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Many times, we will find a sad phenomenon. When I was a child, relatives who were laughing and playing together and grew up together seemed to have become increasingly weak as they grow older.
Some people would rather interact with friends who are not related to their blood than deal with some relatives. It's not because of power, nor because of personality.
just staying with each other, and then I found that each other was no longer the simple and flawless children when I was a child. It is the same thing to understand each other on the road to growth.
Many times, we will find that some of the feelings that should belong to relatives are becoming increasingly weak. If the following three situations occur between relatives, it is better to stop kinship and save each other from suffering.
1. Losing empathy power
The biggest harm in interacting with people is losing empathy. The same is true between relatives. Many relatives always think it is easy for others to make money and it is easy for them to live a good life.
cannot feel the pain of others. I won't think about it for others. When he started to borrow money, he could not tolerate others saying nothing. I will not understand at all whether others are nervous or whether others have other difficulties.
In short, if I ask for a loan, you have to lend it to me, and you can't tolerate others' hesitation. Little do we know that everyone has inconvenient times and they rely on their own hard work to make a living.
What relatives fear most is losing empathy and not putting themselves in their shoes. There is no understanding or support for other people's lives.
Relatives are people with blood relationships. We must treat each other well. When we encounter difficulties and seek help from relatives, we must consider the problem from the other party’s perspective.
even if the final result is not as good as you imagined, don’t complain. At this time, we need the power of empathy to resolve inner entanglements and unhappiness.
2. Losing the sense of boundaries
Even for relatives who have a good relationship, you should still protect each other's sense of boundaries and don't touch that line easily, otherwise there will be no place for relatives to do.
Perhaps when we were kids, we were friends and relatives who had a good time, and even more so. But as time goes by, everyone will change on the road to growth.
Relatives must maintain a good sense of boundaries. Don’t inquire about other people’s savings and wages, and don’t inquire about other people’s private lives.
If you accidentally know the private affairs of your relatives’ home, you must remember to keep your mouth shut. Don’t just think that you are a relative and you can promote it everywhere.
Touch the sense of boundaries once or twice, perhaps because we are embarrassed to say anything due to face. But over time, we must stay away from such relatives.
Relatives who have no sense of boundaries have been around for a long time. We will become increasingly unable to restrain our words and deeds, and we must stay away from them.
3. Losing credit
Trust is the cornerstone of interaction between people. Only trust can you go further, and relatives are no exception. On the contrary, trust between relatives is more important.
For those relatives who have no credit, you should stay away as soon as possible to save you more and more trouble. In this society, strangers pay attention to the same credit.
If relatives lose their credit, it is better if such relatives break off their relatives. My friend opened a small decoration company, , and the income is good. One day, his cousin was already nervous and had to borrow 10,000 yuan and promised to return it in half a month.
However, a month has passed, and not only did my cousin not repay the money, he borrowed 20,000 yuan from his friend, promising to return it with the previous 10,000 yuan. My friend thought that his cousin might have encountered difficulties, so he generously donated.
This time, my cousin sank the sea after borrowing money, and later my friend asked him for money.Not only did my cousin say that he had no money, he also promoted his friends to be petty and that when he had money, he would not care about family affection.
If a person loses the most basic credit, it means that the big tree has no roots and may collapse at any time. You should stay away as soon as possible to avoid hurting yourself.
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