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Recently, I saw a news story that seems to be quite far from our lives. It happened in Canada, but it inspired me a lot of life.
Simply put, it is an ordinary family with love, whose life suddenly "exploded".
Middle-aged parents found that their eldest daughter's vision was getting worse and worse. They would not see clearly the obstacles and hit the cabinet when walking at night, and they could not distinguish the direction. But no cause was found. Finally, they gave their daughter a complete gene map . After three years of complex medical screening, they came to the exact conclusion:
, a very rare genetic disease, retinal pigment lesions. Even worse news is that there is currently no treatment for medicine. You can only monitor regularly to observe changes in your vision.
There are even worse things, and their 7-year-old and 5-year-old sons were also diagnosed with the disease.
Children's eyesight will become worse day by day and will be completely blind in middle age.
This made the most straightforward decision for parents and had to set out immediately and see the world. retains as much visual memory as possible for children before they are completely blind. They want to let their children know what an elephant looks like? What color is the sunset? Go to Southeast Asia, go to , Tanzania, , go to the desert, and go to the sea.
This is a story full of courage and love in normal times. But at present, the global epidemic is changing, and the travel dates have been postponed and cancelled again and again, and this journey has become uncertain.
Sure enough, the family's itinerary changed again and again, and they also updated their plans for change on social networking sites. But one thing has not changed is their belief in traveling, "L’urgence de voir la beauté du monde".
is translated into Chinese, called "the urgency of seeing the beauty of the world". How urgent is
? I felt from this detail that my eldest daughter said to her mother during a summer night camping, , mom, I can’t see the stars anymore.
Her eyesight is so poor that she can't see the stars in the night sky.
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I have also felt that my eyesight is getting worse and worse recently.
is not medical, but psychological. I can't see many things clearly, the colors are bright and exciting. Will lose focus. Gradually, I lost interest in these things.
is OK for many things. It’s okay to lie down, sit down, don’t go out; it’s okay to fall in love, break up, get married, don’t get married. has no "I insist on forcing it" paranoia.
until I encountered another story. A story that seems to have nothing to do with the above.
A Korean drama a few years ago, the girl and her boyfriend had a fierce quarrel. For the lifestyle of girls. The two are childhood friends, they met each other at a young age, and they have a good relationship. After graduating from college, the girl has been working odd jobs and not doing formal jobs. Today is in a convenience store and tomorrow is in a fried chicken store. If you are on tight, add another supermarket to cashier. She likes this state of freedom.
But her boyfriend doesn't like it. My boyfriend is an architectural designer, with good business skills and good industry prospects. The boyfriend hopes that his girlfriend will live a "normal" life, even if she doesn't make money, she will at least do a full-time job.
The argument broke out. My boyfriend introduced the girl to the elders in the family. He saw that he liked the girl very much, and he was very happy when he mentioned that he was dating her. Until he talks about career, he lied.
Elder asked, "What do you do?"
boyfriend answered, "She is taking the postgraduate entrance examination."
The girl collapsed completely. In the car, she asked her boyfriend why she didn't know her? She doesn't want much, less money, less complex interpersonal relationships, and more space for freedom.
boyfriend argued, too worried.The girl said firmly, "Why should I worry? I am very good, I live my life more seriously than anyone else, I like me very much."
"I live seriously than anyone else" , this sentence suddenly seemed to awaken me.
I would like to introduce two more words to the girl's life. She rented a house and didn't make much money, but she lived in an orderly manner, kept accounts, spent reasonably, and did not have a difficult life. She has a strong energy, loves friends, prepares birthday parties for everyone to accompany her broken friends through difficulties.
So I believe this sentence in her mouth, "I am living seriously than anyone else."
and let me immediately examine my life:
Am I living seriously?
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Recently, people often talk about it and want some good news to be a heart-boosting agent.
I carefully screened it in my memory and found that the good news that gave me energy was "I am living seriously than anyone else."
For example, look at Big S to get married. The couple went to shoot fashion magazines, S Hearing her husband and a photographer he met, "Hi, long time no see, let me introduce you to my new husband."
She said she had enough of everything about marriage, remarrying, and not having a wedding ring. The husband had a ring tattoo on both of them.
She said that she was also worried. "From childhood to adulthood, my life has been filled with fear almost every day. Whether it is the original family or the family I formed afterwards, there are all kinds of pressures and burdens on me. I face every day of my life like a warrior, but after meeting Oppa, everything became different. At first, I was afraid that everyone would not accept it, and I was afraid that everyone would think I was crazy."
She also said, when did you feel the truth of life?
"But life is not as long as you imagined. I feel those processes very deeply. After marrying Oppa, there was no opposition around me, and I felt the happiness I never imagined. Sometimes when I sleep in the middle of the night, I think I am dreaming, but as long as I touch his bald head, I know that these are true."
For example, seeing Su Min divorced. I really feel that she is brave. This year, she filed for divorce from her husband. Her husband dragged his left but didn't cooperate. She couldn't wait any longer and drove away. The next stop was Hebei, and she went to take the C6 driver's license. The cap is 60 years old, she is 58 this year. After getting a C6 driver's license, you can open a larger drag-type RV .
I don’t know where her end is. In the eyes of others, this is wandering. But in my eyes, this is rushing. A stream of primitive energy in the heart is rushing.
and they are more serious than anyone else.
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This is also what I want to tell these stories together today.
What is urgent? Our eyesight is beginning to blur.
is to preserve our visual memory as much as possible, to make the memory thicker and thicker, to see a star in the night sky, to love, and to live like this kind of paranoia.
For example, a reader I just received, she held a wedding on the top floor in Chengdu. Everything on the scene was temporary, the veil was sewn by my mother, the foot pads on the ground were picked up from the parking lot, the host was the sister, and the photographer was the younger brother.
But there is one thing that is certain: at this moment, we must love each other.
For example, the family of three is still on the road, and the children's vision is getting worse day by day, but the beautiful visual memories retained are getting more and more day by day.
I remembered a documentary "Long Live the Life of ".
director filmed a blind couple. The couple spends Mid-Autumn Festival in the dark and drinks together.They clinked their glasses, but they couldn't even touch a piece of the cup, but they were still happy.
Uncle said, "In this world, there are many lives, there are cows and horses, I was able to be reincarnated into life in order to enjoy the benefits of happiness in life, right? "
"Come on, do it, come on, last one!"
Someone asked the director why he named it "Long Live Life"?
This is the director's answer:
"Life is certainly difficult, but in life we must have a belief that this belief is upward. We must always see the good aspects of life and the direction worth working on, so as not to let our lives sink."
What can we do now?
——Life is more serious than anyone else.
Written by: Xiaoxing
Editor: Dingding
Xu Zhuoyun once said to young people:
asked me to give you experience, but I did not reserve it.
does not have the "secret" mentioned by Jin Yong .
I worked hard,
Live with your heart,
I don’t care about it any day.
