A girl once asked me this. The boyfriend she is dating now is very honest and does not have the hobby of smoking or drinking. As for the bad habits such as gambling and prostitution in society, it has nothing to do with him. But the only disadvantage is that his income is only about 5,000 yuan per month. So the girl has been struggling whether she still wants to continue dating this boy?
After I heard this, I asked her with a smile: "Do you hope that your male vote will neither smoke nor drink? You will not get involved in those bad habits in society, and it is best to have a monthly salary of about 50,000?"
I couldn't help but thought of such a sentence: "Ideals are full, but reality is very skinny." In fact, this girl has really met such an excellent boy. Can she have the ability to grow old with him with blessings?
In fact, the essence of marriage is to jointly invest and form a joint venture between husband and wife. Then, we will operate and develop together. Therefore, it is very important to match the chips of both sides with their respective conditions. This is also a necessary condition for marriage to last for a long time. This bargaining chip is not just a simple material wealth or appearance, but also a lot of other factors. For example, one party has strong economic strength, but the other party has extensive connections and social relationships to help the other half develop their careers better, or have good coordination and management skills, and manage their families in an orderly manner, so that their partners can work hard outside without distraction. Or one party is wise enough to provide sufficiently clever advice to the other half so that his partner can make correct judgments and avoid straying or failure. These are also manifestations of various bargaining chips in marriage. It is also an important cornerstone of marriage stability. (Of course, other basic aspects, such as appearance, a healthy body, and child factors are also essential considerations for stabilizing marriage).
Only when these factors (or chips) are in a relatively equal state can marriage last for a long time. I also remember a famous writer once said: "If a couple, one is watching entertainment programs and the other is reading financial books, such a couple may be separated sooner or later." Perhaps this is the best advice for a stable marriage.
Back to the question itself. Different women have different pursuits for marriage. Very good girls. The material conditions themselves are rich enough, so the material requirements for the man are not very high, but they pay more attention to other factors such as the other person's character and personality. If there is such a boy who neither smokes, drinks nor does he drinks, and does not have all kinds of bad habits, and the two of them have a crush on each other, they can also get married and form a family. But we cannot ignore another uncertainty hidden in this marriage: Such a girl will definitely have a strong side in her personality and will also have a high spirit. She will definitely show her superiority intentionally or unintentionally in future marriages. After a long time, or after the new period of the marriage is over, will the boy who has no bad habits but has a monthly salary of only 5,000 yuan continue to be attractive to his wife? Or can this boy continue to maintain this marriage in such an invisible and depressing environment for a long time? These questions may be worthy of everyone's consideration.
There is another situation in that some girls are full of longing for love and marriage. Perhaps the requirements for the man’s material conditions are not very high, and he only hopes to find a man who has no bad habits and is good to him as his partner. If she meets such a boy, she will also walk together and live a plain, stable and happy life. However, the social environment we are in now is a fiercely competitive society, and everyone is working hard to have a better life for themselves. A family faces daily expenses, including food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, bills, and other expenses.It is difficult to support all these material needs with a monthly salary of 5,000 yuan.
Therefore, even if you finally form a family, you still need to work hard and struggle to make your family's life better and better. There is a Chinese saying, "A poor couple is sad for everything." All beautiful love will be slowly erased in daily life. It is hard to say what direction of marriage will be in the future. There is another point that everyone may ignore. That is human nature. Human nature is fickle and unfathomable. At this point in time, a girl may choose a person who has no bad habits but has a lower salary as her partner. However, as time goes by, if the girl's knowledge becomes more and more extensive and her ability to make money is getting higher and higher, then when she looks at her husband who has a monthly salary of only 5,000 yuan, what changes will her psychology occur? I believe everyone will understand this after thinking about it carefully.
Back to the topic itself, I suddenly thought of a big shot once said, "If a man." Actually, a man without any hobbies. In a sense, it is very terrible. It is best for a person to have some shortcomings or bad hobbies. Such a life may be more balanced. A person who looks almost perfect on the surface must have a more terrifying side in some other aspects. In fact, for men, smoking occasionally may relieve the pressure, and drinking occasionally can also make you feel happy. Excessive dose is not good.
However, gambling and prostitution are absolutely not allowed. How many people in ancient and modern times have fallen into gambling and lost their entire family and lost their families? Because it stimulates the unearthed subconscious hidden deep in people's hearts, and it is like a mental drug that makes people unable to extricate themselves.
I believe the same is true for prostitution. Putting aside the moral level, if a man is often not very careful about his private life, then the chaotic magnetic field and energy on the other party will also pollute the man during his exchange with other women. Because the woman has exchanged magnetic fields and energy with many other and more men, you can imagine how chaotic and unclean the magnetic fields of such a boy will be in the future. I believe that his life and career will be a mess. So from this level, we can understand why the ancients said, "0,000 evil lust is the leader" "
In short, marriage is a major event in life, and there are many factors and reasons for the stability of marriage. It also requires both parties to have enough wisdom and ability to work hard together. At the same time, you also need to have enough vision and wisdom to choose your life partner. Finally we will be together until we grow old. Do you agree with
or above?
