I am 43 years old and my wife has passed away for 3 years. When I saw the blind date arranged by my parents, I almost fell off.
My name is Zhang Ming, I am 43 years old this year. 3 years ago, my first wife completely left us due to ovarian cancer, leaving me and our only daughter behind. My daughter is Tingting. She just entered the first year of junior high school this year and is in the rebellious period. I work in a state-owned enterprise. I am 1.78 meters tall and look OK. I usually have the habit of training and look quite young. After my wife left, the company leaders and colleagues often introduced me to each other. During this period, I fell in love with a woman named Xiaomin, who is a bank teller. She is 38 years old this year. She is tall, sweet, gentle, and has good conditions. She has never been married yet. I like her very much, and she doesn't dislike me for being a second marriage and having a child. We love each other and are preparing to start a family.
However, my daughter Tingting was very resistant. She felt that if I married Xiao Min, I would forget her mother and just don’t love her anymore.
She also said, if I dare to marry Xiao Min, she would run away from home and would not recognize me as my father.
I didn't expect my daughter to react so fiercely. I did a lot of her ideological work, but none of them worked.
Xiao Min also felt that she couldn't handle my rebellious daughter in the future, so she backed down and asked to break up with me.
had no choice but to cut off contact with Xiaomin. I love my daughter very much and don’t want to cause trouble to her because of my remarriage. After thinking about it over the years, I decided not to consider personal issues anymore, to train her well, and to wait until she gets admitted to university. However, my parents were very anxious. They felt that I was still young and my life was still long, so I still needed to find someone who knew the cold and the hot. They said that in a family, there is no mistress, only men and children, how can I live this life? My current age and conditions can still be chosen. In a few years, others will choose me.
So they started to arrange things and wanted to choose a suitable girl for me. A few days later, my parents arranged a blind date for me, and they also mysteriously told me that my daughter would definitely not reject this blind date. I was puzzled and went to see me.
The moment I saw my blind date, I was stunned and almost dropped my chin. I also understood the good intentions of my parents and mother-in-law. This blind date partner is my sister-in-law. My sister-in-law is only 3 years younger than me. She divorced and returned to her parents' home three years ago because of her brother-in-law's cheating. When my sister-in-law divorced, she brought her son back. Her son is one year younger than my daughter. Because my sister-in-law and her sister have a good relationship, our families have been getting closer over the years, so the two children have a good relationship and often spend the night at each other's homes. Especially after my wife passed away, my daughter was always the sister-in-law who helped take care of her.
My parents and mother-in-law have always believed that it is most appropriate for me to reorganize my family with my sister-in-law. The two children have a good relationship and will not have conflicts when they get along in the future. The stepmother is an aunt and the stepmother is an uncle. They don’t have to worry about the future situation of stepmothers and stepmothers and stepmothers treat their children badly. My mother-in-law also said, in this way, our two families are still a family.
My sister-in-law also agreed, and the two children did not object, but I felt a little disgusted.
Over the years, I have always treated my sister-in-law as my sister. I suddenly told me that she wanted to be my wife, and we would live in the same house and sleep in the same bed. I felt uncomfortable all over.
There is also, I am still afraid that others will gossip and be pointed at when I go out. I hesitated for a long time and told them that I would consider it again. But they said, no need to think about it anymore. Throughout history, after my sister passed away, my sister-in-law has always had things to do. I just couldn't make a turn for a while. When I figured it out, I would find that this was the best arrangement. Is
really like this? Have you ever seen such a reorganized family? Is this really suitable? Should I agree?
