I once heard this saying: "The person who bows his head first is often the one who cares the most."
In reality, we always hope that we are recognized and supported, but we ignore the other person's feelings.
Only after I turned around did I realize that the other party was willing to bow his head because of my inner cherishment and love for this relationship.
If we really cherish each other's relationship, we must also learn to make concessions and admit our mistakes. This is not humility or cowardice, but another way to express our concern.
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After giving in, I get grateful
The feelings between people are wonderful. Sometimes, from opponents to close friends, it may be just because you lower your head and give in.
The current Uncle Li and Uncle Wang are recognized as "iron buddies" in our town, but when they were young, they were once "mortal enemies" against tit.
Uncle Li and Uncle Wang are neighbors. There is an open space at the door of both houses. They both want to order a variety of dishes themselves, so they have a few fights every year, and they will get hurt after a long time.
Everyone thought they would be tense all the time, but in the spring of the year, the relationship quietly changed.
Early that morning, Uncle Wang saw Uncle Li growing vegetables and was about to go out to argue.
At this time, Aunt Wang grabbed Uncle Wang: "Xiao Li's mother is hospitalized. I heard that it is quite serious. Let's plant all the land this year."
Uncle Wang didn't say anything after hearing this, took out five hundred yuan from his pocket and went out.
When he saw Uncle Li, he stuffed the money directly: "I heard that the aunt is sick. You should plant this land this year. Take the money first. If you have any difficulties, you can open your mouth."
From then on, decades have passed, and there has been no conflict between the two families, but they are getting closer and closer. Uncle Wang and Aunt Wang will help Uncle Li take care of his mother. Uncle Li also helped him without hesitation when Uncle Wang was in trouble.
In reality, many feelings are made from each other; many friendships are also made from each other. We all thought that taking a step back would lead to a loss, but in fact, it won the hearts of the people.
Too often, we all lose the friendship that could have lasted for a long time because we are too stubborn.
" Caigen Tan " says: "Where the path is narrow, leave one step to walk with others; when the taste is strong, reduce three points to make people eat."
There are not so many things that must be argued for, and there are so many truths that must be serious. Instead of being sharp and mean, it is better to be gentle.
Lower your head and give in once, which does not mean giving in. However, this care can turn into deeper emotions in the future, bringing each other closer together again and again.
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admitting mistakes contains love
In the book " Human World " there is a plot: In the era of " Going to the Mountains and Going to the Countryside ", his daughter Zhou Rong ignored the opinions of her family and ran from the Northeast to Guizhou to find the "poet" she loved.
The father was very angry and distressed, and took a taxi all the way to visit his daughter. I felt uncomfortable when I saw my daughter living in a cave, wearing patched clothes.
He asked about his daughter's recent situation and thoughts, but unexpectedly, the two started arguing while chatting.
Because he was worried that Zhou Rong's remarks would involve his family, he yelled and asked his daughter to swear that he would cut off her idea of publishing a book.
Zhou Rong also shouted, "Dad, what are you going to do? On that day when I am really implicated, I will completely break off from our family!"
The more quarreled, the more Zhou Rong said, he became sadder, and he covered her face and cried loudly.
When the father saw his daughter crying, his heart broke.
I originally thought and felt sorry for my daughter, but why did I quarrel with each other unwillingly? The old father couldn't bear it and blamed himself, so he walked to his daughter and hugged her heavily: "Good daughter, don't cry, don't cry, it's because my dad is wrong, dad admits his mistake to you."
When he heard this, Zhou Rong burst into tears and smiled.Because of my father's understanding, I am no longer at a loss.
In reality, the relationship between us and our parents is like the plot in this book, with often differences and conflicts, for trivial matters in life, for feelings and future.
But in this world, there is really nothing that cannot be negotiated and reconciled between relatives. Sometimes, just one step is missing; sometimes, just not finding the right reason.
Hearing this sentence: "The person who reconciles first is not because he is afraid of losing, but because he cherishes it."
Just like Zhou Rong's father, our parents, they are actually not wrong, but many times they choose to admit their mistakes, just because they love us, just because they care more than us.
So, In family affection, we should not be too stubborn, we must argue for right and wrong, but dare to "admit our mistakes", because after reconciliation, we can feel happiness more sincerely.
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Conclusion
Writer Bing Xin said in the book:
"Life is like a pool of water, warm and agile. Know how to bend and stretch freely, learn to bow your head, this wisdom will allow you to get a turning point in the dark and bright future in difficulties."
There will always be unsatisfactory feelings. If you are in the same place because of stubbornness, you will inevitably lose some unnecessary things.
is worse than that. Let go of your inner strength and so-called face, take the initiative to embrace it, and believe that you will always turn the cold into warmth.
For the rest of our life, I hope we can not be trapped by feelings, not be tired of obsession, live a good life and love well.
