"You have lived with my son for several years, and you still need so many betrothal gifts?" Before getting married, I was humiliated by my future mother-in-law. I replied to her with one sentence and turned around.
01
I am Fangfang, I am 26 years old this year, and I have been in love with my boyfriend Jiaming for 7 years and plan to get married recently.
We started our campus romance in sophomore year, and then when we graduated, we did not break up like everyone else. Instead, I chose to stay in the city where my school is located, intending to find opportunities here. Finally, I can settle down.
The job I just graduated and found was not very high, and I didn’t want to continue to trouble my family, so I rented a house and lived a life of cohabitation.
We are usually busy with work, but we try to go home to cook and eat. On weekends, we would go shopping and watch movies together. Although there were also bumps and bumps, overall, life was quite happy.
Several years have passed, our work is basically stable, and we have accumulated some savings. We consider buying a house at the right time. It is time for us to consider getting married.
02
But I still have some worries in my heart. On the one hand, my boyfriend has some bad habits in life. I am a clean person, and he is a person who is not particular about the details. He often throws clothes and socks around these little things. We often quarrel over these little things, but he always uses sweet words to make excuses me, but never changes.
The most important thing is that I am a little worried about my future mother-in-law. I know that my future mother-in-law has always been unsatisfied with me. She disliked my thin figure and said she was afraid that it would be difficult to raise her. She also disliked my family from the countryside.
So, I have been in love with my boyfriend for almost 7 years, and I have only been to her house a few times. Every time I see her ignoring me, I feel very uncomfortable.
I told my boyfriend about my discomfort, but he always said that he would not live with his parents in the future and just have less contact, so there would be no conflicts.
Although there are all kinds of concerns, I have been in love for 7 years, and it is time to consider getting married.
So I discussed with my boyfriend, but who knew that my boyfriend was hesitant and did not give a clear reply. It took almost a month to delay, and he didn't do anything. I became popular and had a big argument with him, and finally he finally agreed.
03
Not long after, we made an appointment with both parents to discuss the wedding. This was their first time meeting. Everyone had a very harmonious conversation before. However, when it comes to bride money, there are differences.
My father suggested that according to the rules of our hometown, the bride price will be at least 88,888 yuan, and it must be equipped with brand new furniture and appliances. After hearing this, my boyfriend's mother's face changed and she said that the full set of furniture and appliances can be satisfied, but the bride price was too much, and she also sarcastically said whether she wanted to sell her daughter.
I glared at my boyfriend fiercely, hoping that he would do something, but he lowered his head.
My father couldn't hold his face as soon as he heard it, and his emotions immediately rose, and his tone became higher. My boyfriend's mother was not showing weakness. Just when I wanted to stop it, my boyfriend's mother's words were like a sharp sword piercing me through.
"Your daughter and my son have lived together for 5 years, and you still have the nerve to ask for so much money."
My father was so angry that he was flushed and couldn't speak excitedly. When he came back to his senses, he turned to scold me, saying that I didn't love myself, and that I was looking for someone. When I heard these, tears of grievance surged out.
I turned my head with tears in my eyes, but he stood next to his mother, as if he was stunned and did nothing.
I wiped my tears, rushed to my boyfriend's mother, stared at them, and said word by word: "Auntie, I won't marry anymore, your baby son, keep it yourself!"
My boyfriend's mother was so angry that she wanted to scold me, I turned around and took my parents away without a trace of hesitation.
04
Afterwards, my boyfriend found me and wanted to explain and save me, but I didn't give him any chance. Not long after, I moved out of our house, rented another house, and started living alone.
Although we have been together for 7 years and have lived together for nearly 4 years, now we have broken up, and it is impossible to say that we are not hurt or sad.
But I am very glad that I saw clearly the character of my boyfriend and his mother before getting married, and stopped the loss in time and did not cause more harm to myself.
After experiencing this, I think I should be more cautious when I fall in love in the future.
You said, is my choice correct?
Love and marriage are all two different things. In marriage, how to deal with the other party’s in-law relationship must also be studied hard. Fangfang underestimated the influence of her boyfriend's mother on him and overestimated her tolerance.
Fortunately, she was able to discover it in time and stopped the cliff, which did not bring any worse results. From this point of view, she was lucky.
As parents, they should not interfere with their children too much. At most, check the other party’s character for the child and give their own suggestions. The other is decided by the child. No matter what the result of the choice is, everyone must be responsible for their own choice.
Are you right?
Friends, if you were Fangfang, what would you do if you encountered such a situation? Welcome to leave a message to share your suggestions.
