Marriage without love and love without marriage. If you can't do both, I think I will choose the latter. After all, love is a scarce product. It requires the participation of two people, the love of the right time and place and the determination to be eternal at that moment. The biggest difference between marriage and love is that marriage focuses more on life, and only a small part of love is mixed with fragmented daily life and seems insignificant. Marriage without love is more about maintaining a long-term habit and allowing life to continue peacefully.
Perhaps, at that moment, we were more demanding about stability than our desire and existence for love. After all, being able to turn life vividly is also a skill. The love in life becomes a delicacy that you occasionally eat outside. Although it cannot comfort the whole boring days, it can give the tired soul a short nourishment.
I have never thought about what would happen if a person never gets married in his entire life, but as time goes by, I found that many people around me who are older or of the same age choose to be single. They lived in their forties in full swing. After work, I took various interest classes, such as drinking tea, chatting and traveling. You will come to a conclusion in their circle of friends: if you don’t get married and have no children, you can change your boyfriend at any time and live a life that is free to fly.
But some of them did not end up with a kind of rejection of marriage. They said they had fantasized about getting married and had countless desires to get into marriage with each other, but this strong desire made them almost lose their original selves.
No matter how old you are, you cannot do it easily. In love, there is more wishful thinking, and less love. So, when one heart opens up unreservedly for another, she has made all plans for the future. No matter how difficult life will make them, love will never change.
Use "unswerving" to describe their commitment to this relationship as appropriate and reasonable, but there is another word called "seeing others and thinking about moving". The castle they built can only protect those who are willing to stay, and those who want to leave, even if the door is locked, will definitely escape from the window.
What love fears most is not the enemy, but the escape of partners at the moment. The people who stayed always keep their days on with despair of life. If you ask them what you are sticking to, they might say: I am just sticking to every day of my life. Therefore, later they chose someone, which was largely a helpless choice. They rely on the past warmth of love to comfort their later lives.
Marriage without love is like a lake, without waves or trickles, just maintain the existing peace. Both of them in marriage are busy on their own trajectories and working for a common goal. They are strategic partners, alliances, but not lovers. They will sit at the table to discuss solutions to the problem, plan for the future of their children, and prepare for retirement for both parties in advance, but they will not spend even half an hour discussing love. Because in their hearts, love cannot fill their stomachs or change the current situation of life.
They may have had a short flash of love. But later, they all clearly discovered that those lights and those little excitement were just the lights left by themselves on another person. "There is no eternal love, but there are endless days." They used this sentence to end their fantasies about love and exes and let themselves enter ordinary life.
In the future, they are like a pair of partners who have a tacit understanding of each other, upgrading their CPU together and fighting monsters together. There is no love, but you can't be hungry, right? They relied on this blind passion for life and the courage to fight side by side, and they stopped and stumbling along the way.
Is it true that we all turned our lives into a marriage without love? We rarely talk about love. It’s not that we don’t have enough time or that we are long, but that we are afraid that hearing the other person’s answer will cause us to lose the only glimmer of hope for love in our hearts.Therefore, we use talking about ideals, the future, and the opinions on life to dilute our desire for love. We say: Love is to integrate into life, feel the consideration in the face of food, rice, oil and salt, feel the support in the face of hardships, and feel the existence in the face of free expenses.
There may be nothing perfect. Life is like love. We are both regretting, working hard, hoping and disappointed. Until we were in our twilight years, we discovered that life and love were actually interdependent. Many times, they penetrated and influenced each other.
