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What is a relative?
As Lu Yao "Ordinary World" writes: Relationships are often the most vulgar. They try to benefit from each other, and roll their eyes if they don't care about them. Even the biggest difficulties in your life are often caused by relatives. Life will also tell you that relatives are often not as sincere to you as friends.
Look down on you when you are down and out, and jealous when you are in good condition. He hopes you live a good life, but he doesn't want you to live a better life than him. This is a relative.
But no matter what kind of relative you are, you should have a sense of boundaries and boundaries, instead of blindly letting others give and enjoy the fruits of your own.
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Zhao Qing was very upset. During festivals, he was like a free nanny for his mother-in-law. Not only did his parents-in-law move in with him, but even his brother-in-law and sister-in-law's family would bring him a family to eat and drink, and he also called visiting his parents.
As the eldest son and daughter-in-law of the family, Zhao Qing did not have much problem cooking during the holidays. But the key is that since she started cooking, the burden of serving her in-laws' family has fallen on her and she can't even get rid of it.
But she complained to her husband, and her husband thought she was unkind. They were the elder brothers and sisters-in-law in the family. These things should be arranged by them. They can't let their parents take care of their children again.
Zhao Qing was very angry. His parents-in-law were old and could not cook, but his brother-in-law and sister-in-law were both young. Why? She was tired and exhausted in the kitchen alone, and the others were just waiting for her to serve him?
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Seeing that her husband could not convince him, she also told her to treat his parents and younger siblings well and not to neglect them. Zhao Qing was particularly popular. At the beginning, for the sake of her husband's face, she gritted her teeth and persevered, and paid and worked hard, but in the end she was disliked and said that the food was not to the right place.
times too many times, Zhao Qing was reluctant. You should know that when she was in her parents' home, she was also a petite lady who was not touching the water. Why did she wash her hands and serve her 10 people in her husband's family as soon as she married her husband?
But every time she argues with her husband, she will part in a bad mood. In the end, it is her who should cook or serve her, without any change. No one from my husband's family took the initiative to help with the cooking, and even shared the expenses.
On National Day, my husband still invited his parents and younger siblings to come to play at home. Zhao Qing also learned to be smart and did not fight against her husband. He just waited for everyone to squeeze into her house and started setting rules for her in-laws.
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No matter how many people come to the house, Zhao Qing did not lose his temper, but did not take the initiative to cook. Instead, like everyone, I sat on the sofa in the living room and watched TV and played with my phone. It was not until everyone started to get hungry and urged Zhao Qing to cook that she stood up and put forward her own rules.
Zhao Qing ignored her husband's eyes and said directly, "I have married my husband for 3 years, and you have been free for 3 years. It is natural for you to come back to visit your parents. But I have no obligation to serve your family of 10. From today on, you can have a dinner at our house. Either you can work together or the whole hotel has an AA family, otherwise you can go back wherever you come."
After Zhao Qing finished speaking, his in-laws were all confused. Every time I come to my brother and sister-in-law for dinner on holidays, it is already a customary habit. They didn't see anyone who was visiting, and they had to cook and cook?
But Zhao Qing doesn't care about these things. After she directly set the rules of the family, she immediately asked for implementation. Seeing that everyone was indifferent and had no intention of cooking, Zhao Qing started to collect money and prepared to have a meal in the restaurant outside, which was AA. To prevent her in-laws from not giving money, she will collect the money first, and they will make up for it if it is not enough.
Seeing Zhao Qing coming, the faces of the in-laws changed. The sister-in-law rushed away angrily, and the brother-in-law's family also shouted to go back to her parents' home, and her parents-in-law also angrily accused Zhao Qing of being selfish and inhumane. But no matter how they blamed them, their in-laws eventually fled.
Looking at the back of the in-laws leaving, Zhao Qing breathed a sigh of relief. It’s right that they are the eldest son and daughter-in-law, but they shouldn’t just indulge their in-laws’ family.
Writer Bi Shumin : Rejection is a kind of right. You are so easy to talk to, but who can understand you? In front of relatives who do not understand the sense of boundaries, we must know how to refuse.
Today’s topic:
Do you support driving away 10 people from my husband’s family?
