parents and even need him to make some choices between you and your parents, it has invisibly added a lot of pressure to men.
For men, he hopes that his lover can take good care of his children and his parents. This is his greatest wish after getting married. Therefore, for parents, sometimes women should consider the problem from another perspective.
The old saying goes: "Love the house and the mist." If you really love your man, you will naturally love the relatives around him.
In many extramarital affairs cases, one phenomenon can often be seen. A wife usually has a good relationship with her parents-in-law, and some of them are even very tense.
When a man finds out that you take good care of his parents and even loves his parents more than he imagines, you have added an emotional bargaining chip to yourself. Because "unfilial piety" is a very negative evaluation for men. If he is charged with "unfilial piety", the image of the man will be negatively affected and others' evaluation of him will be reduced. In this state, if you can take good care of his parents as a partner, your emotions will naturally heat up.
(II) A man's second rib, brothers
Women have a best friend, and men naturally have brothers, but women's feelings for their best friend are greater than righteousness, while men's feelings for their brothers are more righteous than affection. A man is particularly loyal to his brother. When a man introduces you to
his brother, it means that he already recognizes you very much. And how you get along with his brother in the future is particularly important, so don’t talk about his brother at all times, try to get into his circle and become friends with his brother.
Of course, not every man has good brothers around him, and there are also some brother groups that you may not look down on or even unreasonable.
But you have to understand that among men’s brothers, there are often partners who grew up with them when they were young, comrades, classmates, and career partners. Friends they make at different stages of time cannot become excellent in the future. If you criticize his brother from your perspective, it will make him feel uncomfortable and think you look down on him.
Women should give warnings when men do something wrong, but do not use a belittled attitude to excessively interfere with their emotions and contacts.
(III) A man’s third rib is one by one dignity
When a man has an extramarital affair, he can often be forgiven by women. Women will compromise to protect their family, but when a man knows that his woman cheats, why does he always cannot accept and forgive? In fact, in addition to his feeling that his territory was occupied by others, it was more because their dignity was greatly hit.
Therefore, matters involving men's self-esteem are also minefields that women must never touch. Once they touch this minefield, you will find that you will not exchange for larger bargaining chips for your emotions, but will instead create more disputes, and even the two of them part ways.
(IV) A man’s fourth rib, dreams and ambitions
For a man, most of his dopamine comes from his motivation. When a man is full of motivation, it is when his mental state is at its best, and it is often the time when his dopamine secretion is the most vigorous, and it is also the time when he can provide more love to his family and his lover. This motivation comes from the man's dreams and ambitions, but many women often tear a man's dreams to pieces.
For example, when a man says, three years later, I must reach a certain level or a certain position. At this time, some women will say, "You are too whimsical with your ability." Or, "You are so lazy every day, I don't believe you can realize this dream. You are a person with a lot of ideas but not a spirit of hard work." Critical words like
often easily hurt men's self-esteem. When a man has dreams and ambitions, a woman cannot directly suppress him. Although we cannot give him some confidence blindly, because this is not the right way to deal with things. When you say such words against your will, you will also feel uncomfortable.
More often, you have to tell him, "No matter whether your dream can be realized or not, I think a man with dreams is always very attractive." "Of course, you just need to think about what kind of effort you have to put in the process of this dream." "I will definitely support you until the end and be by your side." When you say these words, men will instantly feel your company and never leave.
(Five) The fifth rib of a man is a stomach
Men like to eat a food, which does not mean that the food is delicious or expensive. Men’s choice of food comes more from attachment to their family, so we often hear some men say that this dish has the taste of a mother. Because he prefers the warmth that this food brings to his home rather than the way this dish is made, or how good this dish is, so if you tie a man's heart, you can tie his stomach first.
If you can make a dish for him that he likes very much, and there are often some minor changes in these dishes, or occasionally hold some family banquets, it will make men feel stronger about their family.
Many women will be paranoid about men being a socialized animal, while women being a family-type animal. This conclusion is often unscientific. It is precisely because a man is a social animal that when he has too much pressure or carries too much responsibility in society, he has higher requirements for his family than for women, and he hopes that his family can relax and relieve stress.
So, a dish that makes him like the most, or a family dinner that can make him remember the taste of family, will make him forget the pressure of society and the troubles of work, and will also enhance his dependence on you and his sense of belonging to the family.
(Sixth) Men's sixth rib, sex
We did a data survey and interviewed more than 4,000 men and asked them how much of the important ratio of sex in the relationship between the two sexes is about. Among these more than 4,000 questionnaires, we found that the lowest answer accounted for at least 50%, while the highest answer accounted for 80%.
At the same time, we also conducted a survey of more than 4,000 women and asked the same question, that is, how much sex does you think in the relationship between the two genders. The highest answer is that it accounts for 50% of the gender relationship, while the lowest is actually 3%. This is because the brain structure of men and women is different, so women often love a man in their own way.
Men enjoy sex more and are more willing to share, and are more willing to create. Sex can quickly forget many worries. Chinese women are often afraid of sex, and more often they have ideas in their hearts, but they just dare not tell them frankly.
However, women must not punish a man with sex. Once they cannot get sexual satisfaction in you, they will definitely use other methods to make up for sexual vacancy, and various troubles will naturally arise.
Through these six ribs of men, we will find the difference between men and women, which also determines that they pay the same attention to the difference. As a woman, you need to understand what is the bottom line of a man. If you know these bottom lines, you will not easily touch them. As long as you don’t touch the bottom line of men at will and understand their needs, your relationship will be stable and lasting.
or above is excerpted from "Emotional Psychology" ( He Lijuan ). Scientists cannot invent drugs that keep love fresh forever. The only solution can be to learn how to get along with both sexes.How to transition from love to marriage and maintain the eternal vitality of this relationship is a kind of knowledge. Friends, let us learn together and work hard for a happy marriage @Learn some psychology every day @Learn some psychology every day @Learn some psychology every day @Ordos headlines @Reading
