In life, we often find this situation: after a person finishes his words, someone can see that he is lying or finds that he is bragging, so he immediately stands up and exposes him, which leads to the fact that the person cannot get out of Taiwan, and the scene is very embarrassing.
For example, at a friend’s party, there will inevitably be some people talking loudly, saying that they know a certain celebrity, and how they can succeed in their careers. Those who are interested in this kind of words will know that they are lies and big words at the first time they hear them. At this time, there are always people who stand up and say loudly on the spot, "You are lying, you don't know a certain celebrity at all." Or deliberately sarcastically, "You really know him, that's great. I'll introduce it to us tomorrow!" "If your career is successful, why don't you drive a good car to party?" When the other party blushed because of being exposed, they will smile proudly, looking very awesome: "I'm smart! I've seen through his lies!"
Such people feel that they are upright and smart. In fact, this is a sign of low emotional intelligence. As the saying goes, "See through but don't say it out loud, and know others but don't judge others." Many times, most people will see through the lies or big talk about the people around them at once, but due to the occasion, timing, or the other person's feelings, they will choose not to tell them. In terms of being a human being, this is a manifestation of wisdom, a manifestation of generousness, and a manifestation of high emotional intelligence. If you are keen to expose others on the spot, you are easily resentful. And over time, the people around you will stay away from you. Because no one knows when you will expose their past and tear down their own positions.
At a banquet, a businessman who competed with Carnegie in business criticized Carnegie and said a lot of bad things about him. When Carnegie appeared, the man still didn't notice it and was still evaluating the other party unscrupulously. The host of the banquet was very embarrassed about this. However, Carnegie's expression was very calm. When the businessman who criticized him found that he was right next to him and kept silent, the other party felt very embarrassed and closed his mouth with a red face.
The man was about to get out of the crowd, but Carnegie walked up sincerely and shook hands with his "opponent". He seemed to have not heard him say bad things about him at all, and handed him a glass of red wine, giving him a chance to hide his temporary embarrassment. The next day, the businessman who criticized Carnegie came to Carnegie's house and repeatedly expressed his gratitude to Carnegie. So, they became good friends and supported each other in business. Since then, this person has often praised Carnegie as an amazing big shot.
Carnegie's tolerance is really admirable. It is precisely because of this that he won the respect and trust of the other party, making the two good friends.
There is another story: Cao Cao from the Three Kingdoms period is suspicious by nature and always worried that he would be murdered, so he said to his subordinates: "I like to kill people in my dreams. Don't get close when I sleep." Once, while Cao Cao was sleeping, the quilt fell under the bed, and the servant went up to pick up the quilt and sorted it out for him. Unexpectedly, Cao Cao jumped up immediately, drew his sword to kill the servant, and then continued to sleep. When Cao Cao woke up the next day, he pretended to be shocked and asked who killed the attendant. When someone around him told him what happened, Cao Cao pretended to be very sad and ordered someone to bury the servant. After that, everyone around Cao Cao was shocked and frightened.
Cao Cao's subordinate Yang Xiu guessed Cao Cao's intention and exposed it to everyone, "The Prime Minister is not in a dream, but you are in a dream!" In fact, many people know it well and don't want to expose it, but Yang Xiu showed off his cleverness and speaks without any restraint. Cao Cao knew that he secretly hated Yang Xiu in the future, so he laid the groundwork for finding excuses to kill Yang Xiu in the future.
Sometimes, someone makes jokes because of his lack of broad knowledge. If we directly expose the other party, it is likely that others will be embarrassed and unable to get out of Taiwan. However, people with high emotional intelligence can always smooth things over the parties involved and find a way out.
There were a few people gathered together and they ate roast duck. The roast duck was originally rolled in a cake and eaten with cucumbers, shredded green onions, sauces, etc. according to their personal taste.However, there was a boy who had never eaten roast duck before. When he came up, he picked up a duck cake and drank it. When he wanted to get the second one, someone found it funny and began to look at him with strange eyes. At this time, a girl next to her said, "I used to like eating this duck cake, but later I found that if I only eat duck cakes, I would be full, which is a pity." After that, I also took a cake and slowly rolled it with duck sauce and other things. After eating, I said, "It's better to roll some duck meat." At this time, everyone no longer paid attention to the boy who only eats duck cakes. And the boy immediately understood, and picked up a duck cake and started rolling it up to eat it.
so, life does not need to be exposed, it is more important to manage yourself than anything else. Just look at others' harmless lies or talk during casual chats, so why both parties are unhappy? As for the inappropriate things done by the people around you or the inappropriate words, you might as well turn a blind eye. This is the great wisdom of interpersonal communication.
