Preface
"Nine out of ten things are not going well in life", People cannot everything go well in this life, everyone will encounter unpredictable difficulties and challenges, and life is like a rose with thorns, which is always fragrant and tempting, but when you think about getting it, you will inevitably be stinged. But no matter how bumpy the road ahead is, as long as we face difficulties and solve them skillfully with wisdom, we will eventually get closer to the other side of happiness.
Everyone’s life is a life that continues to mature through countless falls. Only by experiencing layers of levels can we enjoy more gorgeous scenery. The saying "Three levels of life, you will be safe if you escape." also mentions the three levels that we must go through in our lives. Do you know what these "three barriers" refer to?
First level: Mouth guard
"Little Clothing Record" writes: "Only those who are cautious can achieve great success, so those who promote the Han Dynasty must be the Marquis of Wu."
In life, they are always inevitable to interact with others, and the relationship between two people is often particularly important. Being able to speak is a science, and being able to behave properly is a cultivation. Language best exposes a person. We will get close to each other because others are comfortable speaking, and we will get alienated because others speak harshly. People who know how to be cautious in words and actions and take care of others' feelings are often people who are particularly willing to take the initiative to get close to each other.
The so-called "The disaster comes from the mouth", often brings disaster to death because of a few words that go out of your mind. As the pinnacle of mainland palace dramas, " The Legend of Zhen Huan " has won the likes of many viewers in recent years, and is also a topic that everyone often discusses after dinner. The summer, winter and spring ended with misery because it was too high-profile and arrogant and did not know how to be cautious in words and actions.
Before entering the palace, when she taught her aunt to teach her the rules, she not only easily neglected the other party, but also said rudely to her aunt; because she lived in the same palace with Anlingrong , she often slandered her harem, and mocked Anlingrong for being shabby and sad. As a newcomer in the harem, when she went to the queen's harem to pay her first greeting, she not only implicitly mocked Concubine Hua , but also showed off the queen's reward ceremony in front of Hua Fei... All these aroused Hua Fei's dissatisfaction, and also laid the foreshadowing for her later awarded "100 red ". At the end of the story, she stayed in the 100 red forever.
You must keep your mouth close in life, and don’t seek temporary speed that will bring unnecessary disasters. Learn to be cautious in your words and actions, and pay attention to your words and deeds, so that you can be lucky.
Second level: Emotional level
Napoleon once said: "People who can control their emotions are greater than generals who can win a city."
In life, we will always meet all kinds of people and communicate with some of them. And we will find that people who can maintain rationality in their emotions are always extra calm and most of them can accomplish great things; while people who are at a loss when encountering things are often prone to decadence and giving up.
Only by learning to control one's emotions can one be the master of emotions and control one's life.
The long journey of life, we must have enough control over our own emotions. No matter what happens, always be positive and optimistic. We are full of sorrow and too much negative energy will never change the status quo. We should work hard to find breakthroughs in problems and solve them.
The third level: Desire level
Xiao Berner once said: "There are two tragedies in life. One is that your desire is not satisfied, and the other is that your desire is satisfied."
Everyone has desires and demands, but due to different values, what they want is different.Some people want to make a fortune and their desire for money will be stronger; some people cannot withstand the temptation of delicious food, so their desire for food will naturally be stronger; while some people have more pursuits for spiritual satisfaction and desire. Once a person is controlled by desire, even if he gets what he really wants, he still does not know how to satisfy himself, which can easily lead to a disaster.
It is normal for people to have desires, the key is to know how to control. Desire can be present, good desires will make people motivated and move them, and under the stimulation of desire, our execution will become stronger and stronger. However, desires cannot exceed our own tolerance. If desires are allowed to expand infinitely, it will aggravate our greed, and then for personal desires, it may even go to illegal and criminal activities, and end up in the state of destruction of family and death. It is really not worth the loss.
written at the end
Xiang Austin once said: "There is actually no failure in this world except psychological failure; as long as it is not a complete failure, you will definitely win."
Life is like a long journey. During the journey, we will climb the top of the mountains and ridges from time to time; we will smell the birds singing and the fragrance of flowers in the countryside from time to time, and we will experience the difficulty of wind and rain hitting people from time to time, and the road ahead is always an unknown road. Even if tomorrow is far away, it is very dark, but when we break through the many major hurdles of life, there will be the beauty of "dark willows and bright flowers" .
