A few days ago, a question aroused widespread discussion among netizens.
The young man encountered demolition at his home, but did not choose a house, so he chose cash compensation.
So, he was in a small county town and received a compensation of RMB 5 million.
Living in a small county town, your family is not short of houses, and you will have another five million in cash, and you will have a happy life.
However, when my favorite girlfriend found out, something happened.
"Add a bride gift, the 100,000 yuan promised to add to two million yuan, and leave it to the girl's house for her parents." The girl's tone was unquestionable.
He is still looking forward to a beautiful marriage, and the other party has begun to treat it as a market.
He is still looking forward to a happy life in the future, but what comes first is a negotiation of interests.
The reason why it has caused so many discussions is simply because love and marriage are topics of life that we cannot avoid.
Love is love, marriage is marriage
Many people always confuse love and marriage, which is wrong.
Love can be a dream, marriage is a kind of survival.
Many people think it is vulgar to talk about money in marriage, and marriage requires love and feelings.
The kind of marriage that breaks through the secular world and resists money always receives praise from people, and it seems that this is loyalty to marriage.
Why many people are obsessed with their first love is nothing more than two reasons.
First, the one thing I met at that simple age was quite pure.
Second, it is a kind of compensation for oneself that has lost.
tell you something, I can basically understand it.
I remember that a colleague had a previous job, and after we got off work together, a luxury car parked at the door of the unit in our surprised eyes.
The next day, we joked with her, why do we know such a rich man?
She said: Just a childish man.
It turns out that this man who is now a company boss appears in front of her in bright clothes.
told her that she had always had a crush on her back then and she didn't dare to say it.
General Secretary This colleague gave a very good summary: "I just feel that I'm doing well, so I came here to pretend for me. Isn't it nice to take a high-speed rail?"
Let's continue to talk about marriage.
If ordinary people want to understand marriage, they must first understand life.
Firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, are you familiar with?
Marriage is subject to material and moral constraints.
You may say that many poor people look good, but they don’t get divorced.
First of all, the poor are morally bound. You don’t see a divorce in the village, the whole village knows it.
In addition, many people are not married together, they can be attributed to living together, just like that day by day.
There is a very likely question in your mind at this time.
Please continue reading.
What is maintaining marriage and what is destroying
We don’t need to talk about the big truth, and talk about the marriages of four celebrities, and you can get a glimpse of it.
1. Morality in marriage
Guo Moruo had three wives and one lover in his life.
Two of the four people committed suicide, and the two held grudges against him for life.
Many of his more than a dozen children refused to recognize him as their father.
In his later years, he was alone.
2. Feelings in marriage
Lao She When he was young, his family was poor, and someone sponsored them, the orphan and widowed mother.
Lao She also sponsored her to study abroad.
Lao She fell in love with his daughter.
After returning from his studies, this good man surnamed Liu has been ordained and died after becoming a monk. His daughter has disappeared.
She became an indelible pain in Lao She's heart. "Untitled" and " Micro-God " are used to commemorate her.
34 years old, my friend introduced me to get married.
Wife is a new young man who works in cultural work.
When the two of them are in trouble, the wife fully supports her husband.
Lao She rarely writes about his wife. Although mentioned in a few articles, you can feel more out of reason and it is difficult to see your heart.
The Cultural Revolution came, and my wife took the lead in publishing a big-character poster to expose her husband.
Lao She sanks into Taiping Lake.
3. Fun in marriage
Shen Congwen fell in love with the lady of a family Zhang Zhaohe , which belongs to love at first sight.
Then, turn on the bombing mode.
wrote hundreds of love letters, and finally, with the help of Hu Shi and and others, he hugged the beauty home.
The two people may have separated for a time because of their hasty marriage and their different family backgrounds.
After the liberation of
, Zhang Zhaohe returned to Shen Congwen's side.
Shen Congwen gave up writing and turned to study history, which was also influenced by his wife.
During the ten-year catastrophe, my wife donated a large number of cultural relics from her parents to help them escape this turbulent period.
She wrote on her husband's tombstone: "If you don't agree, you will be the best of your writing; if you are kind and kind, you will be innocent." The sixteen words condensed Shen Congwen's life.
4. Marriage
Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang , their stories need not be told.
The pure love and the comprehensive protection.
ignores other things and only seeks the true heart.
Four stories, four kinds of marriages, four kinds of endings.
We can actually see a lot of things from it.
The so-called marriage is simple and complex
Guo Moruo lost morality in his marriage, and Lao She's marriage has morality but no emotions.
Shen Congwen's marriage has both, but it lacks fun or understanding, and the victory lies in stability.
Qian Zhongshu's marriage almost contains everything, and it is consistent inside and outside, which is desirable.
Look, is it not easy to say that marriage is simple but not complicated, but it is really not easy to say that it is complicated.
In marriage, some people long for it and some people plot.
Some people pay blindly, while others are happy to enjoy the fruits.
Some people work hard for their homes, and some people lie down and watch you laugh at them.
Some people want to flap their wings and fly high, while others want to break your wings.
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We call two people in marriage “partners”. It is estimated that few people have read the two words
carefully.
"companion", one person and half, "couple", two people.
Two people agree with each other, support each other, and become partners.
Some things can be seen from the beginning, and the more you drag it, the heavier it becomes.
When you are intoxicated by love, I want you to think more.
Character is not only important in friendship.
handles the relationship between "me" and "us", which is actually a mapping of marriage.
