"I am in my early forties and I don't want to live and dare not die." When my friend said this, I couldn't believe it.
This year, he is 42 years old, married, and his child has just entered high school.
In the eyes of others, she is a successful woman with both career and love, but she is so upset every day that she is so annoyed, physically painful, anxious inside, involuntarily, and increasingly desperate.
More than ten years of writing at the desk, coupled with the hard work of housework for many years, I kept having headaches, sitting and standing, and my figure was so bad that I couldn't stand it;
The child just went to high school and asked for money for various tutoring classes; I and my husband both reached a professional bottleneck, and I didn't have the energy to do a big deal, and I dared not resign...
Suddenly, I remembered a very good person on the Internet before. Smiling jokes:
"A man is a Journey to the West when he reaches middle age! Wukong 's pressure, Bajie 's figure, Laosha 's hairstyle, Tang Monk is like a nagging monk! He is getting closer and closer to the west."
The first time I heard this sentence, I thought of those bald men who were rushing on their posts with big belly, but women can't escape this disaster when they reach a certain age.
Women reach middle age is also a Journey to the West.
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Wukong's pressure
The most common sentence we hear in "Journey to the West" is: "Senior Brother, the master is captured by a monster." In life, what we hear children shouting the most is "Mom, I want..."
After getting married, every woman has gone from a girl who has no fingers to a versatile family chores who can take care of the whole family.
The husband can’t find her clothes, so look for her; the child needs to take care of her; the mother needs someone to take care of her when she is sick, so look for her... She is simply powerful and omnipotent.
However, behind such omnipotence is the pressure of constant pressure. We have to take care of everyone's feelings, and we have paid the most and ignored the most.
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Sha Seng hairstyle
zeng A friend of the scriptures joked: "You can learn Sha Seng's personality, but never learn his hairstyle."
Sha Seng's simplicity is well known to everyone. He worked hard all the way to learn from the scriptures, carried his horse and carried his luggage, and he also persuaded the master to believe in the elder brother with sharp eyes and let the second brother give up the idea of returning to Gao Laozhuang , worry the most, and do the most tiring work.
To be honest, such an image is also a mother in every family.
For a while, I was also very worried about my hair loss . I always shuddered when I saw various pictures of hair loss on the Internet.
All kinds of work overtime, irregular diet, lack of sleep, the most direct reflection of the body is that there is less and less hair.
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Bajie's figure
It's really not easy for women. They have to endure the pain of giving birth. The deformation of their figure and have to endure all kinds of incomprehensions from their husbands.
Some time ago, I saw this news:
Before getting married and having children, Liu Yajuan was a "little fairy" in her husband's eyes and was obedient to her; after giving birth, she gained 80 pounds, and became a "thorn in the eyes". In the end, her husband disliked her and asked for a divorce, and her whole life changed.
Becomes fat after giving birth and deformed body shape after marriage. This is a problem that many mothers have to face. They have ten months of pregnancy, no social interaction, and lack of sleep, but they are criticized and accused.
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Tang Monk's nagging
When it comes to Tang Monk, many people's impression is two words: nagging.
Especially in " The Big Journey to the West " series by Stephen Chow , Tang Monk's nagging was shown to the extreme, but the most common complaints in life are "Mom, why are you nagging like Tang Monk?"
Women are middle-aged and seem to have endless things to say in the eyes of others:
Remind your husband to take medicine on time and pay attention to rest; remind your children to complete their homework on time and not play around; remind parents to pay attention to safety when going out, and not believe in those messy false propaganda; there are endless topics to talk about when they get together with friends.
There are too many people who care about it, the more you worry, the more you talk naturally. Many times, you don’t know it, but there are still endless advice.
Every middle-aged woman has to live in a movie like this, and she plays multiple roles alone, and she bears all the hard work and fatigue.
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Many times, we just see the misfortune of women after they are forty years old. In fact, after they are forty, it is the real beginning of a woman.
Her energy and ability are at the peak; she has her own understanding of the world, her own aura and energy; her marriage has also stabilized and her children have grown up.
To put it another way, she has the fighting spirit of a monkey, Bajie's open-mindedness, Sha Seng's persistence and Tang Seng's concentration.
There is an American drama called " Big Lies ", which I especially like.
The story takes place in the wealthy area of Monterey, USA. The protagonist is a few middle-aged women. Most of them are housewives. Every day their lives revolve around their husbands and children, but behind each person is a lie, each suffering from the pain from lies and the real life that is constantly hitting head-on.
The reason why I like this drama is because while telling a good story, it also carefully portrays various three-dimensional lives and the courage and struggle of these middle-aged women in the face of hurt.
The life of middle-aged women is a long "way to learn from the scriptures". The trivialities in marriage and the family issues in life are all necessary "ninety-nine and eighty-one difficulties", and in the end they are all for obtaining the "true scriptures" of life.
I remember hearing such a philosophical saying:
"The most tragic thing about a woman is not to get old, but to lose herself in marriage and ordinary life. Women can age, but they must be elegant until they die. They cannot let marriage waste women with luster."
What we should do is just accept our age calmly.
Treat the people you meet well; be grateful for what you experience; cherish the people you love.
Then, welcome every new day with the most perfect attitude, face the difficulties of life with the most firm beliefs, and obtain the true scriptures of life.
