What is the most intuitive reaction to like?
There have been many answers before. Some people say inferiority, some people say they feel distressed...
Actually, I think these emotions come later. The most intuitive reaction to real like is tension.
In my dad's era, an older bachelor who was not married at the age of 28 was an older bachelor, and people would be suspected of whether there was anything wrong with it.
At that time, the person who matched my dad was about to break the threshold of my grandfather's house, but when my dad looked at the photos of those girls, he usually just said "Okay, okay, go see me."
Every time he either wore flip flops or shorts, or just wore work clothes, and didn't even repair his beard seriously.
Until one day, the other party took out my mother's photo.
Dad once told his friend after drinking that looking at the girl with a ponytail in the photo, he thought it would be good to be a home for the first time, and he deeply realized that this might be a date that changed his life.
So, before meeting, my dad specially visited an old friend who had not been in contact with for more than a year. That person was the most powerful barber in the villages of the past.
He also bought new clothes and shoes specifically, and even made a new set of underwear pretentiously, and even carefully repaired his eyebrows with small scissors.
It is hard to imagine that the father, who is careless and cares about small things on weekdays, actually has such a side.
He said he was even so nervous that he tossed and turned every day and practiced his opening remarks repeatedly in front of the mirror before leaving.
Grandpa said that this is because my dad "carespect" to my mom. He wants to leave a good impression and hopes that my mom will like him more after meeting him.
So you see, when faced with important dates, not only girls will be so nervous that they repeatedly choose clothes and constantly compare which makeup is more suitable, and boys can't help but feel excited.
I remember when I was eating alone with my boyfriend for the first time. I really didn't know whether to look at his eyes or face, as if it was wrong to stare wherever I spoke, and I became incoherent.
I even asked the waiter for a spoon. Even though the meal was not used at all, its appearance still successfully saved my left hand who didn't know what to do. What made me feel a little more relaxed was his very straight manly sentence, " If you are nervous, you can look down and not look at me."
This stupid and stupid word made me notice, and he was also at a loss. He rubbed the desktop with his fingertips, and then began to unnaturally organize his glasses again.
After being together for a year, I suddenly remembered this and asked him why he said such strange things at that time.
He explained that his heart was about to stop that day, especially when his eyes met my gaze, he really couldn't predict whether he would be embarrassed in the next second, and he was worried that if he really was embarrassed, we wouldn't have a future.
The anxious and anxious mood prompted him to quickly throw out the sentence, thinking that if I didn't look up at him, maybe he could calm down quickly.
Calmness can help reason regain control of the mind, but when facing the person you like, nervousness usually instantly cleans our brains into a blank state when we are unprepared.
So, the tension during date actually means "I care very much about you" and "I have a lot of expectations for our relationship".
I often hear different arguments about this.
Some people say that if you fall in love too many times, you will become an old man. Not to mention the first time you meet, he will not panic even if you meet a few times a day.
Some people also say that if you contact more people of all types, you will master the skills of love. No matter who the other party is, experienced social experts can handle it with ease.
But you have to know that the so-called love skills can only be used on people you don’t like that.
. Be careful to find you, and what you show is actually that restless, nervous, and enthusiastic sincerity.
Eating together, you are worried that there is dirty things on your face and that it is rude in front of her; when shopping together, you are worried that she will be disgusted when she gets too close, and that she will be too far away, and that the illusion of "I don't like her."
Colleague told me that he had been studying where popcorn was placed for a long time when he was watching a movie with his girlfriend.
Let her hold it? Will she feel uncomfortable? Hold it yourself? I was embarrassed to reach out to her if I wanted to eat.
So he held the popcorn in the middle for nearly two hours. He didn't remember what was on the screen at that time, but he only remembered that he was so nervous that he had deformed the paper tube of the popcorn.
In this case, those so-called love skills really have no reference value to you.
When you really want to have someone, the answer to love will only be in the other person's hands, and in your heart she is a unique existence.
Just like a gift that belongs to you suddenly appears, you will be happy, excited, and at a loss, all because of "I really like it".
The love from the heart has never been related to gender and has always been connected with the heart. Girls will fall and boys will have nowhere to escape.
