Many women missed the best age for marriage for various reasons, so it became increasingly difficult on the road to marriage.
The urging of parents and the external vision have made many older women uneasy. Many men have a prejudice against older women, and even speak out that they would rather find a woman who is married than an older single woman.
The age limit for women is nothing more than appearance and childbirth, but in fact, for modern women, they still have good skin condition and personal conditions in their 30s.
But many men still subconsciously think that older women must have something wrong, so they are left behind.
Mr. Yang was 34 years old. When he asked his friend to help introduce his blind date, he had a clear requirement, that is, the age must be less than 28 years old.
His friends all thought that Mr. Yang cared about women's appearance, so he had requirements for age.
Mr. Yang’s real idea is that the love history of older leftover women is relatively complicated, and they have a lot of social experience and have formed their own thinking patterns, which are difficult to control.
The theory he proposed that "a good man will not marry a leftover woman" originated from his own emotional experience.
Mr. Yang had an unforgettable relationship when he was 31 years old. The woman is the same age as Mr. Yang. The two get along well with each other and have already talked about marriage.
However, an accident made him know that a woman had multiple exes and was very fun when she was young. I may not be able to have children in the future, but now I just want to find an honest person to take over.
Mr. Yang recalled at this time that the two of them were not confidants, but just a woman’s rich love experience, which allowed her to accurately control Mr. Yang’s psychology and behavior and then cater to him.
This relationship made Mr. Yang silent for a long time, and then he started a blind date again under the urging of his family. But his request this time is: for women under 28 years old, divorced and without children.
In fact, many men have clear purpose in getting married, and it is nothing more than to pass on the family line, so they attach more importance to fertility. When encountering men who regard childbirth as a prerequisite, no matter how outstanding the leftover women are, it is difficult for men to recognize them.
Of course, not all unmarried older women have many love history, but Mr. Yang said he dare not take this risk.
So, older leftover women have wasted their years. What kind of life will they face in the future with the probability? There are only these three points.
Marrying the older man who was left behind
The reason why many older single women have never entered marriage is not like men, who have no financial ability and cannot get married. On the contrary, because I am too independent and look down on those men with average conditions.
But the problem is that excellent men usually care about women's age, and excellent men themselves do not lack the things that high-quality older leftover women hold in their hands.
So to the end, many older single women who don’t want to be single can only be forced to compromise and choose a do-it-all marriage.
Perhaps this man is in a worse condition than the men who went on blind dates at that time, but in many cases, the increase in age puts women in desperate situations.
So, those older men who were left over by other women entered their choice range.
When a woman is in her twenties, she will be calmer if she doesn’t meet someone who is satisfied and feels that she still has a lot of time. But when a woman is over 30 years old, she will become hasty in her mentality and will easily make blind choices.
Although the quality of these men we meet is getting worse and worse, many women still choose to marry each other due to their age to complete the superficial integrity.
Marry a divorced man with a history of marriage
Although the marriage age has been repeatedly postponed, men and women in their 30s generally have their own lovers or partners.
So many women of the age who are over 30 want to get married but don’t want to find the men who are also selected, so they will focus on divorced men of the age who have a history of marriage. Men like
have both advantages and disadvantages. On the one hand, they have had a failed relationship, and after some experience, they will cherish their marriage more, and some of them have not bad economic foundation.
The disadvantage is that it will be commented by people around you, or that some men already have their own descendants in the previous marriage. This will largely affect the intimacy between the two people in the future.
Of course, divorce is no longer as difficult as before. A marriage cannot continue, and many people are unwilling to choose to settle down.
. Some older leftover women with average conditions may initially resist someone introducing divorced people to them, but when they gradually recognize the environment and their abilities around their lives, they can only accept it helplessly.
Many women’s compromises are nothing more than being forced by secular pressure, and whether they really want marriage.
Walking alone for a lifetime
Of course, the rest of the life of an older single woman is not only "to settle". You can also choose another way of life, such as having fun.
Many people feel that it will be very desolate to spend the rest of their life alone, but some people enjoy this state very much. If they can't meet the right person, they don't want to force themselves.
There is a probability of love. No matter how old you are, soul mates are rare. If you really can't meet, you can only make yourself better and better, and become a person who can also be strong and support a better life.
is just like the unmarried Yu Feihong said: "I think marriage is not a particularly difficult multiple-choice question for me. Many people get married for others. I am not that anxious. What I care more about is whether I feel comfortable and whether I can do what I want to do."
It is true that when you live alone, your love needs may no longer be so high. As long as you have the confidence to not live a muddy and deserted life, you can live a comfortable and real life alone.
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