Introduction:
For a long time, the issue of elderly care has been the knot of many elderly people. This topic is very heavy, but it has to be planned well. After all, it is related to whether the elderly live happily in their later years. If there is no distance, there will be sorrows in the near future. The more you plan for the future, the more you can feel safer.
Fortunately, society now attaches great importance to the issue of elderly care. In addition to the more traditional child care to protect the elderly, there are more ways to choose from. For example, there are nursing homes in every place, and the elderly can choose to spend money to live in, which includes food and accommodation, and caregivers. There are also fixed physical examinations every week, which is indeed very suitable for elderly people to live in.
Of course, some elderly people think that nursing homes are not free, and it is too troublesome to go out after moving in. They require children to sign and the director to agree. There are too many procedures, so these elderly people would rather spend more money to hire a nanny than go to nursing homes to live a group life.
Ask a nanny to take care of her at home. One-on-one service is definitely better than a nursing home. After all, there are only a few nursing home workers, but there are many elderly people. Nursing homes will inevitably have poor care. Therefore, if you are an elderly person with a good family background, you will basically choose to find a nanny.
Many elderly people think that as long as they have money in their later years, their lives will not be too bad. Even if their children are unfilial, they can still use money to buy services. They are still very happy in their later years, but is this really the case? Are the elderly who hire nanny to live in nursing homes really happier than those who take care of their children?
78-year-old Mr. Qin's self-report:
I am 78 years old this year and have been retired for more than ten years. My wife was still alive before. At that time, the pensions of our two were a little more than 10,000 yuan. This money can be said to be higher than the wages of many young people, but this money is also what we deserve. I have devoted most of my life to a company, and it is indeed worth the price. I exchanged my youth for food and clothing in my old age, and I will not lose this transaction.
Because my wife and I have enough pension, our ideas are very unified: we are all at this age, eat and drink when we should. Don’t be reluctant to let go, and you must have fun in time.
So after retirement, the first thing we did was to sign up for a tour group. When we were young, we were busy at work and had no time to go out to play. But after retirement, we had a lot of time. We were like a spring that was pressed to the bottom and rebounded completely. We played for half a year and saw many beautiful scenery. We didn’t know why. Finally, we were tired of playing and returned to our hometown.
Originally, my wife and I were going to live a good life in our hometown, but we didn’t expect that my wife got sick less than half a year after returning home. As soon as we went to the hospital for a check-up, it turned out to be cancer. After all, my wife left me forever. This made me feel unacceptable. After all, my wife and I have lived for most of our lives, and she has all my plans for later years, but my wife just left, which caught me off guard and all the plans were broken.
My wife's departure also had a great impact on my life. For example, in the past, my wife always arranged good food for me, so I could only take care of eating and drinking. But now I am the only one at home. I am forced to learn how to cook, but I can't cook, so I can only eat egg noodles every meal. If I really can't do it, I go to a restaurant and order takeaway. Unhealthy diet caused my complexion to look bad. Many friends said that I was a lot haggard.
In the past, when my wife was there, I had never done housework, let alone washed clothes. These were all handled by my wife, but I was forced to this point and could only start learning from scratch. To be honest, I have been using clothes like this for most of my life. Now I suddenly asked me to change my lifestyle. It is really difficult to change.
I have two children, and they are quite filial. Knowing that I am living in a difficult life, I invited me to their house for retirement. I also said that they paid all the living expenses and didn't need me to worry about it, but I ruthlessly refused. The reason was that I lived with them for a while. Before my wife passed away, we went to my son's house to live for half a month. But my son was very busy every day and left us two elderly people at home. This feeling was really bad. He said that he would support me for retirement, and then he would lock me in the house and not be free at all. I don't like this kind of life, so it is absolutely impossible to live with my children.
Fortunately, Lao Zhang came next door to chat with me often. During the chat, Lao Zhang said, "You have a pension and a deposit, why don't you try to live in a nursing home? There are food and accommodation, and there are also nursing staff. There are many peers in it. Everyone exercises together and chats together. How great is it!"
I was moved when I heard it, so I decided to try it. Lao Zhang was very enthusiastic and went to many places in the city with me. Finally, I found a nursing home with the best comprehensive evaluation, which charges 3,000 yuan per month. I think it is acceptable. After all, this place is food and accommodation. In other words, as long as I pay this amount, there will be no other invisible consumption. So I generously paid for one year, then packed up my things and moved into the nursing home.
About a week, I already knew that there was still a difference here and I imagined. Although the nursing home hired people to clean it every day, because the people living here are elderly people, there was always a strange smell in the air. Even if some employees sprayed air freshener, it was useless. The nursing home is a large group, and no one can find the source of the odor, but you don’t have to pay too much attention. Generally, after living here for a long time, I get used to this smell.
What annoyed me the most is my roommate. I live in a room with two people. If I want a single room, I have to pay extra. My roommate always snores when sleeping and grinds my teeth. Since I moved to the nursing home, I have never slept for a stable sleep. Moreover, this roommate seems to be weak and always get up at night. I finally fell asleep. He opened the toilet door and slammed me, and woke me up again. I told him many times, can I whisper in the night? There is still someone in this room! But he had no quality at all and even started arguing with me.
Fortunately, after I reported the situation to the dean, the dean arranged a new roommate for me. This roommate is easy to get along with, and I finally don’t have to stay up late, but there are still many shortcomings in nursing homes. This is a small society, and there are all kinds of people in it. For example, some elderly people who like to show off like to form cliques and bully those elderly people whose children don’t come to visit. I often see some elderly people with mobility difficulties scolding them to tears. It’s so vicious.
The activity center of the nursing home is always occupied by those elderly people. Even if they stop playing, they will not allow their seats, but sit there directly to drink water. We ordinary elderly people can only dare not speak out, and watch them play and can only worry. After a while, I don’t like to go to the activity center. Anyway, I can’t get a seat after going, so I stayed in the bedroom all day in a daze. After only half a year, my mental state became much weaker.
Half a year later, my daughter came to the nursing home to see me. When she saw that I had lost more than ten pounds, she must have lived a bad life here, so her daughter insisted on taking me home. At first, I gritted my teeth and said that she was doing well, but seeing that my daughter's eyes were red, I was no longer stubborn, so I asked my daughter to go through the procedures and returned to her hometown to live.
My daughter taught me at home and said that when I was old, I should not make trouble. The nursing home environment was not good, so I didn’t go there in the future. In the end, my daughter was still worried, so she went to the housekeeping center to find a nanny for me. My daughter said, “This nanny costs 5,000 yuan a month. My brother and I are half of this money. You can enjoy your happiness at home. In the future, the nanny will take care of you 24 hours a day, so that my brother and I will feel at ease."
My daughter stayed at home for a week, supervising the work of the nanny, and told the nanny what I like and what I don't like to eat, so that the nanny could remember my preferences. Not to mention, the nanny I found was really diligent. She is a standard housewife. The home-cooked dishes taste good and the hygiene was cleaned very clean. I was quite satisfied with her.
After a week, my daughter said goodbye to me and said she should go back. I know that my children are busy with work, so I didn't stop her too much when my daughter was about to leave. But I didn't expect that the nanny was a dish to watch the dishes. When she saw my daughter left, Serve me became perfunctory. When my daughter was there, she greeted her three dishes and one soup every day, without any other meals. As soon as my daughter left, she only cooked two dishes for each meal, which she liked. Every time she ate with relish, I just felt like chewing wax.
Not only that, when my daughter was there, the nanny swept the floor once a day, but after my daughter left, it turned out to swept the floor once a week, and the clothes were not washed well. I used to wash it by hand, but now I just put it directly on the washing machine. This is nothing. What makes me angry the most is that she actually put my shoes and clothes together to wash them, and I was just watching short videos next to me. I almost fainted at that time. This nanny is so bold!
I fired this nanny for various reasons. I originally thought that this kind of nanny was just an isolated case. I would find a suitable one, but I didn't expect that I found a few more, but I never thought that I was too lazy to find one. In the end, I was too lazy to find it. Anyway, I was in good health, so I learned to cook by myself. There was no need to ask my children to spend money to hire a nanny for me.
I just didn't expect that I had a stroke the year before yesterday. Although I saved my life, I was lame with one leg. I always had to stay with a crutch when I walked. At this time, my two children said that I would not let me live alone. They discussed living in the family for half a year and insisted that I follow them to the city to retire.
I always felt that it had caused trouble for them, but at the same time I felt very relieved. Now I have been retired with my children for two years. In the past two years, my son accompanied me for rehabilitation training, my daughter-in-law cooked and washed me, my daughter chatted with me to relieve boredom, and my son-in-law was also very polite to me. I was particularly satisfied with my current life. I really didn’t expect that I spent money to live in a nursing home and hired a nanny. In the end, what I really reliable is my relatives. After all, I am a child with blood thicker than water. There must be a difference from the services I spent money to buy. Now I am the real happiness!
