I read a sentence:
"A woman with high emotional intelligence has a soft appearance but a firm heart. She is not very wise, but can stay awake."
Think carefully and it is true.
Women with high emotional intelligence are the concrete manifestation of their comprehensive qualities, and are definitely not the endorsement of shrewdness and snobbery everywhere. To be precise, emotional intelligence is a woman's ability to live a good present and resist various risks.
Specifically, a woman can do the following three points often shows that she has a high emotional intelligence and is very powerful.
1 Knowing restraint is a kind of respect for
Gorky once said: "Even a little restraint of oneself can make people strong and powerful."
For a woman, knowing restraint is often a concrete manifestation of high emotional intelligence and a smart move to respect others.
Knowing how to restrain means not being ostentatious or self-centered. When interacting with others, you can think from the perspective of others, take care of others' inner feelings, let others feel their kindness, and then become a popular person.
A female friend has a deep feeling about this.
At first, she thought in her consciousness that she was with others, as long as she showed herself without any scruples and let the other party see her truest side.
However, after experiencing something, she found that she was wrong.
She went to play with her friends. Many people obviously had less skills than her, but she only cared about her happiness. She had to defeat the opponent and lost each time to be happy. Even after the opponent served, she had to resolutely smash it...
That's it. The more she played, the happier she became, but the others gradually didn't want to play with her.
After reflection, she no longer "ruthlessly" smashes every time, but strategically interacts with each other, making everyone like themselves more and more.
A truly high emotional intelligence woman will never be self-centered everywhere. Even if she is eloquent, she will not talk endlessly and not give others any chance to speak; even if she has unique advantages, she will not show off and suppress others everywhere; she will not use her own preferences to ask others to be consistent with herself...
A woman understands restraint, which means she understands that everyone has strengths and weaknesses. She can restrain her obsessions at any time, so that she can keep herself calm and calm while taking into account the emotions and feelings of others.
After all, a true high emotional intelligence is definitely not about being good at dancing, being sleek and sophisticated, but about being able to maintain controllability of one's emotions, thereby enhancing the ability to understand others and get along with each other in a friendly manner.
2 Clear rules is an attitude
There is a saying: "Without rules, there is no circle."
In this world, whether you interact with people or do things, certain rules must be followed behind them.
Only when you truly understand the rules behind it can you truly make a relationship last for a long time and make yourself more successful in doing something.
On the contrary, if you just change and do not follow the rules according to your own preferences, you will definitely be an unpopular person and even more a person who will not be valued by others.
For women, their biggest thinking limitation is their fear of head-on confrontation. Whether they are in a person or in doing things, they often dare not face their needs or express their own opinions. Even if they encounter unpleasant or unsatisfactory things, they will choose to turn a blind eye and keep their eyes on themselves.
truly women with high emotional intelligence know the rules and understand that this is a self-advice manifestation. Covering or escaping cannot solve the problem at all. The thinking that truly pushes things forward is "showing the trump card, each setting up needs, each advancing and retreating, and each gaining."
This rule is not only applicable to human relationships, but also to maintaining feelings.
After all, rules are a kind of agreement that must be followed, and it is also a form of contract that everyone agrees with.
Only when a woman understands this can she not let herself blindly avoid and give in, but knows how to point out offense and provoke based on the other party's attitude, and then judge the situation and give reminders and warnings.
Do this so that you are reasonable, polite and face-to-face, and make the other party realize what he is really wrong, make him feel from the bottom of his heart that he is a person who is not easy to mess with, and then truly respect himself from the bottom of his heart.
A woman, only by being clearer about the rules can she live freely and clearly.
3 Staying awake is a kind of ability
Emperor Wu of Han Liu Che wrote in " Autumn Wind Sayings ":
"The autumn wind rises and the white clouds fly, the plants and trees fall and the geese return south.
orchids are beautiful and chrysanthemums are fragrant, and I cannot forget the beauty.
pan floor boat 号号号号号 号号号 Fen River , flowing across the horizontal waves.
flutes and drums sing and singing, joy and sorrow.
When will I be young and strong, I will be old!"
It is said that this was written by him for the deceased Mrs. Li . Faced with the departure of his beloved woman, Liu Che was in great pain and could not help himself.
Liu Che’s life was romantic and suave. Chen Ajiao was thrown into the cold palace. Wei Zifu was forced to commit suicide. Lady Gouyi was executed. Only Mrs. Li was deeply loved. This is not because she is lucky, but because of her high emotional intelligence.
In the background at that time, Mrs. Li fully understood that she could be deeply loved by Liu Che because of her charming appearance.
When Mrs. Li was seriously ill, Liu Che went to visit him in person, but was disappeared from seeing him under the quilt. Even if Liu Che asked to take a look again, he was opposed by Mrs. Li.
Finally, Liu Che insisted on taking a look at Mrs. Li, and she also turned around and sighed and shed tears.
After Liu Che left, Mrs. Li's sisters blamed her for not treating Liu Che like this.
Mrs. Li said: "Those who serve others with beauty will be weak, and their love will be relaxed. The reason why Your Majesty never forgets to come to see me is because of my good face in my life. If you see that my appearance is now deteriorating, you will definitely despise me. How can you help your relatives?"
Women with high emotional intelligence can always keep a clear mind and be able to see the essence clearly. This is one of their own ability and a manifestation of their own excellence.
As expected, Mrs. Li was buried after her death, and her relatives were also well taken care of by Liu Che.
A truly high emotional intelligence woman knows one thing: emotional intelligence is definitely not self-clear, but that she has a clear understanding and judgment of other people's personalities, can see the pros and cons, and know how to interact correctly.
Only in this way can you truly reduce the damage and not devote yourself to it like a moth to the fire. When you truly regret it, everything will be too late.
A woman may not be smart, but she must have emotional intelligence. This will allow you to have the ability to live well in the present, and also to have the ability to resist various risks. The more you live, the better you will be!
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