text丨The West Chamber of affection
Time has not been long, I hope you will meet in my words!
Details show people's hearts. Whether a person values you is not what he says, but the details of his getting along with you.
After all, people are good at disguising. In order not to provoke unnecessary hostile parties for themselves, most people will choose to conceal their truest views.
For example, a person clearly doesn’t like you, but he calls you brothers at the dinner table; a person doesn’t love you at all, but he still maintains a relationship with you.
However, even if people's hearts are unpredictable, details cannot deceive people. Whether the other party values you will directly determine his attitude when getting along with you.
and the four small details of the information can be seen whether the other party values you.
Detail 1: When you receive your message, will you reply to you as soon as possible
Before seeing this sentence on the Internet: If a person receives your message, he has never given a reply. That means the other party doesn't want to pay attention to you, not because of being busy.
Indeed, in this era of highly developed information, it is impossible not to see the message you sent. It is only possible that the other party does not value you, so he chooses to ignore your message directly.
There are still people who don’t want to reply to you in their hearts, but they cannot break up with you for some reasons. After struggling for a while, I will still reply to you on the grounds of being busy.
. Even if the person who truly values you, even if he is busy, will reply to you as soon as possible and make an appointment with you for a reply time.
Unless his mobile phone is turned off and he cannot receive your message, he will not reply to you immediately without knowing it.
So, for those who refuse to reply to your message, you should understand how perfunctory the other person is towards you.
Detail 2: If there is no timely reply, will you actively explain the reason to you
As mentioned earlier, if the person who truly values you, even if it is really inconvenient to reply to you, will give you an appointment as soon as possible.
When he finishes the busy things in his hands, he will naturally contact you immediately and explain to you the reason for the inconvenience just now.
Although this explanation does not seem important to you, it is different to him. If he does not explain it clearly, he will worry that you have ideas in his mind.
Therefore, explanation is necessary so that you can show your important position in his heart.
People who do not value you will even think it is troublesome to reply to your message, and it is even more impossible to patiently explain the reasons to you.
So, if the other party does not reply to your message in time and whether it has explained later, you can see whether the other party values you.
Detail 3: The attitude when replying to your message, whether it is serious and peaceful
Whether the other party attaches importance to your details is the attitude of the other party towards you during the communication process. What is different from the first two details is that they are more suitable for identifying real and fake friends in life, while this one is more suitable for seeing the attitude of colleagues towards you.
Because work is not like life, you can not answer if you want to. The reason for your work makes communication between you and your colleagues compulsory. Even if the other party is biased against you, he cannot refuse to reply to you.
So, by replying or not, you cannot see clearly whether he values you. Therefore, his attitude when replying to your message becomes the best way to see clearly.
Pay attention to your colleagues. Not only will you reply to your messages quickly, but your tone will also be very peaceful during communication with each other.
Because your purpose is to serve the company, so there is no problem of who is higher and who is lower.
Unless, he does not value you. So, even if it is related to work, you can't show a good attitude towards you even if you see the object you are.
He will only think that as long as he responds to you, he will not delay the normal development of his work. As for whether he is cold or not, what you think about it has nothing to do with him.
So, those who negotiate with you often look negligent or indifferent when they look like they are negligent or indifferent, and they will definitely not pay attention to you.
Detail 4: At the end of the conversation, whether it will become the sender of the last message
is very important. It is not only a question of politeness, but also the most intuitive manifestation of whether the other party values you or not.
For those who value you, they often respect you very much. So, if you were asked to end this conversation, he would feel rude and would worry that you would be dissatisfied.
So, no matter what, he will be the person at the end. Only in this way can he feel at ease.
But those who despise you will not consider this. Originally, your existence doesn't matter to him, so he doesn't care no matter how you think about it.
As long as you have solved the focus of the conversation, it has nothing to do with him as far as the ending is concerned, and even if you have something to say, he will not pay attention to you anymore.
In general, people who value you can see their respect and positive response to you even in the small matter of replying to messages.
People's hearts are warm, and only if they care about you will pay special attention to your feelings. Therefore, even if he responds to messages, he will pay great attention and seriously.
People who don’t care about you are either too lazy to reply to you, or they answer in a few seconds what they can solve, and the rest will be thrown to you.
is the case. I think you should have an answer to the question of "whether others value you?"
