do you know? The more sensible woman is, the less cherished by men!

When I first fell in love, I thought that if you were a sensible girl, you would get love from each other. After getting along for a long time, I found out that the result of being too sensible is that not only will he not be cherished by men, but he will also be bruised and bruised.

What is a woman who is too sensible in her feelings?

When a boyfriend is late for a date, she will say it’s okay and I understand you; when a boyfriend is very close to other women, she will say I believe you; when a boyfriend makes a mistake, she will even push the blame on her At that time, she would bear all this silently and say sorry to her boyfriend.

Such a woman looks gentle and considerate, understanding, as if she is the ideal partner of a man. But such women are often not cherished , because men understand in their hearts: Without me, you can't do anything.

What is "sensible" and what is "not sensible"? Let me give you an example.

When you are in a relationship, you are obviously uncomfortable because you don’t want to disturb your boyfriend’s party. Going to the doctor alone is "sensible". Conversely, if you keep crying and calling your boyfriend to come and take care of you, you are "not sensible".

In fact, it is easy to see that the core of "sensible" is to respect each other's needs beyond what you want. Therefore, a sensible woman often suppresses herself and assumes everything on her own, which will gradually create a man’s heart of "not being needed". When "sensible" becomes a kind of inertia in the lives of both parties, they are destined to not be cherished by the other.

Qianqian once liked a boy, maybe because of the early stage of love, she didn't know what love is, let alone how to reject others, so when he offered to associate, she immediately agreed.

Cici will make breakfast for him every day. Because he has a large appetite, she makes two servings for him every time. She thinks that her efforts will be cherished and rewarded by him. But one day, when she went to give him breakfast, he asked the girl standing next to him in front of Cici: "Did you just say that your stomach hurts? I have two breakfasts here. Give you one. "

At that moment, Cici felt a little disappointed. He gave another girl the breakfast he had made. He didn't care about her feelings at all, but in order to give her boyfriend face, she pretended not to care and smiled at that. The girl said: It's okay, you can eat!

Later, he and the girl got closer and closer, went downstairs in the dormitory to wait for her, invite her to eat together, and even when the two of them went out, she also came with him, and every time he always confronted Qian Akane said: My brother was bored at home alone, so he brought her out to play together, don't you mind?

said that it’s fake if I don’t mind, but Cici doesn’t know why she is afraid to express my true inner thoughts.

Actually, Cici was very disappointed, because he never seemed to think about his feelings, he didn’t know what I wanted, maybe he never knew me, or maybe he was only grateful for me, not at all feeling.

Later she realized that it was because of her excessive "sensibility" and "consideration", which isolated the channel of mutual understanding between herself and him, and also killed the source of his favor for me.

He is not "don't cherish you", but simply cannot "fall in love with you".

This is the truth of the fact: when you think you are too sensible, the other party does not cherish you. In fact, you have overlooked a big possibility-he did not fall in love with you at all.

Once a woman depends on a man, it will make the man feel that he has taken you, and then she will not cherish it. Slowly she will fall into a dilemma. In fact, I think To break this predicament is very simple, just do these five points.

One. Don't contact him frequently , never show that I am only you, I recognize you, and he must learn to hang him aside appropriately, and he will realize the importance of you to him.

Two. For men, you must have reservations , and you must also have sustained attractiveness. You can’t tell the whole story, let aloneSet in stone.

Three. Don't always turn around men, have your own normal social circle. There are friends of the opposite sex, hobbies, and at least once a month a party that belongs to you completely without a boyfriend.

IV. Occasionally there will be a short separation , distance can produce beauty, and it can also bring long-lost freshness to your relationship.

Five. When your man is indifferent to you, never admit it. Remember, don’t be sad, don’t feel sad, live your own wonderful life, he doesn’t cherish you now, and he won’t be able to afford it in the future.

Love requires some "ignorant" behaviors, such as anger, jealousy, etc., occasionally having small emotions of your own, this is a normal performance of a woman, rather than not dare to show her feelings, or even a step Step to wrap yourself up. In this relationship, you only have sensibility and giving, but he only has resistance and pressure.

You are too sensible because you are afraid of losing him, but the man who really loves you, no matter how "ignorant" you are, he will not leave you.

I really like a line in the movie "Tuina": A person walked over and ran into a car called love; a car came on the other side and crashed into a car accident. It is a pity that cars always collide with cars, but people always let go.

Only the stronger the ability to maintain emotional relationships, can you meet your own emotional needs to the fullest: let him

love you and spoil you more, and you will be happier.

Therefore, only by learning the ability to truly love and be loved can you control your own happiness!

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