Introduction
Have you noticed that people become more and more nostalgic when they get older, and it is particularly easy to thank relatives for their hard-won things, especially most elderly people after retirement, who attach great importance to family affection.
So some elderly people only hope that their children are by their side in their later years. If their children are not around, the elderly will have more time to spare, and they will visit relatives' houses.
This behavior of the elderly is still understandable, but many times, the thought that family affection is very important may not do anything in the eyes of other relatives. Even so... some elderly people still value family affection very seriously.
does not mean that this kind of idea of valuing family affection and the behavior of moving relatives is not good. Our uncle Li also values family affection very much, but he said: "Class affection is important, but don't visit each other frequently. In fact, it is easy to be disliked." Let's take a look at Mr. Li's experience.
63-year-old Mr. Li’s self-report
My name is Li Changsheng, I am 65 years old this year, and I live in Suizhou, Hubei. My original family has four sisters, and my wife’s family has three sisters. My wife and I are also the third one, but it is not an arranged marriage.
After the matchmaker introduced us, we contacted ourselves and decided to get married only when we felt it was appropriate. After marriage, my wife gave birth to a son and a daughter for me. While we were happy, the pressure of life also came with it.
Although I am a teacher, I really can’t support a family with a monthly salary of two or three thousand yuan, so every time I’m on holiday, I think about doing some business to supplement my family’s income.
Therefore, my wife, two children, and the sisters at home are often separated for a long time. My wife has no fixed job, and she has to take care of the children at home. It is already very hard and she has no energy to do other work.
. Every winter and summer vacation, I would follow my cousin to build steel bars on the construction site. Later, I thought repeatedly, otherwise I would not be a teacher and quit my job and go out to start a business by myself, but my wife would not agree.
told me: "When the child is older, I will go out to work, put the child in school boarding, and we will work together."
said that I would not be a teacher. When I get old, neither of them will have a retirement salary. How should I live my life in my later years?
After thinking about it, my wife is right. Although the teacher’s salary is not high at the beginning, there is , five insurances and one fund . Later, with appreciation and various subsidies, the salary will also increase. If you go out and start your own business, if you fail, everything will start over.
In this way, my holidays are occupied every year, and I can only sit together with my family for a few meals during the Chinese New Year.
Although I feel it’s very hard, after seeing the two children, I feel that everything is worth it. But life never gives people a choice. Many times, only by giving up can you gain, you get the life you want, and at the same time you miss the time to accompany your family.
Fortunately, the two children worked very hard. Although they did not follow my expectations and did not get into the university I expected, both children made their interests into careers, which is a great thing.
Career is to have interest in order to develop for a long time. When my child grew up, I finally retired. At the moment of retirement, I felt that I finally reached the end.
But after I really retired, I was doing nothing every day and felt very decadent and didn’t know what to do. Sometimes when I thought the weather was good, I told my wife to go out for a walk.
But my wife said, "The epidemic is so serious, I will put it home if I have nothing to do, and go out and watch TV at home. If I am really bored, I will play music, dance, and exercise my muscles."
When I thought about it, my wife was right. At this critical moment, the safest home is the safest.
Later, the epidemic was unblocked, so my wife and I discussed going back to the countryside. The air in the countryside is good and safe. In addition, my sister and brother have both returned to the countryside, so it is convenient to go and see it occasionally.
When I first returned to the countryside, my wife and I bought a lot of food, and then sorted out our own fields, grew orders at home, and lived a pastoral life.
I also thought that when I was young, I had no time to spend with my family, nor to see my sister and brother. Now I am retired and have a lot of time. If there is no epidemic, I will go see them more. After all, I am the sisters of a mother and family. Family affection is precious.
During that time, I said to go and see my brother, and then go and see my sister after reading it. They are old and don’t know when they will be gone, so while they are still there, take a look at them more.
I took my wife and gifts to my brother's house first because I came to my house, and my wife's house and ours were in the same state as the village next door.
I didn't expect to go to my brother's house the next day, and the village was closed again. The epidemic came suddenly, and I couldn't go back at all. At first, my brother said, "It's okay, I'll block it. We brothers haven't been together for so many years. Now you have retired and have time. It just happened to have two more days of fun at my brother's house."
But I never thought that one letter would last for half a month, and that was really enough. Later, my wife and I didn't go there when we came back. We were afraid that we would be sealed at my brother's house again and didn't take anything.
Until the end, the epidemic was basically completely cured, so I said to my wife: "Let's bring some things to see my brother."
"Also go? You are not afraid of being blocked, so you should be at home and don't go anywhere. The safest home is."
"The epidemic is now fine, it's okay, if it doesn't work, go to nucleic acid. Actually, I'm not saying that I have to go to my brother's house. I just feel that I have been blocked at his house for so long last time, and we didn't bring anything. We eat and drink at his house, and I feel sorry for it.
We can't just eat his family's house without even saying thank you. Besides, just such an older brother, how precious is family affection."
So, my wife and I took things to my brother's house. As soon as my brother entered the door, my sister-in-law said, "Why are you here? Didn't you block it enough last time I was blocked here?"
Hearing my sister-in-law's words, I seemed to dislike us. I knew my sister-in-law was feeling uncomfortable. After being blocked for so long, I had to cook more people every day. I was very tired from cooking, which was understandable.
Although my sister-in-law's words sounded harsh, I still sat down and said, "This time I came to thank my sister-in-law and brother. I have been in your house for so long, and I have eaten and drunk. We didn't bring anything by ourselves. My sister-in-law still cooks every day, which is quite hard, so we came here to thank you this time."
that time, my wife and I left after dinner. I didn't dare to stay for too much, and I was afraid. I spent most of my time staying at my own house, but I still felt sorry for my brother's house.
After the news of the village being closed for a long time, I thought I would go and see them now and should not be blocked.
So I had a lot of free time at home, so I started visiting relatives and visiting each other until I went to my brother's house again that day. First, I value family affection, and secondly, it was because of the last incident, and I always felt embarrassed.
But when we went there this time, my brother went to the mat, and my sister-in-law was alone at home. When my sister-in-law saw me and my wife, she said, "Are you two very idle every day? You always come to my house. I am not a free nanny and don't want to serve you at all.
You'd better not come. If you are sealed in my house again, my family can't afford to support so many people."
From then on, I learned that family affection is important, but you should not visit each other frequently. It is very important to be self-righteous, but it is easy to be disliked by others.
Moreover, the current epidemic is not suitable for visiting relatives. If you visit relatives, you will stay at your own home if you have nothing to do. If you visit relatives are sealed to your relatives’ homes, you will be disliked when you have been in contact with each other for a long time.
So don’t go out if you have nothing to do. If you think family affection is very important, just call and care. It is much more convenient than going to relatives’ houses. I tell you from my experience that family affection is important, but don’t visit each other often, especially during the epidemic, don’t visit each other. If you accidentally become a thorn in the heart, others are afraid of seeing each other when you go.
Conclusion
Many elderly people attach great importance to family affection, but they should also know that they cannot get too far away from each other no matter what relationships they have. Excessive relationships not only attract others’ dislikes, but also have anger.
So whether it is in family, love, or friendship, it must be just right. The most important thing is that the current epidemic is not suitable for gathering.
Family affection is very important, but people are selfish. Compared with more important family affection, their own life is more important.
Today’s topic: In the current epidemic situation, how do you view family affection? What do you think about Mr. Li’s visit? Welcome to leave a message for discussion!
