In the hearts of young children, parents are the closest and most trustworthy people. This comes from parents' selfless dedication to their children, and also from their bloody family affection that cannot be separated from each other. But as children grow up, especially after they get married and start a business, family relationships often become complicated. Why did
change like this? An 48-year-old Aunt Kang said that she had a sense of inexplicable distance when she spent a holiday with her parents in . , and through her narration, what kind of insights will we have?
01
My name is Hu Wenxia, and I am a teacher in a private school in the county. My parents are ordinary farmers. I only have one sister. At that time, she resolutely married a man from another place despite her family's opposition.
The two old men did not understand and were angry about the choice of their sister because the man was not only old but also had poor family conditions. Every time they mention this, their parents sigh and complain that their sister is too willful and ignorant.
During those years, my sister rarely went home. And parents always nag, just take it as a waste of time to raise a daughter.
In order to comfort them, every Chinese New Year and Festival, our family of three quickly bought a bunch of things to visit. Under this situation, my parents became closer and closer to me, and I often praised me for being filial to outsiders.
02
More than ten years have passed. During this period, my sister and her husband made a lot of money by opening a restaurant, and bought a house and a car in the city. Not only did they go back to their hometown more often, they also helped their parents decorate their old houses and buy all kinds of home appliances.
Slowly, the parents' attitude towards their sister changed a lot, and there was no resentment or dissatisfaction anymore. Instead, every time they met, they were greeted with a smile.
I was happy from the bottom of my heart when I saw that they got along well. Don’t you say that family harmony is prosperous? What a happy thing to be harmonious and fulfilling in the family!
However, it didn't take long, but I found that I seemed to be happy too early. Because since reconciliation with my sister, my parents' eyes looked at me very differently than before.
03
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The day before National Day, my mother called and said that my sister and her family were coming back for the holiday. She repeatedly told me to buy more good wine and vegetables to send them back.
Early that morning, I hurriedly rode an electric bike and rushed to my hometown with big and small bags. Along the way, my mother called me several times in succession, and accused me of being slow and unscrupulous in doing things.
After she got home, she looked unhappy and directed me to do this and that, while complaining that I didn’t understand human nature. I felt very wronged and argued in a low voice: "My sister's family hasn't come back yet, why are you in a hurry?"
Mother immediately got angry and scolded me for not having any skills, but for not accepting discipline. What makes people even more uncomfortable is that my father made a big fuss, not his nose, not his face.
04
It was almost noon, and it started raining heavily, and my sister and her family finally got home. The father and mother immediately became excited and ran to the street to greet each other with umbrellas.
At that moment, I stood behind them, and I couldn't even say anything except helping to move things. Seeing them talking and laughing, I felt so sad, and suddenly there was an inexplicable sense of distance.
After a day, I was very depressed and always felt that at this family, I was just an insignificant outsider. But why is this happening?
Maybe it's because I've been too obedient and honest since I was a child; maybe it's because my current financial conditions are not as good as my sister, so I can't make any contribution to my family.
is written at the end:
In fact, in life, attracting the flames and forgetting the truth and seeing profits is a problem that many people have. There is no doubt that parents love their children, but on the other hand, they are also ordinary people. When facing their children, they will inevitably compare with each other and treat them differently because of their own interests.
Family is also a small "society". In addition to family affection, there are also entanglements of interests and human feelings.Whether we can accept it or not, we are willing to admit it or not, these are reality that we cannot escape.
Correct your mindset, treat it calmly, and be with it while knowing yourself while tolerating everyone around you. This is a very difficult thing to do and a thing that has to be done.
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Thank you for your reading and support, and I wish you good health and happiness!
Author: Yi Shi Juan, an emotional narrator with a cheerful personality and joking love. I am willing to accompany my teachers and friends to appreciate life and talk about life with a joke.
