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I am Aunt Liu, 57 years old this year, my husband is 3 years older than me, and we have a daughter.
My husband has always felt very sorry because we didn’t have a second child. I know his idea very well, just want a son.
Back then, because I gave birth to a daughter, my mother-in-law didn’t like me and didn’t take care of me during the confinement period. Not only that, my daughter has not taken care of her for a day since she was a child.
Fortunately, my sister-in-law gave birth to a son, and my mother-in-law did not continue to talk to us.
With a grandson, the mother-in-law put all her energy into her grandson. I felt unfair in my heart, but I could do nothing.
Later, we moved to the county town to live, and we were completely away from our mother-in-law and the world became quiet.
went to the county town, and my husband's small business was doing well. He always subsidized his sister-in-law's family openly and secretly, and I always turned a blind eye.
The only thing I rejected him was that back then, my mother-in-law wanted her sister-in-law's son to come to school in the city and live in my house. I refused.
My husband almost agreed, and I said, if he dares to agree, we will divorce. Don't think I don't know, he always secretly subsidizes them!
At that time, my husband's small business relied on my family, and in the end he compromised.
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My daughter is very outstanding, and she has always had her academic performance since she was a child.
I understand very well that she actually wants her husband to see her excellence. Because my husband always talks about her cousin in front of her daughter, he has always admired the boy in his eyes.
For this reason, I don’t know how many times I have quarreled with my husband.
However, the more I don’t have it, the more I want it. My husband is really nice to his nephew.
Every time I buy something good, even if my family of three goes out, he will think about buying one for his nephew.
is just noisy and noisy. When her daughter grows up, she is admitted to a key university. My husband's nephew always comes last in the class and often gets into trouble.
My nephew graduated from junior high school and failed to get into high school. It was her husband who paid him to go to technical secondary school. By then, my daughter was already in graduate school.
This is the gap.
I know very well that my husband and his family treat my nephew as a treasure. The more they spoiled like this, the more incompetent the child was.
And my daughter is my pride. Although my in-laws kept saying that no matter how outstanding my daughter is, she will not be the water she has poured out in the future. But he is always ten thousand times more powerful than his nephew's ruffian.
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After her daughter graduated from graduate school, she went to Suzhou to work. She has not been in love in the past few years.
She didn't meet her son-in-law until she was 29 years old. My son-in-law is a native of Suzhou. He has 4 demolition houses at home and the conditions are very good.
The daughter, who is 31 years old this year, married her son-in-law and gave her a bride gift according to our notes, and gave her 180,000 yuan. My daughter said that all the money is left to my husband and I, and it is not easy for us to raise her.
Two years ago, she had already bought a small apartment with her own efforts, so she would treat it as her own dowry.
Borrow gift is placed in a card and the password is the daughter's birthday. My daughter gave me this card, and after I got it, I didn't think about using it. I plan to give it to them later when my grandson or granddaughter is born.
Unexpectedly, one week after my daughter got married, my husband asked me what card was when he came back?
Which card do I think is it?
My husband said it was the one given by my daughter, and her bride price was stored in it.
I asked my husband why he suddenly asked this? I saved the money.
He said that his nephew is about to get married, and the woman is asking for a 180,000 yuan bride price. His brother just bought a wedding house for his child and had no money on hand. He thought that my daughter's bride price could be used to subsidize her nephew. Anyway, they are all family.
My husband also said that this idea was come up with by my mother-in-law.He also felt that it was OK. We also keep the money, so it is better to give it to his nephew. In the future, when we get old, we will have to rely on his nephew.
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I said, I have a daughter, I don’t expect my daughter, but I count on others, it’s so funny! He didn't think about it either. Just like his nephew, he was almost 30 years old, he didn't even have a job, and he was still dependent on his parents. Can he expect it? Besides, why should my daughter’s bride price be used for his nephew?
The husband said that his nephew is the only grandson of their Yang family.
I said, my daughter is still the only granddaughter of their old Yang family.
My husband said that's different. I asked him back, why is it different?
Anyway, we can’t talk about the same thing. When my husband saw that I didn’t give him the card, he said angrily that it would be fine, divorce!
Over the years, my husband didn’t know how much subsidy he had given his family. Even if they bought a house for his nephew, he paid 100,000 yuan. Don’t think I don’t know.
I said divorce, yes, let's calculate the money we have given over the years! That is all the common property of our husband and wife. I have to take back all my money if I deserve it!
Now my husband doesn’t speak anymore.
But my heart can no longer be calm. Yes, my daughter is already married and my son-in-law treats her very well, so I feel relieved. I have long been completely disappointed with my husband and in-laws. Once the divorce is said, it will activate my heart.
After thinking for two days, I formally filed for divorce with my husband, but he still disagreed, but I didn't want to tolerate him anymore.
My husband went to ask for help from my mother. My mother, who is nearly 80 years old, advised me that I am almost 60 years old and I will have a grandson soon, so don’t bother.
However, I have endured my husband's family for a long time, and now I just want to live for myself.
I asked my daughter about her opinion, and she said respecting my choice was hard for me to endure her father for so many years.
My husband didn't want to divorce and said that he didn't want that money anymore and he didn't have to give it to his nephew. Where is there a stingy woman like me?
But our problem is not this at all.
If you meet a husband like this, will you get divorced? I hope you can give me some advice!
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fish said:
Fish said: Through Aunt Liu's description, we can see that this husband is very selfish and can't tell. He cared about his nephew, but the idea of favoring boys over girls was at work.
Aunt Liu is really able to tolerate him and has been enduring him all the time. I endured the cold eyes of my in-laws and endured the men secretly subsidized my in-laws.
Now that I am old, I can no longer hide Aunt Liu’s inner grievances and sadness through the bride price.
She was thinking about divorce.
I can see her despair.
Inseparable divorce is a personal choice. I want to say to Aunt Liu, just follow my heart.
Many of us are restricted to our own box. What a happy thing it is to be able to live for ourselves once in our lifetime.
If you have such an opportunity, cherish it!
Dear readers, what do you think? Do you support Aunt Liu’s divorce?
