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What are the good ways to get through the trough? Why is there this topic in
? Recently, when I was browsing articles, I found that many of my friends are in a very anxious but unchangeable situation, including me.
clearly has full plans every day, but in the end it is a daze. This state makes people feel pain, discomfort, self-blame, guilt, and then a deep sense of powerlessness swept over.
Maybe everyone will experience such a difficult low period in life. At this time, it is depression and depravity, and it is a depressed person; or calm down and turn the tables against the wind, it depends entirely on our hearts.
If you are also in this state at this time, you might as well take a look at the following methods, perhaps it can become the antidote to our lives.
01
@Spring flowers bloom
Life is impossible to be smooth sailing. Each of us will experience our own trough in our lives. There are always some things that are unbearable for you. Whether at work or in love, the trough period is a very difficult time.
Even so, we still have to face it with a smile and adjust our mentality. Try to get out earlier. Here are some small ways for me to get through the trough.
1, sleep
Usually I will sleep when I encounter some troubles in life and feel very depressed. When you fall asleep, you won't think about it. When you wake up, you will fall asleep all the bad things. Slowly reconcile with yourself, adjust your state, and slowly get out of the trough.
2, Reading
As the saying goes: Books are the spiritual food of human beings. Words are a very magical thing. Sometimes they will be instantly awake by a book, a passage or a heartfelt word in the book, and will also be warmed and healed. Slowly let yourself go, get out of the depression period, and find your own confidence.
3. Walk to nature,
Walk out of the house and walk to nature, breathe the fresh air, listen to the birds' chirping, look at the running water, and enjoy the beautiful scenery. Feel the beauty of nature. I believe that life also has a beautiful side, everything will pass and will get better.
Finally, I hope we can all get out of the trough with our own methods. No matter what life experiences, I hope we can face it with a smile and continue to move forward.
02
@Xiaochengzi
has been one month since the start of school, but I still can't adapt to my current life. I can't finish ppts and endless case analysis, so I can't write, and I can't finish emo at one time. I knew I could not continue to be negative like this, so I tried to change.
1. Start looking for the "little happiness" in life, heal yourself
During class, I saw the lively squirrel in school; I went to the cafeteria to eat, and I got my favorite dishes; I made a PPT display, which was praised by many people. Record these "little happiness" incidents bit by bit and defeat your fear of Kenichi's life.
2. Empty yourself for one hour every day, and give yourself half a day off every week
During the time of studying for graduate school, I really feel that the time is getting less and less.Because of my discomfort in postgraduate life, I would leave an hour every day for myself to have fun and give myself half a day off every week to allow myself to work hard after a thorough rest and meet new challenges in the best state.
3. Go running and turn the sadness into sweat and spill it out
Life is really tired and busy now. When you are particularly uncomfortable, you will go to the playground to run in many, many laps until you are exhausted. Let your sadness be turned into sweat, and let yourself enjoy a moment of tranquility during exercise.
Life is not smooth sailing. There will be many sad moments on the way. Only by finding a way that suits you to adjust, can you face all challenges fearlessly.
03
@Yijia
The summer after graduating from university, I didn't have a good time. I lived alone in a rental house, and traveled around a fixed route every day at a fixed time, and the days seemed to be inaccurate.
When I realized that something was going to change, most of the summer had passed, but fortunately I finally resurrected with full blood.
In the past two years, whenever life is not going well, I always think of that summer and the methods that support me through the trough. It is really helpful!
It turns out that I can also get out of the trough with my own strength. Here I will share some of my personal small methods. I hope everyone can upgrade and fight monsters successfully:
1. When you are anxious, put aside what you have at hand and give yourself a vacation, go shopping, eat, and watch movies.
2. Leave yourself enough time and space to be alone. It is good to have someone to talk to, but sometimes we need to listen to our inner voice and have to take our own ideas.
3. Back method. Looking back on your past honors and highlights, they will hint that you are great in the past and will not be bad in the future. The current low is just an episode.
When it is at a low point, stand at a higher place and look around. You will see more scenery, and the sun is upward.
04
@Wu Shi
The Chinese teacher in high school once said to us: When you encounter difficulties, imagine yourself in a pot, no matter where you go, you will climb up.
At that time, even I was experiencing a purgatory senior high school senior, I never really realized this sentence.
until the college entrance examination is over and you enter the university. With the blessing of extraordinary performance and national bonus points, I had the honor to enter a 211 university.
However, what followed was a gap in learning, lack of expression skills, and even social difficulties. I can't get along well with my roommates, lonely and depressed, I feel like a dying fish beside a dry pool.
After being shrouded in such dark clouds for nearly a month, I began to seek ways to save myself.
The first step is to face difficulties and face difficulties
I am a person who loves to escape from my bones, and this time I choose to face them directly, not afraid, not afraid. In my studies, I don’t understand in class, so I spend a hundred times more time than others after class; among my roommates, I am timid and dare not communicate, so I start with common hobbies step by step and start the topic.
The second step is to use external forces to achieve half the result with twice the effort
When we fall into a trough, we can not only "be good at things", but also "be good at people". When I communicate with my friends, I release the depression in my heart; when I talk to my parents, I regain the motivation to move forward; when I discuss the doubts about learning with my classmates, I make more progress.
The third step is to be determined and persevere
When everyone enters a trough period, no one knows how long it will last. Many times, people who cannot see the end in the fog often give up when they are closest to the shore.Only by perseverance can we finally see the sun. This sentence applies whenever it is.
05
@Xiaolu
I was particularly confused for a while in college. Because of the epidemic, I didn’t know what to do every day. In the future of social learning, every item is causing pain to me.
Later I used a three-step approach to get through this trough.
1. Move
" Burns New Emotion Therapy " says:
"You can change the way you feel by changing your way of doing things. There is just a hurdle you need to pass - when people are depressed, they will feel that they can't do anything."
"But as long as you have the intention to change your situation, as long as you act with a self-rescue mentality, sometimes you don't care what you are doing in detail."
start to learn a new skill, insist on writing, reading, and exercising, and let busyness liberate yourself.
I came out completely through the public account. The sense of accomplishment when I passed the manuscript and the efforts I made to pass the manuscript. All of this made me feel anxious and confused, and also made me work harder to get better.
2. Don’t be afraid of
I was afraid of not handling the dormitory relationship well at the time and was afraid of not having a good future. But if you think about it carefully, being alone is not a bad thing, and you can’t even touch the edge of the future now.
"Everyone will have a difficult time, and the life that survives will suddenly become clear. The time that cannot survive will also teach you how to shake hands with them, so there is no need to be afraid."
Embrace life, love life, and a positive attitude is better than a thousand words.
3. Reduce the requirements and create happiness
Tell yourself that I don’t have to succeed or become famous, I don’t have to crush everyone, I just want to live well.
Walk outside, let the sun shine on your body, take a walk, and see the scenery along the way. The vastness outside will make you cheerful in an instant.
records the little things that make me happy. The flowers on the roadside are blooming. Today I saw the particularly beautiful starry sky, etc., giving myself a chance to laugh.
Adjust your emotions. The more you collapse, the more you need to restrain yourself. Take your time and everything will be fine. Not far ahead, there is a flower blooming on your face.
is often the beginning of getting better at a low point. Positive actions, healthy psychological state, and positive attitude towards life can help you quickly get through the trough.
06
@日本
failed the college entrance examination that year. I was a little confused. My scores set a record low. I don’t know where to go.
Although I had good grades in several rounds of mock exams, I was sure of being a second-tier university, but now I haven't even reached the second-tier university.
My parents kept comforting me. Seeing their worried eyes, I held back the sadness in my heart and prevented my tears from falling.
is books and music that helped me through that low period of my life.
Murakami Haruki said:
Don’t worry too much about the present, nor do you worry too much about the future. When you have experienced some things, the scenery in front of you is already different from before.
Yes, life is still long, just go and explore while walking, and looking back may not be a big deal.
is like the lyrics: My last stubbornness and I, I will never put my hands tightly, will the next stop be heaven? Even if I am disappointed, I cannot despair.
can't just give up so easily, I want to fight again. Later I repeated the school and got admitted to a double first-class university as I wished.
When you are in a bad mood, read books and listen to music. All aspects of life can be seen. Get rid of impetuousness and enjoy peace.
books and music can heal the pain in your heart and accompany you through a difficult time.
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