Some people are very confident, generous and easy to deal with their relationship with their partners.
Some people are very inferior in their relationship and complain about themselves, and in the end they become "self-abandoned".
Self-confidence and inferiority complex are actually "self-worth".
The higher the sense of self-worth, the more confident the person is; on the contrary, the lower the sense of self-worth, the more likely this person is to be inferior.
What is self-worth?
simply put it: individual evaluation and cognition of self.
And in the marriage and love market, self-worth is divided into two parts:
"material value" and "spiritual value".
Therefore, if the opposite sex has a deeper and deeper relationship with you, you must increase these two values.
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Improve your "material value"
Blind date, love and marriage, one of the factors that determine success rate is: material.
In other words:
In the current marriage and love market environment, if you do not have a certain material foundation, it will be difficult for you to find a satisfactory relationship.
The relationship between men and women has changed from an emotional game to a "combination of interests".
This reminds me of some "blind date corners" in cities.
Parents go on blind dates instead of their children.
They make their children's conditions just like doing a resume, and then wait for the "destined person" to come and test it.
At this time, the material value is magnified.
What is material value?
You can also understand it as "hardware".
includes: work, income, house, car, education, etc.
The higher the material value of a person, the higher the attractiveness in the marriage and love market, which is inevitable.
is explained according to the "Maslow demand theory", and economic foundation determines the superstructure .
When a person meets his or her needs for survival and life needs, he or she begins to pursue higher-level needs.
Love comes after life needs.
Strictly speaking, material value is not so easy to increase.
Because for most people, their work and income are fixed, and they can only "step by step" throughout their lives and accumulate their wealth and family background bit by bit.
For this type of people, stability is the best state.
Since you can't change your work and income, try to change from yourself.
For example:
Change your external image, learn to dress, work hard to exercise, maintain a good figure, have a confident smile, etc.
These are also part of the "material value".
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Improve your "spiritual value"
Some people make money every day and are rich, but their spirit is barren.
spiritual value directly determines a person's "attraction".
There is a saying on the Internet:
"When I see your IQ, I don't care about your face."
Some time ago, I saw a hot topic:
Why are young people becoming more and more "intelligent"?
What does intelligence mean? That is: Compared to a person's appearance, I love his IQ more.
And "intellectuality" is an aspect of pursuing spiritual value.What aspects include the spiritual value of
?
Knowledge, conversation, experience, experience, emotional intelligence.
These are all spiritual values.
For example:
You chat with the opposite sex, and every time you raise a topic, the other party can catch it and continue chatting with you, which means that the spiritual values of both of you match.
has a common language, similar interests and hobbies, similar spiritual pursuits, etc.
How to improve spiritual value?
The easiest way to do it is: read, think, learn, and be alone.
Reading can help you increase your knowledge and gain knowledge; and seeing more knowledge will promote your thinking ability and exercise your logical ability.
When you have certain logical abilities, your learning ability will be stronger.
If you can stick to it, then you will be able to endure loneliness and finally learn to enjoy being alone.
Only when you are alone can you have a clear understanding of yourself and find your life direction and goals.
This is a gradual process.
One of the reasons for the attractiveness of the opposite sex is: "self-worth attraction".
The higher your value, the higher your attractiveness to others;
When you have no value, no one is willing to show too much attention to you.
From a psychological perspective, there are two ways for a person to obtain a "sense of value".
First: Outside the world's attention and recognition.
For example: Getting praise from others is always encouraged and supported. The sense of value of
is "external value".
Parents encourage their children, mutual praise and appreciation between lovers, cheering up between friends, etc., which will enhance a person's sense of value.
2: Self-achieving (self-actualization).
simply put it: every goal you set for yourself is completed as scheduled.
Whenever you achieve a small goal, your sense of accomplishment will become more and more, and eventually you will become more confident.
Anyone with a high sense of value is very popular.
Today’s topic:
What kind of people are attractive to you?
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