I am 75 years old, and my three sons are unfilial. My neighbor's son wants to support me. I called him the 800,000 yuan demolition payment, but he knelt down.
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My name is Lao Zhao, I am 75 years old this year, a farmer in Shaoguan, Guangdong, and has three sons.
I am getting older and older, and I want my three sons to support me.
The eldest son and the second son settled their home in the city, and the younger son stayed in the village. After just two floors, I went to find my younger son first.
The youngest son said that the old man could not live in a new home. He owed a lot of money to get the house and wanted to go out to work to pay off his debts.
I called my eldest son and second son.
The eldest son said that his company went bankrupt, the house was auctioned, and he rented a very small house to live in, and could not squeeze it.
The second son said that the second daughter-in-law had just been pregnant with the third child. He had to work and take care of his wife and two children, and he had no time.
02
Everyone says to raise children to prevent old age, but I worked hard to raise three sons, but none of them can rely on when I am old.
I sat at the door, sighing and crying.
Lao Wang passed by next door and asked me what was wrong.
I just told the story of my three unfilial sons.
Old Wang comforted me, since my sons have difficulties, he can ask his younger son A Gang to take care of me.
That night, A Gang really came.
He brought the food, washed my dirty clothes, put water on the shower, and made the bed and folded the quilt.
After that, A Gang came every day.
I want to pay for food and wages, but A Gang didn't charge it and said that I didn't eat much, but I just added a pair of chopsticks at home. Those little jobs are all casual and nothing.
He also reassured me that he would give me a care for my old age and see me off.
Lao Wang raised such a filial son, which made me lucky.
is the youngest son of a neighbor. He is so kind to me, an old man, and he doesn't want to pay him any more. What is he trying to do?
I'm very curious.
03
I am a 70-year-old man who can't grow the land or do work. I have nothing but the hundreds of dollars given to my sons every month.
There are a few old houses, which are not worth much.
Last month, the village suddenly said it was going to demolish. The two old houses at the entrance of my village are within the demolition scope, and it is estimated that they can be distributed to 800,000 yuan.
The three sons got the message and came back soon.
The eldest son said he just rented a four-bedroom and a living room, and wanted to take me over to take care of my old age.
The second son said he wanted to hire a nanny to take care of me.
The third son said he was not working anymore and came back to serve me.
I know that they came for the demolition payment.
I said that Lao Wang’s youngest son took good care of me and didn’t need them anymore.
The sons said I was confused. They must have received news of the demolition a long time ago and deliberately calculated my demolition payment.
But isn’t my own son also here to calculate my demolition payment? I raise all ungrateful wolves. If I don’t have money, I will dislike you. If I have money, I will rob you.
I scolded them away.
But I was also thinking in my heart, could A Gang, the youngest son of Lao Wang next door, really come for my demolition money?
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Ah, I came back again, and I deliberately looked for trouble every time, either thinking the food was unpalatable, or I beat the food, or even pee in my pants.
He didn't say anything, but he still cleaned up happily and comforted me.
The day before yesterday, I pulled it in my pants. He didn't frown, so he helped me clean it up.
I couldn't help it and knocked him with a crutch: What's your intention? You can tolerate it more than serving me. Is it the idea of hitting me for the demolition money?
A Gang suddenly knelt down and said that if he had any thoughts, he would be struck by lightning.
He said that I had saved him, and I was his reborn parents. It was his right to support me in old age, and it was also agreed by his father Lao Wang.
It turned out that when Ah Gang was 6 years old, he went to the reservoir to play, fell into the water, and almost drowned. I happened to pass by and rescued him.
This happened 30 years ago. If he didn't mention it, I wouldn't remember it. Unexpectedly, he and his family kept it in their hearts. Knowing that their sons were unwilling to take care of me, I came to repay my kindness.
A Gang said he could hire a lawyer to notarize, and he would not ask me for a penny.
I knew I misunderstood him, but I still drove him away.
I closed the door and burst into tears.
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Yesterday, Ah Gang came again. I closed the door and refused to let him in. He put the lunch box at the door and left.
I know he will come tomorrow, but I dare not accept his affection again.
People in the village say that if I have the demolition money, I can spend my old age in peace.
But this demolition payment made me even more troubled.
If they were given to their three sons, they would definitely not pay attention to me after they received the money. I knew them too well and saw through them.
Of course, I also want to be tough, like what I saw in the news, give all or part of the money to A Gang, but the three sons will definitely not give up, and they may do something.
Even if as A Gang said, he would not take me a penny to ask a lawyer to make a statement, but my sons would probably still cause trouble for him. After all, there is no such stupid person in the world, who believes it?
I don’t want to cause trouble to A Gang, I don’t want him to have a good life because I was disturbed, but I don’t have A Gang, who will take care of me again?
I am really upset.
Postscript:
Lao Zhao, it's really hard for you. When you were not rich, you were disliked by your son. Now you have money, and you are worried that A Gang, who helped you, will be hurt.
Raise children to prevent old age, plant trees to cool down . Children have the responsibility to support their parents. If the sons still refuse to take the responsibility, they can sue.
Of course, this will tear the face and hurt family affection. It is recommended to negotiate, and harmony is the most important thing.
demolition payment is recommended to be divided into three parts, part of which is your pension fee, including medical care, daily life and other expenses. Part of
is used as a care fee. The sons are unwilling to take care of them, or they cannot take care of them due to family work. They can hire a nanny, or a hourly worker, or even ask A Gang to take care of them.
can pay wages at the market price, so that your sons cannot object, and you will not feel guilty, and A Gang also repays his kindness.
And this method is longer and can ensure that you are well cared for in your later years.
also has a part as inheritance. If children and grandchildren are filial, they can be collected. If they are unfilial, they will be deemed to be automatically given up. Please consult a lawyer for details.
I wish you a solution to your problems as soon as possible and have a good health in your old age!
Friends, Lao Zhao is really too difficult. If you have any suggestions, please leave a message in the comment area~
