If your life is thriving, we need to continue to work hard to manage and create. Everyone’s happy life is not achieved by chance, but the result of hard work. No matter how superior living conditions are, if you don’t know how to manage it, your life will not be happy, and you will even be messy.
If you want to change your destiny and make yourself happier, you must learn to give up the following things:
1. Give up relying on others.
Anyone who wants to have a happy life should first learn to be independent. Not only should he be independent in his economy, but he should also be independent in his thoughts and give up relying on others. Because everyone is working hard and running around for their own life, no one can always become your dependence on you and always take care of you.
is no longer an era when marriage changes one's destiny. The idea of doing well before was better than marrying well must be abandoned. Nowadays, marriages are more important to be in a match, evenly matched, and strong alliances. You are useless, so why can you find an excellent life partner? A beautiful face and young appearance will eventually become gone with the tempering of time. What will your value be at this time?
Therefore, if you want to have a happy life, you must make yourself excellent enough, so that you can control your life, not rely on anyone, and still have the ability to make yourself live every day well.
2. Give up and change others.
The stupidest idea of a person is to change others. We cannot change anyone, we can only change ourselves and learn to adapt to the environment, so that we can control the lives of those who are always.
Adapting to the environment is not only a life ability, but also a means to make oneself happy. Because when you have no expectations for others, you can only rely on yourself to change your life and your attitude to maximize your own interests.
Everyone has their own unique thinking mode and living habits. If we always want others to cater to their living habits, it is an idea that is simply impossible to achieve, and it will also add to our own worries.
Only when we give up changing other people’s ideas can we focus more on our own affairs, focus on changing ourselves, and strive to live our own life.
3. Give up and entangle.
The best life state is not to remember the past, not be afraid of the future, and live up to the present. Only those who live in the present are the smartest people. Because the past has passed and cannot be changed. No matter how many regrets you have, it cannot be made up for. No matter how many achievements you have, it is already a past tense and will not be of much help to your life today.
The future has not come yet, everything is still unknown, maybe it may be wonderful, maybe it may be difficult, everything has not become a fixed number, so there is no need to waste your precious time now to worry and fear. Only by grasping the present and living in the present can we create a better future.
A person has been entangled with the gains and losses of the past, which is a manifestation of cowardice. Because you cannot control your future and are not sure to change your current life, so you trap yourself in the gains and losses of the past and refuse to face today's challenges.
Give up entangled the past is the wisest way to live. Only by giving up entangled the past is more energy and time to accept new happiness and happiness.
Xiaotong has been cheated and divorced during marriage and has never been able to get out of the shadow of the past. She tortured herself every day, feeling like this in her life and she can't be happy anymore. Every day I live in resentment and curse towards my ex-husband and mistress, making myself not like a human being, not like a ghost, and no longer the confident and excellent person.
Until one day, she saw her ex-husband and mistress walking happily on the street, she realized how stupid she was. She completely ruined her original beautiful life and spent all her time on hating her ex-husband and mistress, but she failed to change the life of her ex-husband and mistress. Instead, she lost half of her life, which was really not worth the loss.
So I started to cheer up from then on, and half a year later I became the energetic, confident and excellent woman. The life of the ex-husband and mistress turned into a mess when the freshness passed, and it was so painful.
So, the best revenge for those who hurt you is not to fight tooth, but to live as they envy and make yourself happy every day.
4. Give up short-sighted.
The bigger a person’s heart is, the bigger the world is. A short-sighted person will never achieve much success. He will only look at the sky and envy others' success. Whether we are about career or life, we should have an attitude of "looking at the scenery for a long time", and have a broader mind and a longer-term vision.
If a person is obsessed with trivial matters in front of him every day, he will not have greater ideals. He will only care about some trivial matters every day and live a mediocre life. Summer insects cannot speak of ice, and ordinary people cannot speak of it. The broader our minds are, the more wonderful our lives are.
If you want to live a happier life, you must have the ability to be happy, give up the people and things that hinder your growth, and insist on the things that make your growth progress. In this way, our lives will become happier and happier.
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