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Let me first talk about an example.
A girl and her boyfriend are in an online relationship.
Coincidentally, two people live in the same city. During the holiday, they made an appointment to travel. They had a lot of fun in two days and three nights. The relationship was naturally one step closer. They only opened one room in the hotel.
After this, the girl felt that since the two people have developed into one person, men must be better for themselves.
So, he proposed to let the boy go to her house and let her parents meet.
But at this time the boy was abnormal and said coldly to her: The unit wants me to go back to work overtime, and I have no time to go.
Later, the girl asked him for dinner several times, but he repeatedly didn't want to go out. Even the girl came to his house to find him. He was lazy and ignored him.
The girl resented: It turned out to be a scumbag, and her previous attentiveness was fake.
I said: Then what do you think? Are you going to break up?
She answered that she was reluctant to give up. After all, this boy was very nice to her before, and he did not flirt with other girls, but was just occasionally cold to her.
However, just two days later, she left another message saying: We broke up, he doesn't love me at all.
It turned out that day she went to find her boyfriend, and the two were still tired of it. At this time, the boy's real sister came to him, but when he introduced her, the boy said bluntly: This is an ordinary friend.
And when his sister left, the boy got angry at her and resented the girl who acted too close to him in front of his sister. The girl broke up in anger, and the boy immediately agreed.
can be seen that in this farce, boys are just addicted to ambiguity, while girls have fallen in love.
-02-
Boys’ real psychology of “having relationships”
In fact, men are very open-minded about “having relationships”.
Facing an emotion, he will show two attitudes: either he is dating you very seriously and pursuing the goal of getting married; or he just wants to get your skin and play with you for a short time.
So, for someone who truly loves you, it should be a natural development for you to be together, which is very natural and peaceful.
And, if a man plays with you briefly, he will most likely keep drawing big pie for you, because he will long to get you at the lowest cost.
is like, he will often say, "When I have money, I will buy you something", "Don't worry, I will do the housework in our family in the future", "I will take care of you for the rest of my life", "I will support you"...
In short, the beauty of words will make women feel like they meet love immediately.
Moreover, men are born with a hint of "attack" mentality. They will especially want to get what they like. They will "fight" for everyone, and they will have the desire to surpass others. Therefore, even if they don't like you, if they can sleep until you are over, it can become their ultimate goal.
We always watch such plots in movies and TV dramas.
men obviously don’t love him, but when facing a girl who everyone pursues, he immediately had an idea. After finally getting the woman’s heart, he secretly took photos and showed off to the people around him.
So, "having relationships" is nothing to men.
-03-
Women’s psychology about “having relationships”
Most Chinese women will have a milestone sense of ritual for “having relationships”.
Especially, for the man she likes, she will not get joy from it, but will think that she has suffered a great loss, and the man must compensate her afterwards.
In fact, women have this kind of psychology, the root cause is that they can't figure out whether a man loves himself or not, and even hold the idea of "I don't have something happen to him, and he will break up with me", and at a loss for a bed with the other party.
Then, you will suddenly feel the thinking of "I am bullied", "I must let the other party marry me", "He wants to compensate me" and so on, so you can find a solution to your current confusion.
So, when women are in love, they must make themselves as mature as possible.
That is to say, you must have the courage to bear the consequences for what you have done.
If you are not sure that the other person is the person you love, or you have already felt that there is a gap in your love, and you can be sure that there is no possibility of getting married at all, then you must know how to protect yourself first.
Love should be certain, it is the two people who nourish each other, rather than withering and dying after checking in a room.
There are always some women who start to regret, be sad, sad, feel that men don’t love them, and feel that they have suffered grievances. These are the anxiety you have not handled your own psychological well before.
So, women, escape one night stand and avoid falling in love with scumbags, the important thing is to figure out your own psychology before having sex.
In this way, you can not be entangled and not be miserable and miserable.
-04-
Most of the time women know whether men love themselves or not
I still remember that a reader once sent a message saying.
When her boyfriend is with her, he always touches her hands and even makes requests to make her uncomfortable. She loves him very much and is afraid that she will always refuse, and men will break up.
is visible. At this time, it is time to test whether two people are truly in love.
Women can try to ask themselves: Do you really love him?
Most of the time she would say "love very much", but you can think about it, if you love him very much, why would you reject him?
In fact, you are not sure about his love, and you don’t know what direction you will develop in the future, so you are so wandering.
So, most women can only say with certainty whether that man really loves himself after having sex.
This is mainly due to these two reasons:
First: Love always makes people lose their minds.
There are always some girls who, once they fall into love, will immediately devote themselves to it without caring about the consequences. In short, love first.
However, after being succeeded by a man, he repeatedly regretted it and scolded himself for getting on the pirate ship.
In fact, a woman treats an emotion in her heart. Even if you are obsessed with it, if you are not sure in your heart whether he will still love you as always after having sex with him, then the relationship between you has not developed to the point of "love".
That is to say, you haven't loved him particularly yet.
And he did not show the attitude of "you must be".
So, in this case, it is best to date for a while and take your time. After you understand his thoughts, you will understand why you will hesitate when he makes a request.
For example, if you refuse repeatedly, he will begin to show his indifference to you, impatientness, and even find trouble to argue with you. Such a man is not worthy of your nostalgia.
and if he flirts with other girls and uses his scheming to anger you, making you take the initiative to sacrifice yourself because you are worried about losing him... Such a man is even more unworthy of your attention.
Second: There is no love, only sex, such a relationship will not last long.
Human beings live to this day, love is always at the forefront in the relationship between the two genders.
So, women, you must understand that a person who truly loves you will be well aware of the principle of "take it slow" and "we have a lifetime of time together".
If he truly loves you, he will come to you and understand you bit by bit; he will test whether you have a consistent view of your values and equal values in your little relationships; he will carefully measure whether you will have a future, and he will sincerely show you the desire to marry you and be your wife...
And a man who just wants to get you faster, his "urgency", his "arrogance", and his "scheming" will make you feel suspicious and uneasy from the bottom of your heart. These are also manifestations of his not truly loving you.
You must be sober. In the love between men and women, sincerity and attentiveness are the main themes of love.
So, when you say this, you should understand, what should you do when a man invites you to go out and wants to live with you? #Seven Days of Love Warming Plan#
Author, calm fox
picture, Internet
May you find the deep affection in my words in the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!
