Hot affection is a quality, and oneness is a ability;
Love is a feeling, and love is a ability.
Those who love you may not be dedicated, but those who are dedicated to you will definitely love you. Everyone needs to figure out the logic of
.
What are the ways of getting along with couples in close relationships that can they go to the end?
Why do some people’s love is “very long”, but some people’s feelings always fail?
In fact, this is related to different love patterns.
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In love, they all have their own "boundary sense"
What is boundary sense?
For example:
Boys are in love with girls. After boys come home from get off work every day, they are used to going to the study to read a book before going to bed.
And girls are used to watching dramas for a while before going to bed.
So the two agreed: You go to the study to read, and I will play cats in the living room to watch dramas. In a state like
, it eventually forms a tacit understanding.
Two people do not disturb each other. Only when the "desire for sharing" is strong will they walk to each other and share with each other.
For example, when you read a book, you see interesting places, and when you watch a drama, you see exciting parts.
The rest of the time, the two of them are busy and do not disturb each other.
This is the sense of boundary.
Even if we love each other, even if we live together, we will leave each other some private space and freedom.
Couples who can get married must have this ability.
Some people are prone to fall into this misunderstanding in love:
"Since he loves me, he should prove to me that he loves me; so he wants to allow me to check the post and allow me to look through his phone."
In fact, such love is full of depression and restraint, and over time, it will only make the other party escape.
Excessive love will not only not make your lover "grate" to you, but will instead "drive him away" from you little by little.
No relationship or relationship should be excessively invaded the other party's "personal distance".
If you try to control the other person, your relationship is about to come to an end. When there is a problem with
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When there is a problem, I am willing to jointly resolve the contradiction
There is a consulting case.
A wife left a message saying:
She has been married to her husband for only two years, and I don’t know how many times she quarreled, but now she is numb.
She said that every time a conflict arises, she takes the initiative to communicate with her husband and tries to resolve the conflict; however, her husband always responds with a silence and cold treatment.
After a long time, she became more and more angry.
She and her husband met on a blind date. They got married after 3 months of getting to know each other.
's hastily decided made her gradually realize that the relationship with her husband is becoming increasingly weak.
In fact, one of the main factors affecting intimacy is the lack of effective communication.
Simply put, it is:
When some people have conflicts with their partners, they either deal with it coldly, quarrel, or rise to personal attacks.
These behaviors will have different degrees of impact and harm on the relationship.
And how do those couples with stable emotions do it?
They will suppress their emotions as soon as possible and analyze the causes of conflicts.
Even if they can't suppress their emotions and vent their emotions, they will quickly adjust their state and actively lower their heads to communicate with each other.
Whether in love or marriage, communication is always an important means to maintain feelings.
has nothing to say, meaningless communication will have an impact on the relationship between two people.
So, from now on, try to restrain your emotions.
You must understand that your partner is not your enemy, they are the people who may accompany you for the rest of your life.
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3 The couple who can reach the end have the "common goal"
"consistency" is the decisive factor in whether a couple can reach the end.
What is consistency?
simply put it: similar personalities, pursuit of consistency, and consistent attitude towards feelings.
Couples with similar personalities are more likely to get married:
Psychological studies have shown that
People with similar personalities have a much lower chance of conflicts being together than those with complementary personalities.
That is to say, couples with similar personalities have stronger empathy skills and can detect their partner's emotional changes and inner thoughts as soon as possible.
pursues a consistent couple, and is more united:
In other words, both of them have common goals.
For example:
Couples agreed to buy a house and get married after two years of love;
On the first anniversary of love, a romantic trip will take place and get married after the trip is over.
These are "common goals".
Because of the same pursuit and goal, the two are willing to invest more energy and love in it.
There is no relationship that can be carried on by just being perfunctory. Those couples who persisted until marriage have invested a lot in this relationship.
From love to marriage, what couples need to overcome is not only the "material conditions basis", but also the progress of their relationship.
Today’s topic:
What kind of love model do you think can continue?
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